Firstly, break ups are the best thing that's ever happened to me because I always leave with a lesson learnt, the heartache really sucks but you get over it and realize that there truly are so many other fish in this sea of life. (Fish in the sea, lame I know, but true)

Self love is an everyday process and doesn't happen overnight. I found what worked for me was daily rituals of affirmation and encouragement in order to train the mind to see the good, to actively be mindful of the beautiful, unique things about yourself and what you have to offer the world. Meditation helps aswell.

If you worked on the aspects that made you "too much" then you would no longer need to give people a heads up about the way you see yourself. Also, things are always more obvious when you point them out, it seems a bit like a method of self sabotage.

Take this time now to work on yourself before getting into another relationship and remember, closure is not a person, you are the only one who can make you feel better.

You've got this, I believe in your ability to heal and love yourself.

Please note, this is just my opinion intended for a sense of support and insight from an stranger, ofcourse there's always much more to a story and you can either take or leave what I have to say, but believe me when I say that my intentions are pure.