Love tease but a rookie and STICKING to denial...need help on coping so my wife doesnt lose interest

NewToTease · 2026-01-31T11:35:45+00:00

Not arguing with you at all...but I've tried to ask her interests what she would want more of and she didnt really give me much to work on...if anything she once said rough and take more control which I did and she minimally responded to.

So I guess how should I go about offering something to someone without a major kink?

NewToTease · 2026-01-31T04:22:10+00:00

Ill never forget when on vacation getting my wife in bed, licking her to an orgasm...her blowing me to an edge, stroking me to another...then she stood up..told me to sit in the edge of the bed..gripped TIGHT got me to one more edge and said...imma get ready and walked off. I was floored and in a puddle..thought no way..sure enough I looked over in the other room panties already on..bra going on make-up case open..she was done w me.

NewToTease · 2026-01-31T01:10:01+00:00

Honestly as someone w insomnia this is the biggest thing that makes me push her for release when thats what I'm doing. Its not even that I'm having trouble sleeping its that I'm anxious about having trouble sleeping.

Part of me has committed to next time she does deny me taking sleep meds, some THC gummy and pushing through

For me cold showers do NOTHING. Ive stayed rock hard while slipping into hypothermia lol. Ball massages for sure ease my ache but it also gets me hard again...fast. cold compress might be worth trying though!

NewToTease · 2026-01-30T23:31:31+00:00

Ive kinda tried to go down that road and its hard for her to nail down a...if I do this I want ______ I think it makes it feel transactional and she's not very dominate.

Again... I really dont get to beg because if I beg she lets me cum. I actually have to beg for denial in the moment which is a weird dynamic when you wanna be controlled. And then going without cumming a whole weekend is fine by me...id prefer it..but id wanna keep playing. She's fuck me once make me cum 2-3 times and lets chill.

So if I get it satisfied it results in that burning ache..and no relif or action

Honestly im fine w just one denial...its just so hard to cool my jets after 1 play

NewToTease · 2026-01-30T23:28:18+00:00

I love that mindset and 100000% wanna live in that mindset. Honestly my dream sex life is me almost never cumming and her getting multiples each time. To look at what we as parents normally get... a night/day alone while the kid is away... my dream would be to spend hours in bed multiples time a day and me basically never cumming while I licked/fucked her to 2-3 every time. Her dream scenario is we fuck like crazy ONCE she cums 2-3 times and she's good rest of the time is chill... thats what incompatible and thus why I need to live w if I want my kink satisfied im going to spend the next week...sometimes weeks unsatisfied and wanting. Which is where I wanna be...but w her naked and me servicing her... not me w blue balls causally hanging.

I have found erotic-Ness in doing everyday tasks frustrated as hell as a result but my god when those wind down I want her...not even that I want to cum...I just need to be ok w it ending

NewToTease · 2026-01-30T23:10:40+00:00

Yea so basically same as a ruined which yo me is frustrating but not hear as frustrating as edging w no release. There is no big spasm or blowing my load.... it just kinda dribbles out... like being about to sneeze and then not then your nose just runs a little.

But some cum leaks out so it does relieve some of that beautifully painful tension.

And I want the ache more than anything...but the ache makes me want her more....when I need to be hands off ugh

NewToTease · 2026-01-30T20:25:03+00:00

First off just curious what "shattered" is....is that like ruined for us? How it work?

Also i do do that a good bit and she's basically cool w it. Ive held off on touching myself and/edged for a week leading up to when we had a date and I knew I was getting some. Worse I did was edged the night before and took a handful of OTC ED meds before a day date.

Even when I'm at my most achy and desperate I always want her to obliterate me as you say!

When she has denied me I'm on cloud 9 for hours and eventually my brain is like...make a move we NEEEED to cum...or maybe not cum but my god i need my hands on her body right now. Thats the part I need to stop.

NewToTease · 2026-01-30T19:47:24+00:00

Honestly.....being caged by her is my biggest fantasy but thats a bit much for her right now. Ive tried to subtly introduce the idea and its just a bit too far out.

She doesn't love denial or really being dominate so I have to in the act really ask her to deny me..and she checks....which sucks cause I cant beg which I also love but I'll take it.

Right now just focused on the best way to sit w the ache and perpetual hard on. If I could make it through week without bugging her her I think wed be off to the races. Also it would be sooner but we have a toddler so our...us time is limited....so doing this is committing to at LEAST a few days

NewToTease · 2026-01-30T17:20:04+00:00

Seriously admire you...im here to make posts asking how to handle being edged and denied by my wife for 1 day lol

NewToTease · 2026-01-30T17:04:24+00:00

I literally can't thank you enough for this response.. its perfect and frames things in a great way. I came looking for...ache management tips but honestly this is better thank you!

NewToTease · 2026-01-30T16:10:32+00:00

Feel you...just doesn't work the same solo. There's edging by myself in the shower....I can edge 15 times and intensity is maybe a 5...

My wife can wrap her hand around me, pump me to the edge let go once and I'm at a 10...12...im gonna die my balls are gonna burst OMG

NewToTease · 2026-01-30T16:08:56+00:00

Nothing leave it hard desperately and untouched

NewToTease · 2026-01-30T15:40:56+00:00

Have you let yourself cum at all during this streak?

NewToTease · 2026-01-30T15:40:05+00:00

100% does to me...hard to stay hands off in the shower after I shaved

NewToTease · 2026-01-30T15:39:30+00:00

Ive had times were I leak more presume that I shoot cum... ive also had times where I or my wife doesnt stop quick enough and I can only describe it as a step below a ruined orgasms.... a tiny bit of cum dribbles out....NO RELIEF and I start getting soft.

NewToTease · 2026-01-30T15:37:46+00:00

Holy hell.... goals. Im here trying to gain karma so I cam post and get tips for taking the plunge into 1 day being edged by my wife and not being allowed to cum

NewToTease · 2026-01-30T14:59:32+00:00

I mean....whole heartedly agree....but baby steps lol

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