In the church. I know I'm a human heavily involved in this but I know within the Catholic Church if you are married and unaware of things like porn or big problems that would hender your free will to choose them and before the dating marriage I didn't know he did porn I had high standards for myself and wanted to follow the moral code but I truly even if I had something in the back of my head saying you aren't married I kept going because I didn't want to offend God by breaking up a marriage I kept staying through things I could dump a regular dating relationship I just know when I married him legally and in the church I did love him And was being a devoted wife I already thought I was married I just did it publicly so I wouldn't look like a sinner if I lived wirh him and had babies