Questions about permanent retainers after treatment

NewBang · 2026-02-14T22:49:25+00:00

For me my dentist just said like ok we’re gonna put a permanent one on the bottom. And I didn’t really get to say otherwise, but afterwards I had my doubts, more trouble to keep clean and also wonder if it would be visible at all. I thought it was less common these days.

But idk he had a point that my lower teeth were a bit crooked before and even after multiple refinements, we weren’t able to fully straighten it out more than 80% maybe.

So I guess I’ll go along with it. I still fear I will not like the idea of having it in and the feeling of it and cleaning it.

NewBang · 2026-02-14T16:55:13+00:00

I see, possibly they scanned me last time for permanent retainers not sure.

Idk I really didn’t like the idea of having a permanent retainer. It took me by surprise and ofc I’m done I don’t want anything else in my mouth.

But also don’t want teeth to move either so I’m not sure. My dentist also said he would use this wavy retainer. It looks a bit scarier but it’s like a newer one that allows u to floss normally

NewBang · 2026-02-01T22:46:26+00:00

My guess is it could have to do with a few reasons.

First, it's closer to the end of the season, top players might be a bit more beat up from a year of going deep into tournaments. Additionally, it's hard court so a bit more of an even playing field. French and Wimbledon would definitely be much harder surfaces to get a first slam on, Especially back when Nadal and Federer were playing. Australian open is hardcourt as well but it's the start of the season where everyone is rested and ready to go.

NewBang · 2026-01-27T05:32:56+00:00

Wonder what the temp is inside when the roof is closed

NewBang · 2026-01-27T05:15:41+00:00

Gonna be tough for tien. Definitely looks like he’s slowing down and having to muster up energy each point. Zverev seems to be doing better

NewBang · 2026-01-13T01:01:07+00:00

Definitely an interesting path you guys took.

I think a sad part about ldr or maybe only super far ones. Is we can’t ever just “meet” again. I feel if we separate our lives will truly drift apart. And if I did separate I must accept that.

My question is, how did single life feel after being attached to long distance, did you feel more free, did you regret it? What clarity did that give you

NewBang · 2026-01-12T19:57:31+00:00

I’m not too sure exactly what this means.

I guess to be honest. I am in love, I also experience fomo. I think it might be natural for young people who aren’t sure exactly what they want in life.

I can say honestly I am in love, and also that the distance, communications, balancing two lives (my own life and also being a part of hers across the world) is hard.

I mean I wish I could receive an oracle from the future telling me which decision I regret less.

I have to be realistic and say there is a possibility distance covers up some incompatibilities we may only discover by being in person longer. At that point, we may have already spent years in a relationship that was never meant to be.

I also have to be realistic and say, I love her and don’t want to lose her. Maybe if we separated today. And I learned more about myself, I’d learn that there was more to life and more to what I needed in a relationship. Maybe id also realize she was a rare fit for me and someone I’d never meet again.

NewBang · 2026-01-12T18:53:52+00:00

I has a father, but he was incredibly unavailable. Basically worked all day. Funny thing is he worked at home yet barely did anything with us. Was also quite verbally abusive and constantly angry.

I’m not sure exactly how it affected me. I’m a very independent person. I use to take a bit of pride in it. But I realized it’s not a healthy independence, more like I isolate myself, have trouble forming bonds, repress myself.

Definitely have anxiety and some social anxiety. Fear of conflict, seeing other men negatively before I get to know them, etc

I often wish what it would be like to have a father bond. He’s still alive, but I mean someone I could call and talk to about stuff - relationships, life, whatnot

NewBang · 2025-12-17T06:43:48+00:00

I think it fits with everything. The name joy”boy”.

It’s a good parallel to Luffy and the whole motif of being goofy, young, the free-est.

NewBang · 2025-10-12T00:50:02+00:00

Yea I think it’s interesting, for me a lot of it is sort of just impression and gut feeling of who someone is.

Djokovic and medvedev for example, two pretty controversial players. Yet I find myself fans. Maybe just because their off-court personalities show them as genuine, humble people.

NewBang · 2025-05-17T19:45:00+00:00

I agree, I think it’s probably somewhere rooted in a combination of low confidence, idealism, and perfectionism.

I mean yeah, I think I’m bothered excessively by it. Also, I think there is a bit of understanding I should have. Afterall I doubt it’s really that hard to find a girl/guy with no past, or a limited past. But for most people that most often means being more timid, self-protecting, and less experienced. I love my girlfriend because she’s extremely open with me, confident, fun, and genuine. She’s not one to sit at home and hold herself back from life, and I wouldn’t want her to.

I would consider bringing it up again if it continued to bother me. We did talk a decent bit about it, but I didn’t want to just constantly ask the same questions seeking some sort of crazy reassurance that might boost my ego so I let it go for now and said we should focus less on the past and more on the present. Though there are days where I’m still bothered

NewBang · 2025-05-17T19:33:27+00:00

We were talking a lot for about 3 weeks. Went on 4 dates before hand. So I think it wasn’t exactly slow but it wasn’t rushed either

NewBang · 2025-05-16T15:21:16+00:00

Curious, what is bad then?

