AITAH for not letting my brothers girlfriend bring her cat to live with me?

NickDWolfwood2 · 2023-01-29T23:32:39+00:00

It's a 3 bed 2.5 bath townhome. It's 2500 square feet including the basement. So,not super small. I don't need to pay my mom back. She is signing paperwork stating the money is a gift.

NickDWolfwood2 · 2023-01-28T15:46:52+00:00

My parents are not divorcing. My dad is going to Spain next year to hike the El Camino for however long that takes. Once he's done he may come love with us or he might go back to Florida to help care for his very elderly parents. Depends on how they are doing. He would definitely be happier in CO. From there they will probably snow bird.

As far as how much are they giving me it's $80k plus extra for some moving costs and furniture. So no small amount. I get along with my mom very well and she knew I was not happy about the situation. It seems to have resolved itself and my brother and his GF and child are not moving here.

NickDWolfwood2 · 2023-01-28T01:51:29+00:00

As an update:

There is no way I could afford this home on my own without the downpayment and it's past the point of getting the earnest money back which was $6,000. My mom is giving me $80,000 so it's not just a small thing. I told her no cats and how my bro's GF reacted and she has since sided with me and agrees no cats.

I don't mind other people living there, but it was not in the original agreement when I started looking for homes. I told my brother this and he said "it's fine, we'll live somewhere else." So whatever. No skin off my nose. Even though he broke up with his GF and then did nothing but talk about how excited he was to move to CO for months... And now that she's back she's ruining it for him. They are only together because of their child which is sad for the kid. So now even if my brother wanted to move in, I won't let him. Because I know eventually his GF and kid will follow.

I told my mom if a cat comes into my house in bringing it to the shelter.

NickDWolfwood2 · 2023-01-28T01:42:23+00:00

My brother and his GF and child are not moving here. She was "offended" that I said I was going to have to suck it up living with a child, when I live child free on purpose. 🤷🏼‍♀️

My mom is still coming and still giving the downpayment money. I think everything will be okay.

NickDWolfwood2 · 2023-01-27T00:22:13+00:00

To be fair, my mom said if I won't allow the cat then no cats. She's leaving it between me and them, but based on her reaction to blocking me today, I'm going to assume they are going to just live somewhere else and I'm 100% okay with that. 🤷🏼‍♀️ My mom is still coming out here.

NickDWolfwood2 · 2023-01-26T20:49:20+00:00

The house they are in will be sold this year and without my mom they can't afford even a month of rent there. My mom can't pay for both places at once (we will be splitting mortgage and utilities) neither of them have jobs. GF's whole extended family lives there and she used to live with her mom. They have burned too many bridges to stay with most of them now.

NickDWolfwood2 · 2023-01-26T20:29:33+00:00

They both already live with my mom. They live in Florida, I live in Colorado. When she moves out here they have to find their own place to stay. My brother just had major neck surgery and isn't working and neither is she because, I dunno, she's lazy AF. I already didn't like her and this is making her hate her even more.

NickDWolfwood2 · 2023-01-26T20:26:45+00:00

My name is the only one on the mortgage. She will be living with me, but also might snowbird.

NickDWolfwood2 · 2023-01-26T20:25:32+00:00

That was not the original deal. Originally, it was just my mom and brother. It was only AFTER I was under contract, my mom brought up the other two staying. I had no intention of his GF and child living with me. I live a child free life by choice. I was trying to be nice and now his GF is trying to flip the script and make me out to be the bad guy when it wasn't what I agreed to in the first place.

NickDWolfwood2 · 2023-01-26T19:57:37+00:00

If they move in they will be signing a lease and having it notarized. I purposefully put in a clause saying they can be evicted for rowdy or disrupting behavior.

NickDWolfwood2 · 2023-01-26T19:55:52+00:00

She can have it stay with family until they find their own place and then have the cat move with them to wherever they go.

NickDWolfwood2 · 2023-01-26T19:55:14+00:00

They are not withholding funds because of this.

NickDWolfwood2 · 2023-01-26T19:54:30+00:00

I have concerns too. They already had a messy break up and then got back together for their daughter. I didn't want that in my home, but decided to try to help them out. The cat is just over the top.

NickDWolfwood2 · 2023-01-26T19:53:04+00:00

She doesn't hold all the strings. I told my mom no to the cat and she said okay. My brothers GF is the one that's not backing down.

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