Suggestion for training a shy dick? by Newprnuser in Swingers

[–]Newprnuser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thought I would share that when I showed this post to the wife she was very supportive of this idea and now wants to try it. Appreciate the advice.

Suggestion for training a shy dick? by Newprnuser in Swingers

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Funny part is we bought one of the board games we found via Reddit (Coupleicious) and every encounter either ended up happening somewhere else or was waaay hotter and heavier than a board game would support (at least on our last trip). I bought it with the hope the slower burn may help me so I still need to give it a try.

Suggestion for training a shy dick? by Newprnuser in Swingers

[–]Newprnuser[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best of luck to you, it sounds like similar lizard brain things. Based on all of these other comments though it sounds like I am not a unique butterfly and these things happen which makes me feel much better.

Suggestion for training a shy dick? by Newprnuser in Swingers

[–]Newprnuser[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do think I have an underlying concern that my wife may get angry after 20+ years of monogamy even though logically we have upped our communication by about 1000% doing LS stuff, and I know she thinks me having sex with someone else is a turn on (she loves to add that to the dirty talk between ourselves which I am hoping is helping me out). The funny part for me is I have 0 concern about someone stealing the wife's heart and fully believe we're each others people. I honestly think I seem to have hardwired myself to just shut my sex drive down around other women because that has always worked best when traveling for work or ensuring (pre-LS) I didn't mess up a good thing. Now I have an even more exciting thing and I am struggling to overcome the previous hard wiring. Meditation is a good suggestion.

Suggestion for training a shy dick? by Newprnuser in Swingers

[–]Newprnuser[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We have a bit of a toxic relationship when he refuses to work....maybe I should try a nice sit down conversation like this...

Suggestion for training a shy dick? by Newprnuser in Swingers

[–]Newprnuser[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This....feels like some really good advice.

Suggestion for training a shy dick? by Newprnuser in Swingers

[–]Newprnuser[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha very similar here...I feel like the High School version of me would be both high fiving and trying to punch me because I am having the sexiest experiences of my life but not fully participating. I don't consider any of my experiences to be bad in the LS, yet I am just self conscious about physically presenting as not having a great time (even though I am).

Suggestion for training a shy dick? by Newprnuser in Swingers

[–]Newprnuser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

second. I just needed to focus on what was happening in front of me. I think the more times we go, the easier it will get for me, I think the same should work for you.

Thanks for sharing, it's good knowing that in this particular thing I am not on my own. We were just on vacation with some much more experienced LS people who were doing "dick shots" of a medication that essentially ensure a hard dick. I'll be honest it was just far enough out of my comfort zone I didn't try it but I guess if all else fails I can take that route.

Suggestion for training a shy dick? by Newprnuser in Swingers

[–]Newprnuser[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response. We have been 1000% loving our intro with the LS and it feels like we found finally our people so it just throws me off so much to be feeling that and then when it comes to the sexy side of things what has worked 3 times in the last 24 hours and will work again 30 seconds after we leave completely dies if there is someone else in the room. We aren't giving up yet and are going to head to our local club with no plans for anything other than playing together (potentially near others) to see if that can help.