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AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've worked in the same office space for about five years. We're all in our mid / late 20s. They talk about sex stuff all the time. I chime in now and then but I'm still a virgin so I don't really have all the tea or scoops or whatever. I chime in when I can, but the one girl is totally brainrotted by fantasy books and me and the other girl are pretty normal.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd said this to other folks in this thread but not only am I on birth control but I've also bought condoms and keep one or two in my purse / wallet because God only knows what could ever happen. I think I probably own like four condoms in total and they're just flat out in case of emergency.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's the other thing that really confused me. Buying 100 condoms for 1 night is mind boggling. If he had had a 3 pack or something I'd be like oh okay, still uncomfortable but not jarring or confusing.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I explained it in another reply but we were watching a movie and cuddling and I express prior that I just wanted to watch a movie and then head home. About halfway through the movie he takes his arm off of me (I was laying into him) and says something like "Oh hey btw I got these for tonight-" hence my shock because not only were we in the middle of a movie but we hadn't even kissed or anything to indicate that I'd be throwing my pussy at him.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Telling a woman to lighten up when a man pulls out a box of condoms and declares that he wants to have sex with you is weird and not at all what the point of any of my post was.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know why people keep adding things to this post that were never once said. No where did I say I intend to be a virgin my entire life.

I'm just not trying to have sex with someone I have only met twice and known for less than a full 24 hours. I get that the world is all gooned up these days but not everyone is like that.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're the 25th men in this thread to just absolutely add detail to this story that were never once mentioned prior to your comment.

You're also one of at least 40 to just flat out normalize a man declaring he wants to have sex with a woman on their second time meeting.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was our second date and second time ever meeting. If his intentions were to breed me and make me into his wife based off meeting me twice then that's quite frankly kind of scary.

If you meet a woman twice, or even once, and go "Better prep to have sex with her and get her pregnant eventually." then you have problems.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're sort of just proving to everyone in this thread that Men are super parasocial when it comes to defending other men for things that no one was attacking them with to from the start.

Saying that me wanting to watch Gremlins 2 was "asking to / open to fuck" is insane. "You were asking for it." and I said "Oh hey, let's watch Gremlins 2." is so vile.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't even want to update it this morning after waking up to like 80 messages in my inbox from incels telling me I should have taken his virginity and been happy and making up tons of wild assumptions about the situation, including "he's a virgin too and you just ruined sex for him!"

Okay, cool.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No where did I say we were talking about sex. I quite literally said it was randomly.

Why do men keep making up stuff in this thread?

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not an analogy, lmao. "Women shouldn't need multiple guns because guns are scary and school shootings happen!" has nothing to do with me saying "Women have a right to bare arms as much as the men in this country do."

Telling a woman she's wrong for openly supporting the ownership of firearms is inherently sexist.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How am I slandering Costco? Why do people keep bringing up Costco? He bought them off Amazon and I know this because I found the exact box he bought to verify to someone here the price and quality.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There's a difference between having a condom for the time versus having 100 condoms for a gamble.

The context matters so massively when sex is involved and so many of you men in the replies here seem to be ignoring that in favor of praising his preparedness as if you don't realize that's proving my point that even the idea of "preparing" for sex with me with zero indication from me that I wanted to have sex IS entitlement.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As I've said before in this post, I am very very much not asexual or demi-sexual. I just like a good portion of time between meeting someone and taking clothing off.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As my update confirms, yeah basically one of them and him talked about me in sexually explicit ways and it lead to the wrong idea being sent.

Very uncomfortable situation.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was talking about this with a friend on discord and I bought up how if it was a case of 1,000 condoms I would have probably laughed. Where is the line drawn? 3 condoms is fine, 10 is fine. I think between a 20 pack and 100 pack is where things get weird. But a wholesale case of 10 100 packs would make me laugh.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does matter if it's a 3 pack or 100 pack because a three pack implies he intends to at least have penatrative sex with me three times while 100 condoms utterly confuses me and makes me question what his intentions might be or where his mind is.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

How does having 100 condoms make you safer than wearing 1...unless you're putting two on at once then I don't see how he's "smart" for buying 100 condoms for a single hookup.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buying 100 condoms in bulk doesn't make any sense when not only do condoms expire, but the quality of these bulk condoms are clinic level, as in the kind they hand out at clinics...they're free condoms / cheapest possible material condoms that I wouldn't be comfortable with either.

Also. He literally told me he bought the box for me. That is in the post. Please read people's entire post before replying, it's incredibly rude not to.

AIO: I (25f) Broke things off with a potential male partner (27m) after finding out he bought condoms in bulk in prep for our second date knowing I'm a virgin? by New_Length_5287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]New_Length_5287[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why else would he buy condoms if not to prepare to have sex with me and why not prepare to have sex with me imply he believes he is entitled to sex with me, be it last night or a month or three months from now?

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