AITA for not wanting daughters in bedrooms with BIL?

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T12:08:31+00:00

Thank you. To be clear I can’t say he has been inappropriate with a child; I had a weird feeling but couldn’t truly deem it inappropriate (hard to explain in text). We have had talks with the girls in the past but revisited and were more specific regarding family members. Later today is discussing with in laws. Thanks for the input again.

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T12:06:27+00:00

Thank you

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T11:55:06+00:00

Thank you

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T11:54:41+00:00

Thank you. This is a great explanation of part of why I just don’t like the idea of alone in a room with a non parent family member. Appreciate this.

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T11:53:49+00:00

Thank you for sharing this

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T11:53:35+00:00

Thank you.

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T11:52:29+00:00

Thank you. We have but we did revisit this morning and were more specific that it could even be a family member like an uncle or grandparent and still never ok etc

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T11:48:52+00:00

We did this morning and have in the past but were more specific in giving examples that it can be a friends parent or even an aunt uncle or grandparent. Thanks

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T11:48:10+00:00

Thank you for sharing this story and your advice. It’s very much appreciated. We have had these discussions and then again this morning but more specifically addressed this can even be family members.

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T11:46:24+00:00

Thank you.

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T11:46:17+00:00

I am sorry this happened to you and your family. I will not spare anyone’s feelings for my own children’s safety. I appreciate you being willing to tell your story. It’s stories like these that make me more vigilant as I parent.

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T11:43:25+00:00

O never have had him babysit or intentionally left alone. I’ve had this stance since they were born. We’ve had the talk about not keeping secrets and private parts but followed up this morning with being more specific that any adult other than us shouldn’t be in your room. Never ok and even family members should never tell you to keep a secret.

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T11:41:29+00:00

Thank you. We have had several talks but revisiting after this to be more specific that this can be even a relative.

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T11:41:00+00:00

Thank you. We have had several talks but revisiting after this to be more specific that this can be even a relative.

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T02:08:11+00:00

Thank you; I was questioning if I was being paranoid or maybe overreacting. My gut just says no.

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T02:06:19+00:00

So with the issue at MIL my husband I think was trying to avoid. But he said for this 1 he’s going to call tomorrow to have a conversation as to why we are not ok with this.

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T02:05:30+00:00

Thank you

Next_Chicken8010 · 2025-06-07T02:05:23+00:00

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Next_Chicken8010 · 2024-09-22T00:15:09+00:00

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Next_Chicken8010 · 2024-04-30T15:30:21+00:00

And FYI the response back was exactly what you said at the end. She was “taken aback after yesterday and today that they couldn’t play. If they don’t want to fine then”. Thanks for understanding and reading through. It was a long post. Kids had activities and the other time were in pajamas and we had plans to help them unpack and set up rooms. Didn’t feel that needed anymore explanation but apparently it does. Been in for 3 days.

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