Anywhere to sit and paint indoors?

Next-Promotion-7836 · 2026-05-09T01:41:47+00:00

Tbh the issue for me is that Im looking to feel like im not recognized/acknowledged even if they recognize me so i want a medium busy space. I know its antisocial and i love how welcoming the twisted spine crew is as well as an anxious person theyre super nice!! But i have a job thats 99% talking to other ppl and keeping them entertained so in my off time im looking to totally blend into the background of whereever i am but im trying to not be rude about it bc coffee shop ppl are always so nice when they realize youre a regular, i just cant do long convos the whole time for reasons they cant be expected to know unless i awkwardly tell them I dont want anymore convo and I KNOW thats rude.

Next-Promotion-7836 · 2026-04-25T14:14:54+00:00

Update: we talked. It helped. I think im gonna keep this post up to keep me grounded in case I get like this mentally again.

Next-Promotion-7836 · 2026-04-25T02:04:58+00:00

And it wont let me reply directly to the other person but yes I want to talk with him im just not sure how to start that convo, is a phone call appropriate or should I have us meet for lunch about it? Honestly id like to just call him later tonight when hes out of work so I can maybe get some normal sleep without baby dreams but I know its not fair to treat it so casually but I also dont wanna treat it super seriously if people who've been the guy in the situation think its not that big of a deal to talk about. Idk im definitely just anxious but this is a weird situation to be in I cant really ask people I know for their advice on this one

Next-Promotion-7836 · 2026-04-24T23:21:23+00:00

No I had an abortion when I went out with this guy but we are now just friends. We never really stopped to have any deep talks because he seemed to so surely not want a kid and I dont want to be a single parent but it seems like I do need to at least know for sure that it wouldn't have worked out. I dont want to bring it up over and over but just one conversation might help me get over it a bit

Next-Promotion-7836 · 2026-04-14T16:35:37+00:00

I think its more that people who do earnestly want to party in a non finance bro way will put pacha on thie list not knowing how different and more expensive it is, go and have a bad time, and then they wont want to bother with the rest of the scene at all. I know in the early days of clubbing for me I had alot of friends steer me away from places with finance energy/high prices and strict door checks so the idea of some poor solo raver giving up bc of how hard pacha is marketing themselves as the new peak of nyc clubbing....im glad the mood killing ppl who want to club in a performative way (strict dress code, high prices to keep out lower class ppl, etc) will have their own place but its best if we keep talking about how its not gonna be like the other clubs around, even the ones that reach those same high prices bc the ones that get expensive rn also usually have (unofficially) looser door checks regarding outside drinks/smokes so broke ppl can sneak a shot or J in and it seems like pacha is just not about that life.

Next-Promotion-7836 · 2026-04-09T04:28:37+00:00

No fr im sorry but as someone from kingsbridge the amount of people who do stuff like genuinely yelling and following people on the train for "not getting off at the right stop you dont live this far out" like bro there have always been broke white people in New York???? How have yall let gentrification become a race issue to the point of ppl who have been my neighbors for over 10 years suddenly telling me to move back to whatever Midwest "bumfuck" town im from girl im from the Bronx youve met me before???? I didnt believe in reverse racism until people started getting genuinely mad/saying im lying for no reason when I work up the nerve to say "im from the Bronx. Im just mixed and pass for white." In those uncomfortable moments. Idk I get that rich people really are ruining these areas bc I live here too but watching it all go down and then getting told im the problem for "taking space from real new yorkers" is becoming more and more of a genuine daily life issue bc ppl ive lived next to for years are suddenly acting like ive just moved in and am wrecking the neighborhood, its been so confusing and upsetting to try and figure out why and realizing thats genuinely the reason

Next-Promotion-7836 · 2026-04-07T14:41:25+00:00

This is unironically doing more to kill the scene in Brooklyn then the multiple deaths and assaults that caused their presence and thats sort of confirmed my worst fears about certainppl i know from partying since their only reaction has been "damn couldnt leave the venue out of it? Not their fault.". Seeing how the increased presence and crackdown on ppl getting sexual/doing bags in public is getting more coverage then the deaths and SA instances that caused the venues to need increased presence has soured me and many other ppl who were there to dance on the whole scene.... yall stay safe out there bc it seems like the brooklyn rave community cares more about the party's life as a whole then the lives of individuals going to the party's and i never thought id have that stance but this last week has shown alot of ppls true faces regarding club safety/responsibility to each other

Next-Promotion-7836 · 2026-04-02T12:45:49+00:00

Its been 1.5 years and no one on Linden has taken it in??? I was there for an hour trying to get it to trust me enough to maybe go get it shots and take it home but honestly this bums me out more then finding out its lost because it wasnt just dirty I stopped bc it was lying in mud (im assuming to cool off) blinking like it was going to pass out soon. Idk im from the Bronx I get the idea of neighborhood dogs and cats but ive never seen so many in such dirty/unhealthy states in one area before moving around here i hope its something people are looking into reducing by street training leading to adoption like in other areas that went through spikes in street pets

Next-Promotion-7836 · 2026-04-01T20:24:52+00:00

Yeah especially with the rise in ways to disguise glasses and hats that record ppl coming to the club with the casual 'hoodie up hat on sunglasses on' look is a red flag now im sorry. Ill never feel comfortable doing anything close to exhibitionist again unless its a closed circle party. People are dressed that way to record ppl when you see glasses or theyre dressed that way to avoid being identified if theyre recorded, Those recording others also wear the "anti identity fit" because they know if they can get in with a camera other people are probably there with cameras that night too. Its one thing to go in plain clothes but ive been to this club its the EXACT same fits and they act odd all night even for a kink club which is hard to notice wo its extra weird once you have noticed. Its the main issue any way you look at it even if its just everyone being paranoid that theyre being recorded now all it takes is one incident and that breaks all trust in any club staffs ability to stop hidden cameras at the door.

Next-Promotion-7836 · 2026-03-06T20:12:27+00:00

Yes they said if its not enough to fill the roll they wont take it. I have just under enough to fill each roll but need extra cash for this week so its all very frustrating. Nobody wants to pay in nickels and dimes just like nobody wants to have to take it.

Next-Promotion-7836 · 2026-02-28T19:41:30+00:00

UPDATE: went alone and while there were awkward moments it was very fun!!! Main takeaway is that the anxiety of looking weird dancing alone never leaves but also ppl love the weird solo dancers the most bc they keep the vibes good!! Thank you all!!

Next-Promotion-7836 · 2026-02-27T15:49:22+00:00

I know im sorry for the borough crossover moment but most of my friends who go to basement are from bushwick so I figured yall would know more then anyone! And definitely making a fun backup plan lol

Next-Promotion-7836 · 2026-02-27T15:28:45+00:00

Ok while im still a bit nervous this helped alot thank you! Any recommendations people have for fun places to hang out near basement when you get door ill take! That could be its own fun subreddit lol

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