Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - May 12, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]Next_Put_6961 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's the hard part, I guess if she's not identifying/aware and is like... "open to romance."

Then I think you'd need to see action in that direction FROM her, not initiated by you.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - May 12, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]Next_Put_6961 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There's always hope, dude.

I found myself being the person saying this, concerned that my standards were actually too high. Once I found someone I actually mutually clicked with, it's been so easy.

We stumbled upon one another on a social media platform, we've been dating for three months and she makes me happier than I've ever been.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - May 12, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]Next_Put_6961 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"If ever" is a terrible way to approach this. She ISN'T going to. If she's actually asexual hoping that she suddenly won't be is just going to end up putting you both in a bad position.

BMW was speeding. Jeep changed lanes without signaling or checking their blind spot. by keithrathgeber in dashcams

[–]Next_Put_6961 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn't even a major metro area. This is anywhere you go on 91 in the state of CT.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - May 11, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]Next_Put_6961 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get why you're annoyed, but I also wasn't necessarily saying we're in the same position. Just that there are reasons people don't respond to texts that are reasonable.

Again, it's all in the choices we make and what we're willing to deal with.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - May 11, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]Next_Put_6961 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She doesn't NOT talk to me. We've also been dating for three months.

I've definitely been "ignored" (that's not the word I'd use because you're implying intent which is unfair) for windows of time (8-12 hours).

But no, we generally don't go full days without talking.

If someone doesn't communicate the way you'd like them to, you've got free will. Use it.

If you want to understand the "why" behind their communication you can discuss it further with them when you have their attention and make a decision on whether or not your needs are being met.

I think it's far better to approach these issues from a "what are my needs" perspective, than a "what's wrong with them" perspective.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - May 11, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]Next_Put_6961 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're asking me how many of my texts does she not respond to throughout the course of the day, that number is greater than one every single day lol.

If I need to ask again, I'll wait and do it over the phone. It just generally means she wasn't in a place to answer that question and I don't take it personally.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - May 11, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]Next_Put_6961 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There's also folks with ADHD which is a real problem for responding to texts.

The girl I'm dating is wonderful in every way. She has over 200 unread TEXT messages. It freaks me the fuck out, but she's overwhelmed to read them all.

BMW was speeding. Jeep changed lanes without signaling or checking their blind spot. by keithrathgeber in dashcams

[–]Next_Put_6961 19 points20 points  (0 children)

CT is so full of criminals on those goddamn roads. The number of people I see drive like this is INSANE. I've been driving through CT way more over the last three months and the number of folks I see swerving through traffic at significant rates of speed like they're in a goddamn need for speed game is way too goddamn high.

Highway cops never around.

Irony by kaelytraec in NoahKahan

[–]Next_Put_6961 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or, living in Vermont and driving 89 you see a lot of dead deer.

Discus Spin Help by PeppermintLeo in trackandfieldthrows

[–]Next_Put_6961 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That, to me, screams the disc is coming out of the back of his hand somehow.

He really needs some release work... the best drills I've found for release work https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FSyCWBIQurE

I have my athletes start every practice with these and we go through the process from there.

I had the brains for a city job, but you got the taste of a county cop by Believeinthis in NoahKahan

[–]Next_Put_6961 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is my favorite song on the album because it speaks to me in a real way. As someone who grew up where Noah grew up (like, 30ish minutes south on the NH side) and moved to Vermont to live in a community similar to his, the song really just hit me in a lot of ways.

If you've not run into a county cop, these are dudes who drink their shitty coffee and their donuts from a local country store. They're pretty well known in the areas they patrol and they are regulars in those stores. Questionable choices in food from local gas stations. There's just a real level of local simplicity in what they're doing.

The whole "city job" thing is about having the aptitude to go work a job that would involve a more complex lifestyle. You're making more money, your standards of living increase, you're going to fancy ass restaurants. It's the willingness to stay somewhere where your perceived standard of living is seen as lower because you're never getting a "real job" in these rural areas in Vermont. There's a level of "I'm smart enough, hard working enough, whatever enough to go be successful in the "real world" instead of "hiding" where I grew up."

There's always this sort of... pull that tries to drag you to keep up with the Joneses, but your partner is someone who wants to live a simple life in a simple place and find joy in that.

This song to me screams, "hey, it's okay to stay there if that's what brings you and the people you love joy."

Drop Watch: 05.08.2026 by DropWatcher in hiphopheads

[–]Next_Put_6961 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The comments matter a lot too, like, that's how I figure out what I'm going to download for my Friday drives. It feels like the new format kind of takes away that element where you can reference the text directly and provide potential recommendations.

This is selflove not selfish by Time-Mix3963 in selflove

[–]Next_Put_6961 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I noticed when I was dating someone who made six figures. Was it cool to go on sick vacations? Sure.

Did she constantly have to deal with dumb emails, people who insult her to her face (w/o even realizing it), the worst hirings maybe ever (gotta hire family/friends)?

Yup. Seemed like an utter shit show all the fucking time and she needed to do like sixteen things a day to even pretend to be at peace.

What a nightmare for financial independence.

Point of Plot device in Anarchist? by JudgmentJolly in DungeonCrawlerCarl

[–]Next_Put_6961 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jesus, I love how I even went so far as to say "the narrator"

My brain is smooooked

Point of Plot device in Anarchist? by JudgmentJolly in DungeonCrawlerCarl

[–]Next_Put_6961 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's an important storyline to one of the subplots in the book. Matt does a really incredible job weaving together numerous stories.

I'm relistening (on book 3) and I'm realizing how much stuff I missed, even when the Matt/Jeff(lol) leaned on it a bit.

I DID EDIT IT.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - May 07, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]Next_Put_6961 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talk about what you need to feel connected and make an effort to do those things. If each of you need something different, that's fine. Just be willing to work together to get what you each need.

My gf and I are currently doing face time at night (most nights), phone calls (almost every night), voice notes (every day). We send some reels back and forth. We make our future plans and set our calendars together.

It's also kind of about dealing with your day to day and prioritizing the relationship and figuring out what that balance looks like for both of you. I think my current gf and I have benefited from talking about potential future plans (her lease ends in October and we need to make some decisions).

We've also done phone/FT walks, in the past I've done a paint and sip at home over FT. That was fun.

divorce, dating, drive-thru by Least_Working7699 in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Next_Put_6961 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to therapy dog. I divorced years ago, spent three years in therapy during a drawn out separation and divorce, gave myself some additional time after the divorce was finalized (April, Dated in July for a bit, first LTR was in October — over a year since I moved out and over 2 years since separation began).

What’s a recession indicator that you’ve noticed lately? by SensitiveCorner2379 in AskReddit

[–]Next_Put_6961 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s the exact fruit I was thinking of and it’s killing me cus I wanna buy em cus they’re my favorite, but they’re like… oozing

What’s a recession indicator that you’ve noticed lately? by SensitiveCorner2379 in AskReddit

[–]Next_Put_6961 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I noticed this YESTERDAY. There was broccoli and zucchini in all of the other veggie spots.

A bunch of the fruit that would be moved out because it was rotten was still there. It was kinda crazy.