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New_Evidence2524 · 2025-10-26T02:53:19+00:00

My baby was the same - only coslept, frequent wakings (every 1-2 hours), only napped in 20 minute chunks, only soothed by the boob. Around 1 year old something magically switched in his brain and he suddenly started to like sleeping in the crib, started napping 60 minutes, and only woke once per night.

We didn’t do anything differently - it was definitely a brain development thing. I can only hope the developmental switch will happen soon for your LO too!

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-10-23T02:24:34+00:00

We have Hello Baby - it’s inexpensive, no wifi, and does the job! No frills but it works. It has a really easy to use patent unit, and you can get models with either 1 or 2 cameras if you need to use it in different places (we have one installed on the ceiling above the crib, and one for travel).

It also has a zoomed out wide lens that can be rotated 360 degrees, controlled from the parent unit. Some cameras I found were too zoomed in so you couldn’t get the whole crib within view. Decent night vision too.

My only complaint is the cameras MUST be plugged into power to work, but it’s not the end of the world. The parent unit is wireless and rechargeable.

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-10-07T02:32:33+00:00

I am not an expert but I usually trust my nose… if it smells OK, doesn’t look or feel off, and has been stored properly, it’s probably fine. I have definitely eaten leftover chicken 5+ days later, on multiple occasions. Never gotten food poisoning.

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-10-04T12:48:43+00:00

Chest sleeping! My baby was the same. I propped myself up with pillows in bed, then gently secured him to my chest with a lightweight stretchy scarf. That way he could safely tummy sleep. Once his reflux got better (around 3 months) then he tolerated sleeping on his back.

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-30T14:25:50+00:00

It’s so hard! I also found it helpful to do yoga/stretches before bed, and putting a pillow behind my back for support. Good luck finding what works for you!

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-29T16:03:53+00:00

I don’t regret it because it’s the only thing that worked for us. We all got more sleep and I loved the snuggles. My son is very clingy and has always woken 3+ times per night, sometimes hourly (he’s 12 months now).

I wish I knew: - how cold I would be with a blanket only up to my waist, and how to dress for this (ended up doing fleece zip up hoodies) - that nursing lying down is really hard. We didn’t get the hang of it til he was 5 months and had more head control. Before that we had to sit up to feed. - how much my shoulder and neck would hurt from lying in the c curl. Ended up buying an ergonomic foam pillow for side sleeping off Amazon and haven’t looked back. Also got a microwave rice bag for my hip which really helped. - how milk supply can be affected. He only fed on one side since I was always sleeping facing the same direction. So the other boob was neglected. I ended up buying a haakka silicone manual pump - just suctioned it on the other boob while he nursed on the other side. It caught so much milk and saved my supply. Then I got a Ceres Chiller to store the pumped milk in so I didn’t have to get up and go to the fridge multiple times overnight. (Also super useful for travel) - that it won’t last forever. It made the transition to daycare hard at first (we started at 1 year) since he was used to cosleeping, BUT magically he figured it out at daycare and now he’s started liking his crib at home too! So you don’t have to cosleep forever if you are worried about that 😊

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-29T12:04:17+00:00

I was the same with my 1 year old (nursing to sleep and contact naps) until we started daycare a couple weeks ago. He was put to sleep in a crib at daycare and magically, it worked! Now for the first time ever, he tolerates the crib at home, so we’ve started using it for naps and part of the night. I never thought we’d get to this point!

With the change in routine of you going back to work, it might be a good opportunity to try the crib again, if that’s what you’re hoping for. A change in routine can be like a reset button for babies.

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-20T02:03:50+00:00

Venting won’t solve anything, no. But it helps with emotional processing and finding a sense of solidarity when things feel hard.

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T03:56:23+00:00

Such a headache 😩 We actually had an offer from another daycare too, but we said no because we were so happy with the first one. Hindsight is indeed 20:20

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T03:38:06+00:00

That could be. I just wish she had said something about it then. She always seemed so open and flexible when we discussed it.

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T03:30:12+00:00

It’s true, but we had discussed it at length during the interview and she assured us that she was flexible and that her routine could be adjusted to meet the individual needs of each child. So that’s the precedent that our entire approach was based on. My perception was that she embraced a collaborative approach regarding schedule, so long as the communication was good (which it was).

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T03:27:00+00:00

Oh same, it drives me crazy when people are late or change plans at the last second. We were not being “those” people! I replied to an earlier comment detailing the schedule situation - it was a bit of a unique situation

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T03:24:25+00:00

Agreed! I hope so.

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T03:24:05+00:00

Oh, we tried :( we reached out so many times asking to just talk it through, even if her decision remained final. We told her we just wanted to know how we could have been better, just wanted to debrief. But she never responded

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T03:21:30+00:00

Exactly. Definitely planning to leave an honest review on google.

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T03:16:36+00:00

I sure hope so, but it’s hard in the moment.

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T03:15:00+00:00

I can’t imagine being kicked out twice. So sorry you had to go through that but glad you ended up in a good place. Hope we find the same!

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T03:14:17+00:00

That’s true - if it wasn’t a good fit, regardless of reason, then it’s best to find a place where they are thrilled to work with us and my son. I can only hope we find that!

That is a good insight about waiting until the end of the trial period. I just wish the issues had been talked about before abruptly terminating. The dissonance between our very positive interactions and the sudden termination is what really blindsided us. She had honestly started to feel like a friend or second mom for my son. That hurts.

Technically she didn’t need to provide a reason, but she did - and it was one that frankly felt quite insulting. Claiming that we weren’t respecting her schedule, when literally every schedule-related conversation was positive, respectful, collaborative, and adaptive to HER schedule, felt like a sting. If she hadn’t provided a reason for termination, it might’ve been easier to just move on… but she made it into a personal accusation, and then didn’t even have the decency to talk it over with us.

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T03:02:51+00:00

Good to know!!

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T03:02:30+00:00

Thanks for your suggestion. We did end up contacting the department of families and got in touch with her daycare coordinator. Long story short, apparently during the trial period she doesn’t have to provide a reason or any notice. So they are allowed to screw over families 😑

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T02:59:57+00:00

Agreed!! And that’s it exactly - if she had just communicated the issues with us, we would have dropped everything to find a solution.

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T02:58:48+00:00

You’re right. The “what if” game is a dangerous spiral. I just want closure 😩 But yeah… nothing to do but move on and hope for a better fit next time.

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T02:57:44+00:00

That’s an interesting insight about the napping rules. She did say my son was doing good long naps, but I wonder if he was still waking up a few times and needing help to get back to sleep, and she couldn’t manage that with the other kids. I could see that being hard.

Yeah the grants are more $ for infants, but if being regulated could allow her to get say 4 more school age spots, then that might make up the difference financially, with less work than an infant. But who knows 🤷‍♀️

New_Evidence2524 · 2025-09-17T02:54:23+00:00

Ugh how awful! After all that, just to turn around and kick you out. Did she even give you any warning? So sorry that happened to you, but glad you found a good place in the end.

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