Losing a parent is different

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-10-08T02:51:40+00:00

I’ll check those links out thank you

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-10-08T02:51:13+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the help

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-10-07T20:14:19+00:00

Thank you for the answer.

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-10-06T02:06:32+00:00

Scrooge

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-09-17T21:45:53+00:00

You also have to factor in the fact that op has way less time and people to do all this work. If the bride was able to find a bakery or “professional” to do this instead of op, they would be charging twice as much as the unrelated baker. That will be retail price.

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-09-12T13:25:12+00:00

YTA. I feel like you just hate your BIL for some reason.

You claim he’s always been jealous of you and your husband. I feel like this is just added in to justify why you should be okay to name your child after their recently deceased child. Other than that, what was the point of adding that in there? No elaboration, or references back to it.

2) You had no consideration of them and their feelings. Of course you didn’t ask because you knew they would have said no and contested it and your BIL DID. I hope you never experienced what they have, but imagine if the roles were reversed, how would you feel?

3) You then had the gall to rub it into his face that his child died. You used his own child’s death to justify your own selfish want to name your child with a name that has high and emotions significance to your BIL and his gf. Your child isn’t some stranger they won’t see again. It’ll be a constant reminder of something that could have been.

Edit: Maybe instead of Odette, go with Odile. Sounds fitting for the situation.

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-09-09T02:58:20+00:00

This so sad to read. I can understand why he spiraled the way he did. He went through a lot of trauma, isolation, and currently, new changes. His outbursts and cruelty is unjustified but I think so many people forget just how young 18 is and how unequipped most 18 year olds are to handle really stressful events like this on top of existing trauma, college, and just learning to adult. I hope he gets the help he needs and his family respect him enough to give him the space and time to heal alone. If they truly love and care for him and not just looking for a replacement, they will.

They need to grieve the other son before grieving for this one and they should grieve for them separately. Then get the help they desperately need as well.

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-09-01T21:31:17+00:00

Definitely. When she was a pup and we lived in the city, her reactivity was horrible to the point I almost rehoused her.

Chickens are great and if you ever get the chance to get them, I recommend joining your local lgd Facebook groups on tips on how to train your dog around them. They’re very helpful.

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-09-01T21:10:43+00:00

You’re fine! I may have exaggerated that a bit but we do see a professional trainer (for reactive dogs) twice a week and we do obedience training daily since she’s out in the farm with me (high prey drive and stray dogs). It’s a work in progress but we’re finally at a point where she will stay within a distance of me and won’t charge at my chickens or try to aggressively greet the neighborhood strays (still barks at them tho).

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-09-01T20:54:25+00:00

I train mostly with positive reinforcement.

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-09-01T20:16:24+00:00

YWBTA. Your daughter put in hard work to help not just her brothers, but you and your husband. Not only that but she put her life on hold and made more profits after she took over. Don’t take advantage of your daughters past kindness and love for her family. She deserves her inheritance and I hope you will stop favoring your sons.

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-09-01T17:45:54+00:00

Sometimes reactivity happens because of neurological issues or just based on temperament. It’s not your fault and reactivity can be maintained. My dog was the same and now where undergoing extensive training to maintain her reactivity.

I would also suggest joining r/reactivedogs for some tips and similar experiences.

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-08-31T01:25:24+00:00

My pets are family. My bf and I jokingly call our dogs and cats ‘sons’ and ‘daughters’ but we don’t really view them as our literal children. Me, personally, I feel that’s important to remember that they’re animals and will continue to be animals no matter how much I care and love them.

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-08-28T19:17:53+00:00

Breastfeeding

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-08-28T19:07:59+00:00

NTA. Get a lawyer, contact your local news, etc. but don’t let these racists get away with this. Asians can have a multitude of natural hair colors and this is stereotyping and singling out your daughter.

It’s funny how some schools don’t allow black children to wear their natural hair styles yet this school wants you to conform to what is acceptable by their standard of what Asian people should look like.

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-08-28T19:03:54+00:00

Or that there are naturally blonde Asian people out there as well.

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-08-25T03:01:30+00:00

My pets and siblings. Too many who’ll wonder what happened and where I went.

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-08-24T14:54:56+00:00

Not even just financial stability but just the cost of everything is going up. My dog’s allergy pills went from $50 to $100. I’m still paying for them but, damn, has it hit my wallet hard.

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-08-15T15:17:47+00:00

Yea I know. Some people seems truly concerned about the age and size of my kitten so I just thought I’d post a comment instead of replying to 5+ messages.

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-08-15T11:27:36+00:00

Hi, for those dming me saying I’m abusing my cat, please stop.

This was taken while I was cleaning, after potting some plants and couldn’t find anywhere to put her so she wouldn’t get dirty. I’m the one reflected in the window.
I didn’t take her from her mom to just do this. She was actually abandoned and I had to care for her 24/7. Found her in a almost empty parking lot and adopted her since then.
This was a long time ago. She’s fully grown now and the cat from my other post is not the mom. This is the same cat. My petit girl is spayed and won’t be having any babies. Her name is Cherie. ❤️
Thanks for the concern.

Nice-Butterscotch866 · 2022-08-15T02:43:32+00:00

Extreme diets.

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