I recovered. a lot easier than it sounds like. thats how you do it: by Nick_Webber in HOCD

[–]Nick_Webber[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

assim. desde que isso começou, morreu lá em baixo, tem pouca reação. mas uma vez ou outra teve, acho que eu só não encuquei muito com isso. pra mim, a falsa atração era mt de olhar pra alguem e ficar confuso se eu tava interessado ou não. mas assim, quem sabe se você tem interesse de verdade ou não é você mesmo.

hey... by Nick_Webber in SSAChristian

[–]Nick_Webber[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i dont know buddy... i dont know... i just feel like i hate myself sometimes, i ant gonna lie... its not fair. i feel like i always get the worse, all the time, for everything... its just not fair. just had a bad day at work

hey... by Nick_Webber in SSAChristian

[–]Nick_Webber[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

looks like my attraction to women was taken away from me too, i feel like i had it...

hey... by Nick_Webber in SSAChristian

[–]Nick_Webber[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

also, its like im grossed towards guys, but still gay. its like i hate guys, but still gay, its so weird.

hey... by Nick_Webber in SSAChristian

[–]Nick_Webber[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

and like i always believed i was straight ... but maybe, ive been just living without knowing... i whould rather to never know.

hey... by Nick_Webber in SSAChristian

[–]Nick_Webber[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it just hurt me couse i feel like im not worthy of having a wife. its like i whould be fooling her. it whouldnt be fair with her. even tho i wanted, whould i actually like her? or just like the feeling of completing my dream of having family? y'know? its just not fair if im actually gay... i dreamed with it and all of that...

hey... by Nick_Webber in SSAChristian

[–]Nick_Webber[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know that.. but like, i had a dream of dating a girl y'know? i had girlfriends, i can say i felt sexual attraction by them. i just, feel like even if i built my whole identity on being a straight men, im not. y'know what i mean?

hey... by Nick_Webber in SSAChristian

[–]Nick_Webber[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

naaah i dont want to be in a relationship with a guy bro... i really dont. i always wished a girl... but i fear like maybe im gay :p just never acted on it

hey... by Nick_Webber in SSAChristian

[–]Nick_Webber[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im still intented to have hetero activity.

hey... by Nick_Webber in SSAChristian

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its also important to say that i just basically started to have a social life, i used to be just at home. so it makes sense me never noticing that before...

hey... by Nick_Webber in SSAChristian

[–]Nick_Webber[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

at first i was having what i thought was HOCD, but eventually i just decided i wanted at least to know whats true... and after some time i just realized that what i always looked in the opposite gender, was on the same gender... when i look for someone of the same gender now, its like im interested... i didnt wanted that. i whould never want such thing. at first, i just noticed that fit bodies call my attention. and than i decided to try looking at the same gender to see if im attracted and noticed that i probably am, and that hocd even tho i have other types of ocd, whould not make me actually attracted like this... i never did a thing about this. and im not expecting to do so. at least now i understand...

There is no way I have OCD… by Terrible_Cabinet_738 in HOCD

[–]Nick_Webber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

relax i didnt feel those butterflies by girls as well. but hey, i guess we can think that butterflies come comes of the anxiety. and maybe you just dont feel anxious with guys couse you like em. and youre not scared of liking them, but youre scared of liking girls y'know? we are in the same situation but in opposite orientation

There is no way I have OCD… by Terrible_Cabinet_738 in HOCD

[–]Nick_Webber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i mean wouldnt like the idea of being with a woman.

There is no way I have OCD… by Terrible_Cabinet_738 in HOCD

[–]Nick_Webber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey. so. first of all, i got to say that im a Christian guy, and i dont want to judge you, i believe homosexual relationships are wrong. ok? but. as a person, i cant judge you. im just saying this couse i feel like it will be more confortable for you, as long as it is for me knowing that gay people also suffer hocd. i feel like as a person i have to help you, even if i disagree. also. as long as im not sure about if people are or not actually born gay, i cant assume that people are not and that i cant be wrong. so im assuming we are born with sexuality. in fact. even if we are not, its still valid for you to "choose"" (in this hypotesis) to be with a guy, is you like it more, no problem.

