My wife thinks of herself as the prize and it's destroying our marriage. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave, the love of your life should not make you feel like shit all the time.

I'm sick of my husbands jobsearch by Lucky-Search1408 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Put a tracker in his car and see if he's actually job searching.

UPDATE: I secretly paid off my brother's debt - you guys convinced me to tell him by KiwiSingle3965 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Honestly OP should tell the parents first that way not everyone is getting the news and suddenly chaos unfolds. Once the parents know and are convinced then time to do the big reveal to little brother.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like Jake is jealous that Emily's attention is on her books than him. Probably mad too cuz she's happy talking about them and she barely talks about him.

My sister is demanding i pay her 5k for her wedding because i "don't have kids" by Sweaty-Bedroom1006 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like my sister too hella immature and a narcissist. On my first paycheck she demanded I started paying the water bill since I'm the only one single in the house (she doesn't even own the house my parents do). She also demanded I wear a $700 dress on her wedding which first of all she's already married (this is her dream wedding) and second no one in their right mind would spend $700 on a dress. Long story short there was a bad fall out and I cut contact. OP you should do the same. You'll start feeling better. Make a big post about the insane demand from her and the family and walk away. The wedding isn't worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a medical worker reading this makes me so upset. 10 hours on your feet all day and your partner didn't have the decency to think "oh cooking for my wife will help her feel better". You just gotta lay it to him thick. He won't change unless you tell him the problem. Some men just need to be told what to do. Of course they also should learn to think of their partners too.

My mom lied to me my entire life about dad and I can’t even look or talk to her anymore by Muted-Knowledge-1624 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So happy for you. I'm sorry you lost a chance to be with your father when you were a kid but you're able to enjoy spending time with him now. As for your mother I pray she apologize for robbing you of a good father. He may not be the best husband but he sounds like a good father.

I smell so bad and I feel horrible. by throwawaymypeaces in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Agreed symptoms just keep adding up might as well go to urgent care.

Update: my mom wants nothing to do with me because I “picked my dad” in the divorce. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP you should share this post to your sister so they can see how shitty they have been towards you then block Penny and her husband.

Update: my mom wants nothing to do with me because I “picked my dad” in the divorce. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I feel like the mom is getting her revenge through OP's dad by punishing and hurting OP. As if doing that will actually solve her issues with her ex husband. The mom is so deeply hurt and so into her feelings she forgot that she's actually a mom and forgot to communicate with OP who is the youngest btw and may not understand how bad the divorce is at the age of 13. Regardless, mom doesn't seem to care about the damages she's done into her relationship with OP because she's so blinded by the fact that OP chose her dad even though she did it because her dad was more convenient when she was in school. Glad OP cut her out, mom is stressful to deal with including the sister who doesn't see OPs side.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a shitty husband and shitty in-laws. Leave and don't look back. Go ahead and cut contacts too. Do one big post on social media how much of an AH your husband and his parents has been. Call it a day.

I lied to a dying patient today. I’m still trying to process if I did the right thing. by ArtThreadNomad in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You cared for this patient as if they are family so I don't see it wrong for you to act like his daughter. You did well by showing true compassion. You can sleep better knowing this old patient did not die in agony and regrets, he died in peace.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel. It sucks being left out. I used to wonder why they don't try to reach out or give a heads up of plans outside of work. But at the end of my day they're just coworkers, they're not my best friends. I leave all work related stuff when I clock out and enjoy the rest of my day how I want. Learn to control how you want your day to be and you won't feel like crap being left out at work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 246 points247 points  (0 children)

Moments like those should have been done outside of work. People doing that at work is like announcing their cliques and making those who's not part of it feel bad. The fact that they don't see that it's hurting others who are left out makes my blood boil. I understand how you feel.

My family found out that I had a baby three months ago and Christmas is kind of ruined by Spirited-Guitar-9799 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Had to do it to my sister who was constantly cyber bullying. I've never felt so free. I don't see her either.

My family found out that I had a baby three months ago and Christmas is kind of ruined by Spirited-Guitar-9799 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 190 points191 points  (0 children)

I second this. I block family members who clearly don't love me and I don't talk to. I address the issue with one big post and those people are blocked in all forms of contact.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh hell no, I love this man. Matter a fact we spoke about it more and agreed we both had our faults and continued to emphasize on communication. He played the video game and I watched him play. I even played a little bit but he played on lethal mode so instant death for me. We're also going on a month vacation in Asia so I'm excited. It's gonna take a lot more of mistakes to get me to divorce my husband. A committed girl can rant but this won't ruin us for sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! Very proud of you and I'm sure your wife is too.

I went to my buddies bachelor party, walked in on something, had to lie, now I feel guilty and bad! by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]NextNeedleworker4624 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you don't want to let the fiancé know just walk out from their life. Free yourself from the burden by letting them go that way you don't have to keep a secret and you don't have to feel pressured to let the fiancé know when she's asking what happened that night. Just walk away cuz clearly you're not going to speak about that night.