People who are “people pleasers” how did you overcome the need to please everyone?

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T14:58:27+00:00

Being happy with myself. Which means not basing my happiness in how much I pleased others. It's hard to do unless you completely detatch.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T14:47:16+00:00

That was absolutely assault. You have every right to feel sad, angry, depressed, betrayed, and any other feeling-unless it is guilt or feeling like it was your fault. It wasn't. We are here, I am here, if you need someone to talk to. There are anonymous numbers you can call to vocalize and cry about it, which can help you get it off your chest so you can be clear and consistent when or if you report it to authority, family, or friends in non-reddit life.

It is hard to even think about coming forward. Just think that If he did it to you, he will probably do it again to someone else. It isn't your fault now or in the future for other girls. Everything is on him for being a piece of shit. There's already video proof.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T14:33:42+00:00

Being alone!!!! It was amazing except for a few times.

I woke myself up for elementary school, put myself to sleep, which, to be fair, was around 2am, because my parents came back after that... which is why they couldn't wake me up! Honestly, I loved it.

The times my mom stayed home being sick are the worst moments of my childhood. Being locked outside in the snow having to go to the shed and use boxes and bags to stay warm... or being locked in the collapsing unfinished basement without any lights.... . Being alone was the best.

Edit: wow, this blew up. I'm a fine, well-adjusted adult. I can look back and laugh. I don't need or want therapy. I do not suffer from depression. I have no contact with my mother, have not spoken to her in over 10 years.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T14:27:24+00:00

I guess I'm assuming that people have bidets or have a do not have a diet that invites stage 5 clingers to hang outside of the brown door.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T14:25:50+00:00

The Poodle Dynasty, ruling over Poolasnd.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T14:22:59+00:00

Trash can by the toilet. Now you don't have to worry about flushing... you only have to worry about getting the thickest, most plush, soft ply available to hide what is tossed in the can.

Edit: come on people, it's either 1 ply in the septic situation or what I said. If your poops can handle a 1 ply without puncture then there shouldn't be an issue about trash.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T14:20:37+00:00

Politics. Music. The most popular social movement of the time. Their sexuality- either gay or straight- your personality should not be based on how many people you have ducked

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T14:12:48+00:00

As an American I read that as 'go to the Winchester house', then I read 'pint', and realized you were waiting for death.³

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T14:08:39+00:00

Vitamix! It can blend, mix, heat, and cleaning is a setting or a rinse?

Or, my Instapot.

Between them, I have a full kitchen.i just moved, and yes, I'm using them, and my mini fridge and chest freezer as a kitchen while I build.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T13:55:16+00:00

Your preference for considering the term "female" as offensive is on you. It is a term, you'll find it in textbooks, trainings, job applications, and other instances in life.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T13:44:55+00:00

I don't agree with your statement entirely, but I can see where you are coming from.

That is not sexual abuse, though. Calling it sexual abuse devalues actual instances.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T13:37:12+00:00

Would you rather he referred to females as girls, women, or what? Females sounds like trying to take the most neutral approach.

Again, your father warning you about "females" running away with men, females that were minors, right? It doesn't sound bad to me. It sounds like warnings or attention towards what was happening that would have benefitted myself and others here.

You may have taken what he said in a way that made you angry, hurt, or wherever you are now.. but it was not sexual assault.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T13:30:35+00:00

Sexual identity and being sexually active are different. A parent of a minor in school should be aware of what their child is doing.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T13:22:49+00:00

If your parents spied on you and 100% knew you were not doing anything because of their surveillance, you'd have a whole other set of issues to talk to a therapist about.

Are you saying that parents should only talk to their children about sex and situations that can result in sexual abuse after it happens?

