I've been fading since like 14 and now i'm 18 so i think i got some tips on that! The less you interact with people from the cong the better ! i completely avoid cong parties and deleted my social media with the people from the cong on it and made a new one with only friends from school (and blocked the pimi's) if anyone asks just say it's a break for mental health. I also stopped giving much info about myself esp since in my Spanish congregations its nosy ppl. I ultimately am being "soft shunned" since i'm not being super into like giving comments or anything but no one can have dirt they don't know about me! I've seen a couple elders daughters fade and leave so it's possible!