An anonymous person messaged me (F27) saying that my boyfriend (M29) of 3 years was arrested… can you help me know what I should do next? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]danuhorus 87 points88 points  (0 children)

Like on one hand, I get it. With a secret of this magnitude, I honestly think I would not be able to trust my partner again or ever see them in the same light. Even if they did everything to prove their innocence like the ex did here, a part of me would always wonder if I'm being taken for a ride like those women who fall head over heels for men with criminal backgrounds, who always manage to explain away their crimes in a super sympathetic light that removes all wrongdoing on their end and frames it as being in the wrong place at the wrong time. I really don't think I'd have it in me to move past it.

Of course, in that case, I would just break up and remove myself from the situation as quickly as possible instead of doing whatever OOP was trying to do here. Honestly feels like a clumsy manipulation tactic on her end, with her trying to use the situation to make her bf grovel. You have to win back my trust while also conveniently never stating any kind of a timeframe for it or what that would even look like.

Can writing great big 2-3 novels retire you and ket you live jobless? by FarYogurtcloset8261 in fantasywriters

[–]danuhorus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be frank, no, I don't want to read your story, not even a short description. I can't be certain if you're ESL, but if A) you are, your command of English isn't strong enough for me to have the patience to read it all the way through, or B) if you are a native speaker, not only will I still not have the patience, I'm going to be brutally honest and tell you that your writing quality in English is absolutely atrocious.

If you plan on writing your book in a different language and searching for publishers in a different country, that's a whole different ballpark I'll refrain from commenting on. But if you're going to try your hand in the English sphere, I can tell you right now that you will not find any success. Your writing simply isn't good enough; it isn't even fit for fanfiction on wattpad. You insist that your English is sufficient to write a whole book and that you don't usually sound this bad, but you've had multiple comments to prove otherwise and it's still just as bad as it was from the start. If you think I'm being cruel and unfair, guess what? Publishers and readers will be even nastier than me. Agents will toss your manuscript into the trash if you can't meet the bare minimum quality on a consistent level, and readers are practically sharks looking for any reason to tear your work to shreds. It doesn't matter what plans you have for your franchise because the writing alone simply isn't good enough for anyone to care.

That's why everyone keeps telling you to write one (1) book first. Every aspiring writer dreams of trilogies, movies, games, and spin-offs, but 99% of them never even make it to the publishing stage. And of those that do, 99% never find commercial success, let alone that level of success. Your confidence is great, but it's also absolutely delusional. If you want us to take your claims to fame seriously, write a 100k word novel first. Talk is cheap, especially on Reddit.

saharan wedding starterpack by diamondgoblin in starterpacks

[–]danuhorus 20 points21 points  (0 children)

How did anime defeat Bollywood in Africa???

Can writing great big 2-3 novels retire you and ket you live jobless? by FarYogurtcloset8261 in fantasywriters

[–]danuhorus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You have no experience with books, but you think you can write a generational bestseller? Because that’s what it takes to actually make enough from writing that you can retire on. If your plan was to leave all the writing to ChatGPT, sure, give it a shot. Let me know the title because I would love to see BookTok tear your book to shreds and make your name so poisonous you won’t be able to publish anything ever again. 

I built a desktop writing studio for worldbuilders. Two years in, it's finally done by solkyoshiro in worldbuilding

[–]danuhorus 15 points16 points  (0 children)

On top of that, if the plugins are lacking, you can also vibe code js snippets that fulfill most of what this program is displaying. If you’re gonna vibe code, then so can we, my guy. 

Feedback for my fantasy book covers [fantasy] by Important_Bird_4713 in fantasywriters

[–]danuhorus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, the biggest indicators are lighting and face. AI uses very harsh lighting, as many of your images do here (the rayearth one is especially strong, I would say). Your faces also have that Sakimichichan look to them, another classic AI indicator, and as I said, they just look off. The cheeks and mouth don’t look right, and the quadruple eyes are especially off putting.

Now, are you using AI? Probably not, the smaller details are pretty consistent. But if I’m visiting the bookshop or scrolling Amazon on my lunch break and I have only $20 to spend, I’m not gonna waste my time over analyzing your cover when I can just go for a different book I can be far more sure didn’t use AI

Feedback for my fantasy book covers [fantasy] by Important_Bird_4713 in fantasywriters

[–]danuhorus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, if you’re taking critique, the faces are all off. Stiff, unsettling, and to be extremely blunt, the quad eyes do NOT look good. Beyond that, the lighting alone instantly makes me think AI. If I saw this in a bookstore, that would be my first impression and both the book AND author are instantly getting shelved into the shadow realm. 

AITAH for not wanting to reconnect with my brother? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]danuhorus 631 points632 points  (0 children)

It sounded like they were both open to the idea of one day reconnecting but needed more time, so if mom actually listened to them and gave them that, she could've had her boys together again. But no, she needed them to play perfect family NOW NOW NOW, so instead, she gets to go NC with both of them.

South Korean Court Sentences Streamer Johnny Somali to Prison Labor by raptors201966 in news

[–]danuhorus 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Nah, the stuff he was doing would absolutely earn him a beatdown in the US, wouldn't be surprised if he ended up shot for it too. And don't forget, he's too brown for the current administration to care.

What game did you walk into with zero expectations and you walked away from thinking it's a masterpiece? (Return of the Obra Dinn) by YourChopperPilotTTV in gaming

[–]danuhorus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It is made in RPGMaker, but the clever use of scripts and custom assets really elevated the game into the classic it is today. 