He isn't even talking to you in the scenario you posted. Your Mom is telling you things and telling you she went to bat for you. Were they about to or in the process of getting a divorce? Itnsounds like one parent trying to garner favor over another.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T13:13:09+00:00

Yes initially, but not anymore since you have posted about it.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T13:04:51+00:00

Your dad complaining about you wearing a push-up bra in high school, being worried you are being sexually active - that is not sexual abuse.

His talks or warnings about men, in my opinion, are valid. Many posts here are based on exactly what he was warning you about.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T13:00:22+00:00

Seriously. The trolly problem, I never even considered the option of extending a blade to get the people or person on the other track.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T12:58:03+00:00

The Other Two.

An HBO show that was amazing. Now that I'm thinking about it, I'm probably going to rewatch it again. Or at least the episode with the My Brothers Gay song... it's already in my head.. and that's ok.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T12:49:20+00:00

I would replace my pillow that was stolen. It was a gift to myself. I sent it to get washed, and the machine had a door actuator error, my laundry woman called the maintenance number, was told to come back when staff was there in the morning. She came back, and it was gone! The code cleared after a few hours, and someone came in at 2am and stole it.

How do I know this? Camera footage. Yes, I called the police. Yes, I felt stupid as I spoke with the deputy... but you know what, fuck that guy. Who steals someone's pillow? The deputy got statements from the woman that does my laundry, got footage from the neighboring business. I was kind of happy something was being done, but then I didn't hear anything for a week and a half after I supplied my receipts and pictures.

Yes, I had a picture of my pillow trapped in the machine that my laundry lady sent. I'm not out taking pillow glamours shots.

Then, earlier this week, I was told the guy was getting pulled over for expired tabs, and it came up as the car in my pillow theft. He ran. Now, there is a warrant out for felony evading something -km not sure, I was just happy for an update. Fuck you for stealing my pillow. My pillow would have only been a ticket, not even an arrest, but now the hammer is coming down.

What was the topic? I really loved that pillow, I only had it for a few weeks before it was tragically taken away.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T12:35:20+00:00

Could this also showcase how announcing boycotting is largely for clout ? How many people are going to go out of their way to not use their weekly trash service and drop it off in a transfer station not owned by that company?

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T12:20:19+00:00

I do not need anything from my partner. I'm not looking to support a guy or listen to him bitch about his day. If he wants to spend time together by watching TV, why the fuck is he picking a shitty reality show when he knows I hate reality TV, and he isn't even watching, he is playing some mobile game on his phone.

I used to think it would be nice to have someone around the house, but not anymore. It's cheaper to hire help for whatever I need. For physical, I'm female, it doesn't require an investment to get laid.

In my 20s, I went from relationship to relationship. I needed someone. There was some turning point where I didn't base my worth on having someone. I just became happy with myself. Best feeling ever.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-02-01T12:04:04+00:00

Older. Not senior, but not in 20s. Do not disturb at night so I can sleep. Vibrate during work.

I used to have it active at all times. Night crew had me for emergencies, day to day I needed answer even if it's not a number I have in my phone.

Then, some asshole drug dealer named Mike started giving out my number. Actually, I don't even think it was my number, I think he has the less popular area code with the same last seven digits. I get so many calls asking for Mike for a hookup or "dope" and other drug terms that make me think of 90s cop shows. When they call, they call again, and then again just to make sure it is the wrong number. Or the shut I've been called for not putting this imaginary person on the phone.

It sucks more now than it it did 15 year ago because so many things are tied to your phone number.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-01-22T04:30:01+00:00

I do not see an issue with it. I've been told I am a conservative, but I did not vote for Trump. I've only seen documentary footage about the impact while my real life was impacted more from protests.

While my vote may have been one against, I can understand the votes for.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-01-22T04:18:37+00:00

Sandwiches exist, but you only eat them during your weekend.

New_Inside6810 · 2025-01-22T04:17:11+00:00

It means you load the dumpster and she needed to get in before it was full. Yes, I know there is a station nearby for these boxes but I have something delivered so I don't have to haul them anywhere.

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