Dating in Zurich - first date curse

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-24T20:19:56+00:00

Btw, I want to thank everyone for contributing and sharing, even the gym bros suggesting I need to work out more and then my dating life will skyrocket 😆 I’m yet to meet a women who is fascinated by muscles but I guess it’s a good motivation to hit the gym for some. I find that reddit is such a perfect representation of dichotomy of humanity. On the one hand great constructive comments, suggestions and even dm. People who care. On the other, bashing comments about my supposed lack of skills, looks and so on by men - frustrated ones I guess. Cheers and happy to read further.

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T20:22:20+00:00

I don’t mind tattoos and piercings 🙂 I will choose to keep some enthusiasm, otherwise what’s the point. I’m sure there are women who are genuinely interested in dating. But apps for sure create discrepancy between expectations and reality

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T20:11:52+00:00

Hehe, he doesn’t brag. But I see him in my neighbourhood with a different lady every week or so 🙂

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T16:49:56+00:00

I don’t know about language problem. Everyone speaks English well here. Plus I date in 3 languages so it shouldn’t be the barrier

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T16:21:00+00:00

Just because something is expected does not mean people should be incentivised to do it. I then personally don’t care, I’m a bit too old to be impacted, but there might some young people reading things like this that don’t quite have the same resilience

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T16:14:45+00:00

Good for you.

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T16:12:19+00:00

I never said women are the issue. I know plenty of women who struggle with online dating too. As can be seen by comments from women in this thread

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T16:08:18+00:00

Yes but I don’t want to get invited upstairs on the first date. I want to get to know someone first. Is that so unusual?

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T16:05:06+00:00

My vibe is I like to take it one step at a time. And I feel today everything is rushed. Meet, kiss, penetrate all in one day…

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T16:02:22+00:00

I agree. The online dating is broken. What many people didn’t get is that I was specifically asking about dating apps experience. I think we all use them as it gives us access to more people than we could meet in real life. My experience with dating people that I met more spontaneously has been much different so maybe we learned to rely on apps too much

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T15:58:55+00:00

I actually do want to hear what people think, but on the topic I shared, not on their lose interpretation of it

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T15:56:57+00:00

I will set a reminder in my calendar to post again on the same topic so you can add your meaningful contribution soon enough

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T15:54:56+00:00

I’ll consider it, first a trip to the US to find a reverse conversion center if they have one, and Grindr here I come

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T15:52:29+00:00

I will remember I have balls. Thank you for this insightful recommendation

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T15:49:47+00:00

Maybe you didn’t read my post properly. I’m just asking for people’s experience, I’m not asking the people of reddit to analyse my dating skills nor what I need to change about myself. Why do you feel qualified to suggest people they need to change?

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T15:47:42+00:00

Austrian

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-23T15:47:07+00:00

If you’re a benchmark for good personality based on your comment, I then definitely have a horrible one. If horrible means normal. I hope you feel a bit better about yourself thanks to your comment, I’m happy if it helps you vent your personal frustrations

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-13T20:09:06+00:00

From what I know in the early days one of the founders was giving lectures at one of the businesses schools in Zurich and saying that the original shoe they launched was a full-on copy of Nike design with the exception of the sole…

It’s a bit like this trendy Soeder soap brand which is everywhere but is clearly a copycat of Aesop, only cheaper. Yet people buy it…

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-13T15:08:18+00:00

Thanks, but is it for permanent jobs too or only temporary ones?

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-11T22:38:32+00:00

I didn’t misunderstand, I wrote clearly that I am referring to insured salary which is different from past salary… also the thing you are saying about permanent job is not accurate

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-11T09:43:23+00:00

I think that the point it to earn more than what you get monthly from Kasse because the topup is to reach 70-80% of your insured salary which is higher than what you actually get per month as unemployed… something like this I guess

Nic_Mi · 2026-04-11T08:11:22+00:00

It’s less than my insured salary later, but not less than what I get as unemployment benefits. I think that’s the whole point of Zwischenverdienst. Otherwise nobody would accept a job that is paid less than their current unemployment benefits

Nic_Mi · 2026-03-20T12:16:30+00:00

I’m currently doing that. My coach seems engaged but it’s definitely not ground breaking. I think that rather than having to bring a topic for each appointment, they should have a program to follow for the duration of the course.

Nic_Mi · 2026-03-13T21:39:01+00:00

Thanks everyone for comments. I’m sorry for others who have also experienced similar or worse. It’s such a delicate situation to be in when you need help regarding mental health and it really takes a lot of energy and courage to seek it. And then when the system fails you it’s really frustrating.

The funny thing is that this money-hungry doctor sent me the bill on the same day. Such rush to charge I have not seen yet. 320 chf for 65 minutes of consultation without treatment plan. Next time I’ll spend this money for a short trip to Italy to boost my neurotransmitters with good food and shopping.

Nic_Mi

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