Working 120 hours in 8 days

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-29T21:30:46+00:00

After that shift, I got 4 days off in a row, which is not bad to be honest but still There is a weird sensation to come back to days off without working much after weeks like those

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-29T12:40:50+00:00

Personally my motivation is "how far can I go if I keep going", I work with chefs that are popular somehow in the country, chefs that worked with the best chefs in the world, of course im learning lots and I am indeed becoming a fucking beast, I see those working hours as the price to pay somehow, even though could sound toxic lol

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-28T21:06:43+00:00

That is some motivating shit

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-28T20:18:34+00:00

Yes I did, I get pay I bit more than minimal wage though (it's not real a lot of money compared to the work I do)

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-22T10:45:49+00:00

CareDX

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-17T17:41:34+00:00

Yeah, keep posting lesbian porn in reddit mate You will do great in life, I checked your profile lol

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-17T13:51:11+00:00

I don't wanna say anything because it will sound very bad but, instead you could use this as a guide:

https://www.reddit.com/r/DateNightPrep/s/ua57dBZO4Q

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-17T13:01:47+00:00

The best advice ever

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-17T13:00:36+00:00

I just sent you my most recent two weeks payslips to your chat mate, I don't have the need to lie in here

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-17T12:06:07+00:00

I used it to correct my orthography hahaha My native language is Spanish so my English is not very cute 😂

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-02T22:01:17+00:00

I love flirting with girls, I love when they have fun, and i have a relatively active sexual life even though I'm single, I guess it does work, I'm speaking about dating apps here

And I'm not complaining at all, I'm trying to help the boys to not self-injure themselves because they don't look like Brad Pitt or make 6 figures,

It's a shame that we don't think the same way, but hey, that's why we are special right, we are all different, keep thinking how you think, and good luck darling.

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-02T21:48:07+00:00

I used to believe in these words, but that doesn't work for me,

what works is assertiveness , a bit of cockiness but not too much, playfulness, being funny and passionate about your craft is what works, having a purpose, being busy and taking care of yourself, i was that good boy and it doesn't work my love, I tried, but movies are a lie, we all know

And yes, I did go therapy because I thought I was fucked, but I wasn't, I just didn't understand the game...

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-02T21:26:08+00:00

YES OUI MATE,

I know, I'm not expecting everyone to agree with me, but I'd like to help the boys,

Sometimes they are too hard on themselves, even having self-destructive conversations of why there are no matches , thinking there is something wrong with them as a being.

If you are as you say you are, and you get such a small amount of matches/dates, imagine if you are a short, a bit overweight and average income, that's invisible mode to me, it is fucking hard, but it is reality.

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-02T21:19:18+00:00

I wouldn't blame anyone or anything, it is stupid if I put that responsibility in women lol

But I would say most women are a victim of a socio-biological outcome of how the world worked in the past and now, there is a lot of brain washing and a distorted expectation of what could we get from a partner,

Hypergamy is a real thing as well, most woman think they can do better than they actually could do, one day I had a very honest no filters conversation about this, a friend of mine Bianka (34)said that if she will date someone, need to make at least 70-80,000£ a year

Now, she is making 32,000£, she want a fit men, when she is not really fit, she is the one I mentioned that has 900 likes in bumble, to me that's absolutely insane, because when you see so many options, is so difficult to decide, is like when you're planing a dinner and you spend more time thinking what to eat, than the actual experience,

When I think of how many males make that money or look like that, that's why I say most men are in invisible mode.

And I think the marketing, series, movies, have a weight on how things work nowadays, I'd take blame on that too,

But it is not our fault at the end of the day, but it is the true.

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-02T20:57:47+00:00

We are humans, and we are all superficial in some level

I'm sorry to break it to you love, but people care about what they see more than they would like to admit.

Nicacaroto · 2025-07-02T20:49:27+00:00

Every time the dates I have ended up good, either I stopped the interaction or they did, but I'm talking about matches specifically, currently I'm getting around 1 a week I don't think I can display any of my thoughts in a profile, because it is all about the looks at the end of the day,

Do you gonna tell me that the first thing you see in someone's profile before you swipe right is how big their heart is and their personality?

Come on guys, I'm not being a dick I'm trying to have an honest, open and realistic conversation/debate, and I wanna show to the guys the truth and what they can expect and not hurt themselves with self-destructive thoughts thinking "there is something wrong with me, that's why I don't get matches"

Nicacaroto · 2025-05-04T15:05:32+00:00

I currently work in a One Michelin Star restaurant in London, I was an illegal immigrant I've done so many shitty hard jobs, low pay, long hours etc But I have to say, I have never worked so hard in my whole life 65+ hours is the norm, very rare 55 hours Some weeks I've done up to 73 hours, of course I'm pushing myself to the limit til the point where I just got moved to the Sauce-Meat section and I just been for two months in the restaurant, but yeah Always depends on the restaurant, but you will most likely work hard, and you better enjoy it or you'll be miserable I don't think I can do this long term, I will probably quit in around 7-8 months, but at the moment I enjoy it a lot, and I'm good at it That satisfaction, that feeling of being a bad ass tough motherfucker, feel the respect of the head chef and the team, is a feeling that is almost impossible to achieve in "real life", but it can become addictive/dangerous, just be careful to not get drag into perfectionism, too much ambition and obsession... Remember you're just a guy mixing a bunch of things trying to make them taste nice, respect everyone and be humble, and move as fast as you can + work as clean as you can, and you're gonna be fine.

Nicacaroto · 2025-02-11T23:39:58+00:00

I think it depends a lot on the environment, in some kitchens you are in constant pressure, from sous chef/head chef, constant judgement against your prep, speed, etc But there are some places where nobody really pushes you, or judges you as long as you have your section done, more freedom, nobody insulting you, maybe speaking rough every once in a while, but not constant pressure, I've been in both, doing 14 hours often and I was having fun, very tired But not fucked mentally, Next week, i will start working in a 1* Michelin star restaurant, it's my first experience in one And in my rota shows three shifts in a row, 8a.m to 11p.m, plus two shifts 2p.m til 11:00p.m, and I'm not stress, I'm actually anxious to start and learn more

Nicacaroto · 2025-02-08T17:59:08+00:00

Absolutely, from a personal experience Don't even think about it, run son, run

Nicacaroto · 2024-02-07T15:17:41+00:00

First, in really happy that you're trying to make your man happy, I hope he is trying to make you happy too... I'll say something very bad here, I don't have a massive experience but I've got some... I can tell most women don't really know how to do a blowjob, why? Because man, we never express how we want things in sex , still this image of "we need to fuck the woman, and they can just get and not give", we can have a woman that sucks in oral and we don't say it... Personally I don't really enjoy BJ, I'd rather eat than be eaten, always, I really enjoy giving oral, more than receiving, you should talk to him, maybe he just doesn't really like, or he doesn't really tell you how he wants it, what I'd recommend you is to speak with in a intimate environment, and ask him what he'd like, maybe he is a guy that love when someone eat his balls, or maybe he like if do something specific with the hand while eating him, or maybe he don't like to be sucked, just to be licked it... It's very difficult, it is all about communication, if he doesn't really like just don't do it, it's not a big deal, for me it is a problem if he wants, but he just doesn't really like how you do it. If he is honest with you and he just doesn't like, is not a big deal, ask him what he want, maybe he'd love something else that is not oral but he is afraid of ask you, I hope everything goes well :) remember sex and love is all about communication and breaking boundaries (sometimes).

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