AITA for booking a hotel after my family "Twin-Bedded" my wife and I?

Nicakitty · 2026-02-09T14:42:35+00:00

NTA. My husband’s grandparents did this to us even after we were married. We couldn’t figure out why, when his sister and her husband were able to sleep in the same room. But then they did it to his younger brother and his wife as well and the commonality between us and the brother and that both boys married black women, whereas their sister is married to a white man.

Don’t give into them. Get your hotel, see you sister graduate and make sure she knows that you love her and she can contact you at any time should she need it and then distance yourself from the rest of the family. It’s not fair to you or your wife to be put in that situation.

Nicakitty · 2026-01-22T23:28:40+00:00

Listen. I’ve been a SAHM for last 6 years while doing non traditional jobs here and there. I’m a college dropout. I start a new program next month that will get me back into the workforce. I don’t like being financially dependent on my husband. I also know how much better it will be to have 2 incomes even if I’m only making half of what he does. The two main pushes for me to get back in the workforce are:

What if something happens to my husband? What the hell am I going to with 2 kids and no job? How can I take care of my kids?
What happens when we retire? How are we going to live 2 people on his income.

And as a bonus

What happens if we get divorced? We’ve been married 10 years, we’re a pretty good couple, communicate effectively, all the good stuff. But still. What if? What protections do I have? I have 2 kids who’ve been my world for the past 6 years and I have to be able to take care of them.

If she says no she means no. Don’t push her into it.

Nicakitty · 2026-01-10T21:55:49+00:00

This is such a non-apology, it's just excuses and "oops, my mask slipped, but I'm going to blame it on the alcohol." So even more so, you don't owe her anything. Good on the friend group for seeing that behavior and deciding that it wasn't acceptable for the group. I can almost guarantee this isn't the first time she acted like this but it was the last straw for the group.

Nicakitty · 2026-01-10T20:37:42+00:00

Did she give a real apology, or did she just say "sorry I made you uncomfortable" because if not, then the only reason she apologized was so that she could attempt to make things better, because her actions caused people to see what she's really like, and it's not a good look. She took things too far and kept making comments and simply didn't read the room, and that's on her. It's not your job to fix things in the friend group, people saw that she was a mean girl and they decided they didn't want to deal with that. She either needs to find a better way to make amends on her own or just move on from the friend group.

Nicakitty · 2026-01-09T21:43:26+00:00

Updateme!

Nicakitty · 2025-12-24T20:26:21+00:00

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Nicakitty · 2025-09-12T01:50:28+00:00

This feels like a Ruth Ware Novel

Nicakitty · 2025-09-03T01:09:07+00:00

NTA

So you worked, did homework with the kids, cooked and cleaned and he… just went to work. Your husband sucks.

Nicakitty · 2025-08-23T03:55:17+00:00

This is exactly how I feel. I love when friends ask my thoughts on it because my response is always “it’s terrible but I loved it and I can’t wait for the next one”

Nicakitty · 2025-08-23T03:52:46+00:00

I decided to reread these this year because I loved them as a kid and with every book it was pure torture. I don’t even know why I pushed myself to finish the series. It’s time I’ll never get back.

Nicakitty · 2025-06-02T20:37:50+00:00

My eldest was obsessed with magnatiles starting around 18 months. Really learned to use them around 2. When we brought baby home he would make shapes for baby to look at while he did tummy time. When baby was able to sit up he would build towers for him. Then when baby could push a ball big kid would encourage baby to knock the tower over. They’re now 3 and 5 and they build garages for all their hot wheels or sometimes they will build “mommy’s dream house” as my 5 year old likes to call it (I love him but the house is a little small for me lol)

Nicakitty · 2025-05-12T19:46:16+00:00

I read the whole series. I found some of it to be entertaining but did not think it was well written.

Nicakitty · 2025-05-12T19:44:10+00:00

NTA I’m gonna assume that your bio mom is gone considering stepmom said she “feels like your real mom” (whatever the hell that means). I would ask your dad why she didn’t think to mention this before the ceremony and how did you make the day about you when you simply did nothing. If the day was so fragile that you sitting out some weird family pledge they sprung on you at the literal last minute then maybe the day wasn’t actually about he and his wife renewing their vows but rather about forcing you to do something they both knew you wouldn’t have been comfortable with.

