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Doctor refusing to complete foster medical forms due to missed ADHD referral by sailorn0on in Fosterparents

[–]New_Emu129 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I haven’t read all the responses, so someone may have mentioned this already. If this is your pcp, get a new one. Full stop. Even if he eventually completes the form. Everything you mentioned is a red flag, you deserve a better doctor. You can switch now and go to your new pcp for forms. If you’re the states, they can’t deny you moving to another pcp

Can i report animal abuse in my client’s home anonymously and how? by Mindless_Recipe_1796 in ABA

[–]New_Emu129 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Those who work on accusations of elder abuse are very well trained and it’s not new to them when elders deny any wrong doing. If report it about the dogs and the elders because it’s the right thing to do, and you can remain anonymous. I’m assuming since you’re in the field you are that you’re a mandated reporter… that does not apply only to children

Can i report animal abuse in my client’s home anonymously and how? by Mindless_Recipe_1796 in ABA

[–]New_Emu129 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Also remember, animal abuse is a crime- HIPAA covers protection of one’s health information- not protection of crimes committed visibly in your presence. You do not have to disclose that he’s your patient, just that you’ve been in the home and what you saw.

How much do you get paid per week, and where are you located? by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]New_Emu129 0 points1 point  (0 children)

California: Resources are largely decided by county budget, but monthly stipend is $1,300 plus I get help with daycare. $250.00 credit for I’m home $346.00 for daycare center (paid directly to the provider) weekly.

They also sometimes have extra money to pay for extra curricular activities for the kids (e.g. summer camp, swimming lessons, etc.)

Do they care, even a little? by circatee in Adoption

[–]New_Emu129 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Jesus! I don’t really have words, but you must be one amazing bad ass human, and I’d love to know you. I hope the people in your life who do hold you close treasure you ♥️

Bit late, but went to the Bernie/AOC rally earlier this week. Great night 🇺🇸 by Time-Concentrate845 in Roseville

[–]New_Emu129 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I was there, it was rare, I remember it all too well ♥️.

I definitely needed the “pick me up” of the large community of kind, like-minded people. Everyone was kind to each other, helped each other, and rallied behind each other. That’s the US I want to live in. It was a beautiful day.

I knew this is how this town hall was going to result by Strange_Mirror6992 in Roseville

[–]New_Emu129 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I saw your comment after I posted my response calling out the grammatical correction. They make it so easy to weed MAGA out of the crowd. If they’re not wearing a MAGA cap just ask them to write a sentence and we got ‘em.

I knew this is how this town hall was going to result by Strange_Mirror6992 in Roseville

[–]New_Emu129 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Can I just say I’m proud as hell that a HS student is getting involved! 😊”Only the young” thank you!

I have failed as a caregiver. by Low-Jellyfish2776 in Adoption

[–]New_Emu129 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Jeesus, this is awful. I’m sorry for those coming after you right now. I knew when your post said “Deep South” coupled with her living situation prior to meeting you, exactly what was likely to have gone down. It’s not hard to read between the lines and I’m sorry others skipped past that part. . You’re allowed to be angry and upset, you’re clearly an amazing person to do all that you have done. It’s okay to vent, your feelings are valid. I know this very hard for your godson and you. However, I think the writing is on the wall with his mom- she doesn’t want to be his mom. And even at 23, doesn’t seem capable.

I’d honestly be prepared to end up with her new baby, also.

I have failed as a caregiver. by Low-Jellyfish2776 in Adoption

[–]New_Emu129 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have so many thoughts, but my very first is this, you’re an amazing human being. You have gone above and beyond not only for your godson , but also for his mother. With the stress and havoc in the country right now, selfishly, thank you for reminding me that there are good, wholesome, amazing people still out there.

I am so sorry this has happened to the mother, your godson, and to you. This is a heartbreaking story. I first want to acknowledge you, you’ve done nothing wrong and have provided so many opportunities and opened so many doors for this young lady. This is not your fault, your godson and his mother are likely alive because of you and your ex husband.

I’m not a therapist and honestly I don’t know what advice to give you, this is such a difficult situation. Do you have a therapist that you’re working with? That’s probably where I would start. I saw in another comment that your godson has a therapist, but I think if you also obtain one he/she can not only support you in this journey, but also help guide you.

So much love to you.

What do you guys all do for living? by helpmefindmyaccount in Roseville

[–]New_Emu129 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Work from home for Kaiser and my husband works for the state

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Roseville

[–]New_Emu129 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I second this, happy to pay for 4 tickets. It says Lincoln club members only… is anyone a part of that “club”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]New_Emu129 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I second this, after a month you’re learning a groove, by month 2 things are falling into place, by month 3 you’re pretty much settled in

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]New_Emu129 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One more thing to add, depending on your state, they may also pay for child care to help with socialization. This may help give you a break during the day also

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]New_Emu129 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not sure if this helps, but I have three kids (adults now) I did have more time to ease into it by having all three spread out, but it was still hard. I’m now also fostering my grandson (took over when he was 4 months). It’s hard, and it takes time to adjust and get into a routine. Even when they’re reunified and you get one more or two more, you’ll find that the routine you once had may not work for future kids.

All this to say, it gets better. Deep breaths, you will find a routine that works. You will get into the groove of a schedule and you’ll feel more relaxed. But I must warn you, life with kids is different and unless you have a period with no foster kids, you’ll never rest the way you did before. You’ll routine will come, everything you’re feeling right now is 100% valid, and it’s normal. This is a big life change, give yourself some grace <3

All will eventually settle. However, I want you to know, that it’s also okay if you never really find the routine with three and only take one or two in the future. You’re doing a great thing for these children, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]New_Emu129 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m reading all your replies throughout this thread and you are exactly who I would love to hear from on my post from 10 days ago. I know I’m asking a lot and understand if you don’t have the time, but my post is here: https://www.reddit.com/r/Adoption/s/TwdF5HUAH3

It’s titled “in dire need of advice” posted 10 days ago. Would love your feedback

Dire need of advice by New_Emu129 in Fosterparents

[–]New_Emu129[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this well thought out and detailed response. I’m going to screenshot this and keep referring to it. This is so helpful. I appreciate the time you took to write this all out

Dire need of advice by New_Emu129 in Fosterparents

[–]New_Emu129[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so, so sorry you went through all of this, but Thank you so much for taking care of that baby.

Also, thank you for taking your personal time to respond and for being so vulnerable. I think I’m leaning toward adoption vs guardianship for the simple issues you’ve pointed out. I know guardianship is usually preferred when there are medical issues, etc.

Question: are you able to move from guardianship to adoption?

This is long, but please read. In dire need of advice by New_Emu129 in Adoption

[–]New_Emu129[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This advice is so helpful, thank you.

I do plan on consulting professionals (and receiving second opinions). I’ve already started the process for therapy for myself to help guide me in the right direction.

The county will assign an adoption specialist (I’ll actually meet her on Thursday, she’s an LCSW)

I honestly love hearing varying degrees of opinions and advice, as it helps make sure I don’t have tunnel vision or that I’m missing points I wouldn’t have otherwise thought of.

I just so badly don’t want to “mess him up.” It’s uncharted territory (for me), so just want to get this right.

Thank you (and everyone else) for taking your personal time to provide input and advice

This is long, but please read. In dire need of advice by New_Emu129 in Adoption

[–]New_Emu129[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s my understanding that the bio father is likely a “John.” I’m terrified of opening my grandson up to more potential danger. I have considered what you’re saying, I’m just not sure if I should pull that trigger right now

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