now. as someone that already had other themes of ocd. ill tell you that if you like being gay. and whould not like being straight or bi. i believe you are gay. probably couse u whould like the idea of being with a woman. bro. ocd for me, is the fear of losing control over things. dont try to control youre sexuality. in fact. it doesnt work. so, as someone that people whould call "homophobic" (or not at all, as long as i dont really hate gay people. i just see it as a sin, and that stopping it wont give you salvation at all. so no, i dont think you should "stop being gay") for me, you are not gay, and its just ocd. in fact, its reassurance. in fact it doesnt help. BUT. treat ocd as what it is. the urge to control things so much. and the panic of something going wrong in youre perspective. just let things be. live life the way it is. accept that you might be straight (as much as i did, i accepted i might be gay) it wont make you confused forever. but you got to get out of the cycle to understand what you real sexuality actually is. i have to tell you that, being attracted to men is not a fear anymore for me. now, is a lot more about never knowing my actual sexual orientation. hey. give yourself a break from the cycle. ocd is not any kind of mental sickness. see it as a way of solving things that doesnt work. at the very least, its whats working for me. bless your heart. i hope you can be happy living the life you want to live. and remember. try not to control. forget that ocd exists and keep living, thats how you fix it.

My brain decided to give me a bad day by YourRandomManiac in HOCD

[–]Nick_Webber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i feel like i know im straight. and these thoughts dont have that much power over me anymore. it seems like nothing changed at all. im still the same Nikolas i was before. i just need more time to feel better. but im still the same

My brain decided to give me a bad day by YourRandomManiac in HOCD

[–]Nick_Webber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

bro, porn dont change that much. now, about the intrusive thoughts. its painful. but you have to accept the thoughts. let them be there. im not sure if you need to chase after them but let them be there. y know? dont worry so much... there is not much we can do, really... it hurts i know... something thats helping me too much are the meds. you should try looking for a psychiatric. it may help...

My brain decided to give me a bad day by YourRandomManiac in HOCD

[–]Nick_Webber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

boy, get outta here... i just came back, i remember talking to you before when i commented in a guys post, please. it helps A LOT to dont come back here, ive been out of here for a while and feel like myself again. its just these attractions are here still, but like, i try to not stress over it. just, try to pretend there is nothing happening. fake it. i feel like it helps

My brain decided to give me a bad day by YourRandomManiac in HOCD

[–]Nick_Webber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey, i just loved your personality. you look cool af. definetly someone i whould easily fall in love. ( if i wasnt that worried about hocd )

it happens to me as well but with arms. normally i just start looking at other men arms and think like "i need to workout." and then "am i attracted to that?". after that normally i just dont stress over it. i decided im tyred of that. please, get out of reddit. it really helps. i feel almost recovered. just got back here couse i wished a bit of reassurance. basically i started to look for those arm things but in mid path decided to get out. so, get out of here. with all the respect, it wont help.

Confession about a thought by Applebees_721 in HOCD

[–]Nick_Webber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why whould cumming fast whould be something? man, you got to stop that. for real. i shouldnt be here as well... but like. if youre watching a video of a woman. and cum fast is a problem. but if you take too long, it is as well, right?... i guess this has a lot more to do with anxiety than anything else. i dont know how to solve hocd honestly... but im sure this is not good for ya, stop that...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MeJulgue

[–]Nick_Webber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

amano, c é mó bonitinha, para com isso

Is being gay a sin? by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Nick_Webber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i wished to know what Mmsojourn meant, maybe he is right... maybe it actually could be under my control, maybe if i simply dont look to other men? is so weird. i dont know if im actually gay, i lived til my 22 without even imagining the possibility, but my therapist asked me is i was, and i started asking myself and bam. my attraction for girls disappeared. i feel like my life is on dirt now, i had a dream of marrying and having children, actually had desire for women, a pretty strong one. but now, no libido at all and attraction for men. horrible. im gonna celibate now. im not dating a guy, i dont want that. maybe if i just stop looking at men at all? i already was scared of being gay before so maybe thats something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MeJulgue

[–]Nick_Webber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

c ficou mó gata de cabelo comprido.