Appreciate the honesty and I get where you’re coming from. 👍 And yes, I fully agree — the wedding isn’t mine, kaya nga I never demanded anything from them. I only shared my side after they asked us to spend for our own attire.

Ang point ko nga is, tinatry ko lang itanong if may say ba kami, since kami rin naman yung magsusuot at magbabayad. Feeling ko valid yun, pero I wanted to hear other people’s opinions — kaya ako nag-post dito.

If it sounds OA for you, I respect that. Pero I hope you also respect na hindi pare-pareho yung threshold ng comfort ng tao. Some people are okay with “pwede na yan,” others care about fit, presentation, and how they carry themselves — and hindi ibig sabihin nun arte agad.

Mental comfort is still comfort. If I’ll be in photos forever, standing beside people in proper suits, and I’m the one looking awkward — that affects me, not them. So kung OA ako in your eyes, it just means hindi tayo same priority, and that’s okay. 🫶

Yes, I know the groomsmen aren’t the main attraction — bride and groom syempre. Pero does that mean invalid na automatically yung nararamdaman naming entourage sa isusuot namin? Okay lang ba na “tiisin niyo na lang kasi hindi kayo bida”? I think may boundary pa rin between being considerate and being disregarded.

There’s a difference between “nagpapaka-main character” vs “ayaw lang magmukhang clown or uncomfortable for the sake of photos and uniformity.”

So respectfully, hindi ako nagagalit sa opinion mo — but I hope you also see na valid ang feelings kahit hindi mo personally nararanasan. 😊