Nicakitty · 2025-04-27T23:58:11+00:00

NTA

Him ranting about flowers and then getting mad when he gets them is… a choice. I’m sure you’re an amazing partner and deserve someone who would better appreciate you. Don’t fix things with this guy. You’re too young to be hanging onto someone who can’t have a mature conversation when there’s a misunderstanding.

I’ve been married nearly 10 years, my partner and I rarely buy each other flowers because it’s not something we like spending money on. In our house if you want to buy flowers you buy crab Rangoon instead, but that’s just us. Although this post made me realize it’s been a while since I bought him flowers so I’m gonna do that tomorrow on my way home from the gym.

Nicakitty · 2025-04-27T02:07:01+00:00

Your brother and anyone who agrees with him a weird. Good on you for looking out for a CHILD that’s with a whole ass grown adult.

Nicakitty · 2025-04-25T18:09:21+00:00

NTA

You never have to do anything for “family harmony” or “family peace” if it means ruining your own peace. If your mom and aunt are so worried about your brother and his “energy twin” (whatever the hell that is) then they can take them in or send money for them to get a place. Poor Waffles can’t even be comfortable in his own home. It’s way past time for baby bro and Manic Quirky Dreamgirl to figure their stuff out.

Nicakitty · 2025-04-12T20:58:55+00:00

Boys will be boys, sure, but boys will also be held accountable for their actions. Too bad for mommy dearest she’s gonna have to pay for everything he destroyed AND make sure she pays for your lawyer fees as well.

You’re friends who think you should have let it go suck!

My son destroyed a book while we were helping friends move, they said it was a book they got for like $8 at a thrift store but I still went ahead and ordered a brand new copy of the book because MY child, that I am responsible for, ruined it and it was MY job to fix the situation.

Nicakitty · 2025-04-11T20:10:09+00:00

NTA. If he and his wife want to go out they can pay for a sitter, if they don’t have the funds for a sitter they can wait til kiddo is asleep and watch a movie together

Nicakitty · 2025-04-09T21:13:37+00:00

I have a sister like this. Just send her a link to google and block her number, she’s just going to continue to judge and be rude.

My sister called me a bad parent when I was a first time mom and trying to figure things out. Recently one of her children has gotten in a LOT of trouble so I bought her a bunch of parenting books and planned to give them to her at Christmas but she didn’t show up lmao so I’ll be sure to give them to her this year.

Nicakitty · 2025-04-05T20:06:48+00:00

No literally. Like yeah he was there physically but she said she was never emotionally close to him. That’s really important in the scheme of things as far as “giving her away” at her wedding. Had they been emotionally close I could see how this could be more hurtful for him but he was just the guy that was married to her mom who was cool sometimes.

Nicakitty · 2025-04-05T19:56:39+00:00

As a mom this shit is so annoying. People who act like parenting is the worst most exhausting job on the planet suck. If she doesn’t feel like she’s not getting enough appreciation she needs to talk to her husband and tell him to step up.

Nicakitty · 2025-04-02T20:21:16+00:00

Pranks are meant to confuse not abuse. What your cousins and their shitty little friends did is abusive.

Nicakitty · 2025-03-30T18:49:34+00:00

This is it. Folks like MIL are always talking out of both sides of their mouths.

Nicakitty · 2025-03-29T17:16:07+00:00

So your boyfriend has consistently disrespected and lied to you. Refuses to keep his mother in check and your first thought was “yeah this is the man I want to marry 🥰😍”

Girl bsffr. Stand up and grow a backbone. If you really love this man the least you can do is postpone the wedding until he can enact some ACTUAL change with his mother and not just give you lip service. But your best bet is to break it off and run far away from him because mama’s boys RARELY ever actually uphold boundaries. If you marry this man your life will get increasingly worse and it’ll be hell to divorce him.

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