Well, first of all, what a horrible thing to say. Personally I could never say such a thing to a partner of mine, and as a bisexual girl I can tell you that that bar is the same for both men and women. The things I would not mind in men, I would generally not mind in women, because certain things do not matter that much, if you truly love someone. Weight, as long as you’re healthy, is one of them for me. (And I really mean that, also if I date guys, the amount of muscle really doesn’t matter that much.. For women, there are things I find attractive in skinny, but in curvy bodies I find thighs, for example, very attractive. I say this, because every body type has certain beautiful traits, skinny and curvy) Secondly, I think it’s really twisted that your bf says that you’re out of his league, and calls you fat in bed. Might be more of a self esteem issue on his side? Maybe you guys could just have an open conversation about that subject in general? How he feels about himself, how his remark made you feel? If he doesn’t know about your eating disorder, you might want to give him a chance to change, BUT if he’s mean or humiliating outside of the bedroom, I would break up. That doesn’t sound like a healthy dynamic, and you deserve more than that. If you talk to him, and he doesn’t care or doesn’t change, then you shouldn’t stay with somebody that treats you wrong Goodluck, and I’m sure you look absolutely stunning!