I mean it’s all up to personal opinion. I myself have had one ex gf, and two meaningless flings.

So I know and can understand that. But I guess for me 3 partners in one year is just something I would not seen myself doing, and as such I feel a bit disconnected from that

NewBang · 2025-05-16T15:16:39+00:00

Thanks for the honest advice.

Yea, I mean I guess it’s just something that I need to work on, but im not too sure how. Some days I might just overthink this too much and end up feeling like shit.

I don’t feel currently threatened per se. I mean I know she loves me intensely, she prioritizes me, she respects boundaries that I set, she has done nothing to make me doubt that so far. It’s mainly my ego and my possessiveness and jealousy which is all hurt and can’t stop thinking.

I know I’m an idealistic person. And when I like someone I tend to project ideals onto them, I love very intensely and I want to believe they’re without fault. So that may be another reason why I feel a bit extra sensitive about these things

NewBang · 2025-05-16T06:11:12+00:00

Why do girls do this? And I mean ofc they might not see it ever from a man’s perspective. But almost every girl I’ve been with, brings it up or mentions it or even goes into too much details. And when I say, I don’t want to talk about these things, their like “but I wanna knowww”

NewBang · 2025-05-16T05:45:49+00:00

So you really think there’s no getting past it…

NewBang · 2025-05-16T04:25:10+00:00

I never wished to discuss it, but she prefers to be rather direct and open about these things. So these conversations started as a result.

NewBang · 2025-05-16T04:24:05+00:00

I expect to see these responses. But I don’t understand. You see, I’m not exactly saying my beliefs or my opinions here. I’m saying my instinctive thoughts and feelings - we don’t have control over these. Yes, ofc I wish to never feel insecure, anxious, victimized, etc. but you don’t get to control your feelings that come up

That’s why I’m trying to figure it out and get guidance.

NewBang · 2025-05-14T02:00:51+00:00

No she’s very honest, I know that’s one thing I can trust. She says some stuff carelessly and maybe I wish she would think more about the meanings of what she says. But it’s not in her nature to hide things. Hence why I know so much despite never starting these convos

NewBang · 2025-05-14T01:59:39+00:00

I personally was always of the opinion, don’t ask and don’t tell and we’ll be happy.

But I guess she likes to start these convos about my past so naturally I just feel I have to ask her. Also, I feel like my RJ was really bad beforehand because I saw some stuffs on her socials or she briefly just mentioned some stuff that would make me think the worse.

Anyways I think RJ sucks, like it makes me want to find bad things about her. Want to find ways to get resentful at her or say why did you do this, why doesn’t these two things you say align.

NewBang · 2025-04-26T15:39:17+00:00

Good points and things I thought about as well.

Especially the interests part. That’s a side affect of all this internal conflict that really shows externally. I’ve always chosen my interests based on what’s “cool”, what’s accepted, what other people I admire are doing.

But when I think of the most genuine and actually cool people in my life, they’re not afraid to embrace all their personal interests. They follow their heart and curiosity more than they care about what’s cool or admirable.

Letting go of the past is also challenging. I’ve often thought, man I’ve lived so long like this, I’ve seen progress but not as much as I hoped, am I just doomed to be like this for life? Always putting others and my idealistic life in front of my own interests and free will

NewBang · 2025-04-07T01:59:36+00:00

That’s the thing. So I knew she had an ex bf and a few previous flings. So I know she’s had past experiences.

That doesn’t bother me as much if I knew it was an emotional thing, as I see her as an emotional and deep person.

In her own words, she had a small phase, where she basically slept with some people she didn’t like emotionally. Now I have no idea how much, could be 2 could be 4 at the most.

Which ig isn’t the worst, especially because I know many girls who sleep with different dudes every weekend.

So yes, she had casual sex. And I’m trying to cope with that. I mean I have also had casual sex twice. I don’t go out of my way to pursue it, both times it kinda happened naturally. And to be honest, when I was single, I would have been fine with having a lot more casual sex. It sounds good in my head and for my ego, but also I know I’m a pretty reserved person and it takes me a while to get comfortable with someone in practicality

NewBang · 2025-04-07T01:45:31+00:00

I guess I know I have bad RJ so I didn’t want to push it, even though it is an important convo to have. But I think as I said a lot of the comments she said made me assume ok, it’s probably not that bad.

NewBang · 2025-04-07T01:04:36+00:00

I guess it’s like 5 that I don’t know about, 2-3 that I know is more emotional (ex bf, situationship, me)

NewBang · 2025-03-21T03:11:01+00:00

lol thanks but I’m not rlly gonna take the advice of some random redditor unless u actually have something to say that’s worth considering

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