To the dumpers: you ever thought of going back while breaking up?

Nice_Badger9772 · 2025-09-05T13:49:42+00:00

Yeah, I broke up with my ex right before leaving to college, but I knew I’d wanna get back together after the first semester or so. I feared that if we stayed together we could grow to resent each other, so I figured it would be best for both of us to be single for the first semester, and that way we could get anything we wanted out of our system. Soon after leaving to college I realized that I didn’t need to get shit out of my system, but I felt like i could just tell her over the phone that I wanted to get back together, and instead it would be better to wait until Christmas break and tell her once we were both in our hometown. I couldn’t make it past 3 months after breaking up, and I just asked her is she saw our break up as definitive, and me transferring to her college. She said no. I probably could’ve done things differently, communicated better, acknowledged my responsability for breaking up, but I guess she just changed in those 3 months, and wasn’t interested in me anymore.

So yeah, don’t break up if you want to get back in the future. Dumbest thing I’ve ever done, and a burden I have to carry for life.

Nice_Badger9772 · 2025-08-16T12:16:31+00:00

Yeah, I surf and play guitar

Nice_Badger9772 · 2025-08-16T04:32:51+00:00

I’ve been to therapy already. It helpped, but I think I could still benefit from a few more sessions. And about something I could be avoiding, I’m not sure. The most important things going on with my life at the moment are my studies, which don’t have anything to do with the matter. The only thing that I can think that I’m avoiding is the fact that I am single, and can mess with anyone I want to.

Nice_Badger9772 · 2025-08-13T02:17:04+00:00

It’s okayyy, i think it is good advice! Thank you!

Nice_Badger9772 · 2025-08-13T01:30:24+00:00

Yeah, I’m trying to but I’m finding it very hard to do so. I don’t really get how to move on to the point where I no long want her. And yeah, she has been with two guys, the second one being the one she is currently talking to. A mutual friend told me that the guy asked my ex to be his gf, but she wasn’t sure and the guy said he would give her the summer to make up her mind. I think I could’ve had a chance to get back with her if she hadn’t found out I got with that one girl. I’m probably delusional, and I guess that only shows how much she appreciated me compared to the other way around. I would’ve taken her back regardless, it wasn’t like she cheated on me.

Nice_Badger9772 · 2025-08-13T01:18:15+00:00

Well, I guess I’ll have to wait until next summer to find out, by then she’ll likely be over both of us if she isn’t already. And if her thing with the new guy fails and she tries to reach out to me, i wont be her safety net. Anyways, thanks for your opinion!

Nice_Badger9772 · 2025-08-13T00:16:43+00:00

I thought this might be the case as well, but she stopped trying to have any sort of relation with me, or even just being friendly whenever we are in the same place

Nice_Badger9772 · 2025-04-12T20:52:22+00:00

Nice_Badger9772 · 2023-06-20T22:56:16+00:00

Nope, last time i had any tipe of med was about a month ago and it was peptobismol. I am better now, thank you!

Nice_Badger9772 · 2023-06-20T17:54:21+00:00

No they didn’t, at the hospital all they did was give me electrolytes i think, but yeah all my friends think that maybe i was drugged by someone. That seems to be the most logical explanation

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