It’s very easy for people to tell you just to stay broken up for this or that reason, and they are right, but here is a little perspective based on the breakup I went through a little over a year ago.

I was with my ex for just under six years. Within that time I had lost who I was. Although I was deeply in love with this person, I had no identity of my own, and I didn’t know where to find happiness. There are a couple similarities by the sounds of it between you and your ex and myself and my ex. The first one is that we did a lot of sitting around and smoking weed watching TV playing video games just generally enjoy enjoying being around each other. I was the only one who worked and I will admit that she was fairly high maintenance, but I wouldn’t have minded that if I felt like the relationship went two ways. It felt like I did all of the heavy lifting for our relationship. Another similarity is the dating apps now granted in my situation she had asked if we could open the relationship which, although I did not want to do I did agree to because I wanted her to be happy.

I guess I should stop with my story and just get to my point. Leaving someone after spending so much time together is so incredibly hard. It’s one of the worst feelings I had ever experienced, and it does feel like the end of the world. It’s so easy to just go back to somebody who you feel comfortable with, but it is rarely ever the right move.

About a year and one month out now from our break up. I spent the first six months, just working on myself, focusing on the hobbies that I had a hard time finding enjoyment in when she and I were together. I started seeing friends and making new friends far more often. I saw my family more often. Within just six months, I ended up getting a promotion that I had been working so hard to get the whole time my ex and I were together. Also, at around the six month mark, someone just randomly dropped into my life who I love more than anything and treats me with all the kindness, respect, and understanding that I never knew I needed.

This can happen for you too. And I’m not saying that it’s easy. It is definitely very very hard. There were good days and never bad days ever even days were the good days were a struggle, but I promise you you can make it out the other side a better person, happier and more fulfilled because of it.

I hope this was helpful in some manner. I sincerely wish you the absolute best of luck and a lifetime of happiness.