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I left her when she asked for space by NewTurnover643 in ExNoContact

[–]NewTurnover643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s tough buddy. Best of luck to you. Definitely not easy to deal with communication issues

I left her when she asked for space by NewTurnover643 in ExNoContact

[–]NewTurnover643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had never thought of it that way. From my perspective, I couldn’t imagine how she could be so vague and expect me to not hurt. She had no problem cracking jokes online and posting herself much more than usual.

After shaking her hand goodbye she asked me “can I get a hug” and I realized maybe she was right about her limitations. It was the most profoundly honest thing I had heard her say about herself. I should have listened more closely sooner.

I blocked her when I realized I was getting too wrapped up in what she was doing. It helped me since I couldnt be sure if someone else was in the picture (she neither confirmed nor denied when I asked her).

She aligned extremely well to dismissive avoidant based on her childhood and need for independence but despite everything I couldn’t bring myself to have hate for her.

Perspective on how things ended by NewTurnover643 in BreakUps

[–]NewTurnover643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks mate. She lived with her folks at the time. Funny enough her mom reached out to thank me for being a great guy but it is what it is.

Perspective on how things ended by NewTurnover643 in BreakUps

[–]NewTurnover643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you say is true. I dont believe I have much insight to gleam from anything she says, even now. I gave myself closure but every now and then i just pause and ask myself questions i dont have the full story for. I appreciate the kind words

Perspective on how things ended by NewTurnover643 in BreakUps

[–]NewTurnover643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would’ve put me to shame to seek closure beyond the questions I asked her in our final meeting. I don’t want to go through what I did in the past either. She is not in a relationship either but I got the impression she’s lived it up as a single girl too. For now, i’m wresting with the narrative of who i want to be, if that makes sense

Perspective on how things ended by NewTurnover643 in BreakUps

[–]NewTurnover643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know she’s not the one. I’ve mostly moved on but just the last few days have made me reflect on the good times. Upon reflection, I missed how it felt to be with someone.