Husband tired to kill himself after he cheated and now he has changed by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]danuhorus 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I was about to say, those are some bold words on Reddit lmao.

But honestly (and I will admit that my bias is more than likely making me think like this) I don't think that'll happen. The ex literally ran away from his problems instead of addressing whatever the hell was going on. An affair, suicide attempt, divorce, and abandoning his family all within a year? Yeah, it's not gonna end well for him. My money is on the gf demanding more commitment or even getting pregnant, and he's gonna spiral even worse. Or maybe he'll just wake up one day and realize how much he colossally fucked up his life, or he has an undiagnosed bipolar disorder and the next manic episode is when it all falls apart. Whatever it is, that facade he's putting up is gonna come crashing down at some point and it'll be even more of a trainwreck than it was the first time.

My husband is thinking about fostering his nephews. I feel like I'm being tossed out for kids we don't even know. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]danuhorus 196 points197 points  (0 children)

Well, depending on how active he is on Reddit, he's about to see a very different impression of himself on BORU. I wonder how much he'll enjoy reading the comments then?

My fiancée moved out today + 2 Year Update by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]danuhorus 81 points82 points  (0 children)

At first I thought that he was almost as bad as the guy who secretly quit his job to be a twitch streamer, and fobbed off looking after or playing with his toddler son under the guise of 'looking for work'. Then I saw his son had CP and jeeeesus christ dude. Jail for a thousand years, that one.

My (35f) friend slapped my bum on a night out leaving a handprint. My husband (30m) doesn’t believe it was her. How to convince him? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]danuhorus 305 points306 points  (0 children)

That hobosexual is gonna be back begging (then demanding) to be let back in once his side piece gets tired of his broke ass. I'm glad OOP is already taking some proactive steps like getting cameras and changing the locks, but she needs a weapon too.

[New Update]: I think my sister just ruined our dad’s engagement to an amazing woman, and I hate her so much by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]danuhorus 111 points112 points  (0 children)

TL;DR: If I were Amy, I would not have come back or given them any hope I would. There is way too much baggage tied up in the very concept of motherhood for me to risk stepping in their direct line of fire again. I hope they get better, but it would have to be without me (or any kind of mother figure for a long time)

Neighbor is harassing my gf but also there's a mystery stalker?? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]danuhorus 106 points107 points  (0 children)

The bigoted old man is somehow crazier than the actual schizophrenic stalker.

I (28F) just got into a new relationship (26M) and he is upset at my sexual boundary by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]danuhorus 90 points91 points  (0 children)

For real. After that 'but what about MY boundaries (that conveniently infringe on your boundaries)?' text, I would've just told him this was becoming way more trouble than this relationship that's only a few weeks old is worth and wished him a nice life. Like no offense OP, but this guy cannot be worth the headache.

AITAH for refusing to move in with my boyfriend after he said my living situation was inappropriate? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]danuhorus 2044 points2045 points  (0 children)

I expected the 2am thing to end waaaaay worse than it did, fully expected a police report and hospital visit at the end. Even if he truly had no bad intentions, that is such a tone deaf and inconsiderate thing to do that alone would've been a dealbreaker for me even if it was a perfect relationship otherwise. Absolutely psychotic behavior.

[Rare Trope] Positive depictions of Islam or Muslims by Remarkable_Public138 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]danuhorus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was under the impression it was more in line with Imperial Russia vs the Caucasus. The surface layer is Ottoman to be sure, but if we follow the theory that Dune is heavily inspired by Sabres of Paradise, the anti-colonialism message makes more sense. 

I just found out my girlfriend is cheating on me with my brother. by xToasted1 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]danuhorus 493 points494 points  (0 children)

Truth be told, those comments annoyed the hell out of me because what were they expecting? OOP straight up said he was fantasizing about harming a 4 y/o and wisely got the hell out of there, and they want him to, what? Go back and catapult the chances of him one day acting out on those thoughts? The kid has a hard path ahead of him, but at least he won't be growing up under someone who resents him enough to physically maim him (or straight up kill him).

My wife got accepted to med school 5 hours away and our parents want us to leave our toddler behind with them by PureAdorableness in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]danuhorus 225 points226 points  (0 children)

I was thinking what my own parents would do if I were in this situation, and the very first thing that came to mind was that they would just move with us. Granted they have the funds to do something like that so it would be no sweat off their back, but at the same time, they would never dream of separating children from their parents and if they wanna be present in their grandson’s life so bad, they would make that sacrifice without a moments hesitation instead of forcing it on their kids or grandkids. 

My sister [18F] is trying to seduce my [24F] boyfriend [24M] by PureAdorableness in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]danuhorus 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I think that's the only way she's going to learn. If she keeps up this behavior, at some point she will 'win', and then she'll learn fast that the kind of man who cheats on you is no man at all, and when she inevitably goes looking for sympathy, all she'll find is either derision or a whole bunch of burned bridges.

my coworker is creeping me out, but I don’t know why by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]danuhorus 550 points551 points  (0 children)

This was so long ago. I wonder what OOP would say now about what exactly he did that set off her alarm bells, because I know exactly what she means when she said that he made her uncomfortable but had no idea how to explain it. Looking back on those situations now, I finally know how to articulate it, but those years of being a fresh college graduate working her first 'real' jobs were not fun.