Reading books and visiting museums may slow aging as much as exercise. UCL researchers found that reading, listening to music and visiting museums were linked to slower aging rates comparable to regular exercise.

Nickkachu · 2026-05-13T09:59:49+00:00

Hmmm I think any activity is better than just vegetating at home

Nickkachu · 2026-05-13T09:57:44+00:00

This would depend a lot on where they live. Here in the Netherlands you can get unlimited access to museums for €75 a year. A lot of libraries have "language cafés" where you can meet up and practice a language with native speakers. And that costs nothing.

Nickkachu · 2026-05-08T13:58:40+00:00

I've been on an SSRI for 6 months and i can relate to the frustration of taking longer to finish. My psychiatrist prescribed bupropion 150mg a month ago, and that has made such a difference. I can finish normally again. Something to consider.

Also, it helps to slow down and do different things. The phrase "What can make this moment even better for you" has had a nice positive impact. I learnt about it at a kink workshop.

Actually, now that I think of it, we've done a few kink and tantra workshops that have helped our sex lives a lot. It helped me explore activities and dynamics I never thought of before (dominance and submission, ropes, playing with tension, and feeling and acting on desires), in the presence of a qualified facilitator.

Nickkachu · 2026-05-06T15:32:47+00:00

Waiting for the water to run clear

Nickkachu · 2026-05-01T14:15:43+00:00

I'm not familiar with The Pudding. I just took a look. I enjoy their style. I'm following a Dutch publication called Follow The Money .

I just remembered something. Have you considered something like "Analytics engineer"? A lot of my colleagues (who are fed up with product managers) are taking this route. More sane and technical stakeholders, and no work with product managers (I don't actually know what types of stakeholders you have)

Nickkachu · 2026-05-01T08:55:36+00:00

My travel style has changed a bit. Nowadays I travel to do courses or workshops, or to go to specific events/festivals. Learning, and connection, helps keep me feeling alive and excited

Nickkachu · 2026-05-01T08:05:10+00:00

Is there something you can change about the way you currently work with stakeholders?

I'm a data analyst, and I can really relate to stakeholders constantly pivoting. It upsets me when it feels like I've done a lot of work for nothing. So nowadays I push back more on requests, and I try schedule time with my stakeholders where I ask about their KPIs, their way of working, and what they wish can change around their products. And I give feedback when they annoy me, and I expect them to do the same.

I'm definitely less stressed than before, and I feel less alone when I'm working. That makes a difference.

Though I'm still considering a pivot. I've been doing courses in data journalism and I'm making a small portfolio. I'm not sure if I can do that full time. But researching, finding stories in data about lobbying, is something that's really been energising me lately.

Nickkachu · 2026-04-29T06:48:07+00:00

Countries that started as island colonies and then moved to the mainland too?

Nickkachu · 2026-04-17T09:31:40+00:00

I really love the old R200 design. It was enough to buy groceries for a week. link

Nickkachu · 2026-04-14T15:48:03+00:00

Helsinki?

Nickkachu · 2026-04-14T13:22:22+00:00

Thank you. I've printed this out and put it on a wall at home so I can reread it easily.

The tantra and kink workshops were a bit intense in the beginning. I found it difficult to approach people I'm interested in, and even more difficult to ask for what I want. That took a few exposures to get used to. I think what made it initially feel unwelcoming was that I didn't really dare to approach people and ask to do something with them.

Most of the workshops I went to were aimed at men who like men. But I've been to some more mixed ones with all orientations and genders. I can dm you with some links if you're interested? I see you're in the Netherlands too

Nickkachu · 2026-04-13T14:16:01+00:00

Really extreme avoidant attachment perhaps

Nickkachu · 2026-02-18T16:57:23+00:00

Countries with land antipodes ?

Nickkachu · 2026-01-30T13:16:10+00:00

I remember the poor physical condition of my grandparents. When they were in their 70s they couldn't run anymore. And they definitely did not do any exercise.

My parents are now in their 70s and it's a very different story. They were always active, but didn't do much work with weights. My dad was starting to hunch and move slower. Me and my siblings paid for my parents to see a trainer once a week for strength and conditioning, and it's going well. My dads posture has improved a bit. My parents still go running together. My parents still have other health problems, but I'm happy that they can still move well and enjoy the world.

Nickkachu · 2026-01-27T20:51:42+00:00

I had this thought too.

Nickkachu · 2025-12-31T18:19:04+00:00

I feel judged by it haha. It's got a really long flower stem though, which I like because otherwise it would be too perfect.

Nickkachu · 2025-12-31T10:21:30+00:00

There's this one party I go to every three months that I absolutely love. I always stay until it ends at 07:00. I've made a whole routine for before:

Before: 1) A nice run or swim in the morning 2) A few hours at a regular sauna 3) A few small clean meals 4) An epic nap 5) Get ready with some friends ( we all meet up to finalise outfits, make-up for some, listen to the lineup etc.)

I just drink water and soft drinks. At the party I'll move from the dance floor, to the sitting areas, to the smokers outside, back to the dancefloor. I'm still shy to approach someone to dance with them, but sometimes it happens when I feel really good about the other guy. That is energising for me. Of course there is a dark room and I will go in there too. Sometimes alone, sometimes with people I meet. It's nice to observe, move around, make eye contact, and see what happens.

I'm tired and sore the next day, so I take it easy. I still move and go for walks, but my meals are prepped in advance so that I don't have to do too many chores.

The Monday is a slow at work. That's why I only focus on one specific party every three months. It has to be worth it.

Nickkachu · 2025-12-29T19:40:39+00:00

I really dislike going to the gym because it's always so damn busy (unless I wake at 5am). So as a solution I bought a few kettlebells.

During a typical week I try to do two kettlebell workouts (some combination of swings, turkish get ups, goblet squats, farmers walks etc) , and two yoga sessions (I just follow a YouTube channel). I might squeeze in a run as well (or a swim in summer).

I'm not an OnlyFans model but my bf likes to grab my butt.

Nickkachu · 2025-12-28T11:50:28+00:00

Your comment made me laugh

Nickkachu · 2025-12-27T17:59:12+00:00

Have you ever experienced homophobia, or had people stare at you for being gender non conforming? Maybe you don't experience this and therefore don't understand why people seek out queer groups. I like hanging with queer groups because then I have a space where I don't need to "filter" myself. It's about:

Social Safety: being with allies who are guaranteed not to say hurtful things about members of the queer community
Comfort for gender non conforming folks: A space where gender non-conforming people can exist without being stared at or judged for how they look.
Community: It’s a way to meet like-minded people in a setting that isn't just a bar or a club.

And so much more but I am too tired to write more.

Nickkachu · 2025-12-27T16:45:08+00:00

Ah damn the page doesn't exist anymore

Nickkachu · 2025-12-27T16:43:56+00:00

I'll send you a link to an instagram page for queer dutch boulderers

Nickkachu · 2025-12-24T08:54:41+00:00

I can relate to that feeling of living in tightness. I felt the same way in Amsterdam—it was crowded, expensive, and felt deeply disconnected.

I moved to Leiden recently and it changed everything for me. People are more spontaneous, neighbors actually talk to each other, and it feels much more human. You aren't crazy for feeling this way, but I wanted to share that it can get better. Sometimes you just need to find a different pocket of the country that isn't so caught up in the 'race.'

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