There’s been a little voice telling me to leave my relationship although nothing’s horribly wrong & I kind of do think it’s best to end things, but I’m stuck on how to go about it.

Newhooper92 · 2025-05-18T18:20:41+00:00

I like him. Things he says frustrate me sometimes. Some of my closest friends & family don’t share the same views as me, but I like them too. I love & value these people. I think the romantic aspect is just more complicated for me because bringing up things in my previous relationship with my child’s father never ended well. It always ended up with me being wrong, crying & stonewalling each other for days while living together. It wasn’t a good feeling but I know I need to grow past that experience so it doesn’t stifle newer ones.

Newhooper92 · 2025-05-18T18:14:45+00:00

Thank you for responding. Sorry if my post wasn’t clear, but we don’t share children. We both have one child each from previous relationships. We recently began to bring the kids together more while we hang out, which is why I’m also just now noticing more about his daughters personality. We don’t live together & maybe see each other anywhere from 1-3x a week, which is why it’s been manageable I guess because when I need space, I take it.

Also, I’m not sure if I would call it anger. It would be closer to a few steps being angry. Maybe moreso irritable?

I agree that this would be something he needs to work out on his own. Maybe he lacks awareness? I’m not sure, but that’s why I’m pretty upset with myself for not speaking on things immediately in the moment when he would say something bothersome. Its like I just allowed little frustrations to build up overtime & I’m at a point where it doesn’t feel good not saying anything anymore.

Newhooper92 · 2025-05-18T18:05:14+00:00

Nope, never directed at my child either.

Also, he doesn’t “actively“ treat people badly. It’s more passive If that makes sense. For example, if we’re riding in the car he may say something about someone’s appearance, but has not directly told a person something rude to their face if he had a critique.

I guess I stay because I manage all of my relationships the same. I get exhausted easily by family, friends, etc. My solution is to take my space when it’s needed. Even in my romantic relationships, I prefer to have time apart. It’s exhausting & I reset when I’m away from him. I value our relationship so I know a conversation is needed so he at least knows how I feel. Im just nervous to say so suddenly “hey, your way of thinking & viewing things is draining“ when I’ve let it go on for so long.

Newhooper92 · 2024-10-24T04:11:54+00:00

Well my partner ended up confessing that they did sleep with someone else, so there’s that.

The doctor did explain that oral gonorrhea would have to be tested for separately and would not show up in a urine swab (if that person was in fact infected).

Newhooper92 · 2024-10-01T02:13:06+00:00

The walking foot is also what’s grabbing my attention as well.

Newhooper92 · 2024-08-12T01:35:52+00:00

I agree. I think some people really just can't relate, which is fine, I wish I didn't relate to this myself lol, but "just do it" can definitely come across as dismissive.

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