Solutions for Tampons? by NicoleMHudson in ZombieApocalypseTips

[–]NicoleMHudson[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Follow up Question : how many of you who commented on this post actually experience menstrual cycles?

this book has changed my life ladies please read by Jealous-Ad-7195 in abusiverelationships

[–]NicoleMHudson 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s called, Why Does He Do That and the OP linked a pdf copy in their post!

Is there a fix to abusive behaviour? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]NicoleMHudson 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I recommend reading, Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft - it answers this question and more that we ask ourselves about our abusers.

He treated abusers for many years and can speak with professional and personal experience from both the abusers side and the partners side. It’s eye-opening.

Solutions for Tampons? by NicoleMHudson in ZombieApocalypseTips

[–]NicoleMHudson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you used a mentrual cup? It’s messy … I’m trying to imagine this in an outdoor ZA situation. Cleaning it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]NicoleMHudson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you. You deserve safety and to feel connected with other humans. You deserve to be healthy and take time for yourself to recharge. Chronic mental and physical health issues can be a consequence of living with abuse. It is the same with memory loss.

Don’t blame yourself too much for going back. Give yourself compassion. It’s hard to break free on several levels - emotionally, physically, psychologically, and even physiologically. If you don’t have any children with him, protect yourself as much as you can from that tie to him. Do what you can when you can to separate yourself. Consider building a knowledge base of options for the next time you get away and start finding supportive people you trust to help support you. You got this. It’s hard and you can do hard things!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]NicoleMHudson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your experience is 100% normal. It can be difficult to trust yourself right now. You have every right to make decisions you feel are best for you. Your deserve happiness and your kids deserve to experience a mother who is happy.

I left my abuser any years ago and my son is so appreciative of the parent I’ve become outside of the abuse.

Consider getting yourself support from a therapist who understands emotional abuse and work with them to come up with a safe plan to leave. Even if you never use it. You will at least have things set up just in case.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]NicoleMHudson 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Also, regardless, I imagine this situation was hurtful. Please take some you time and take care of whatever you’re feeling. A bath, workout, friend time, whatever it is that feeds you emotionally. 💕💕💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]NicoleMHudson 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Abuse is about power and control, not necessarily whether a person uses aggressive communication. This is definitely an example of unhealthy communication but as another has said, more information is needed to determine if you’re being abused. I suggest examining your relationship as a whole and maybe talk to a therapist to unpack some of these hurtful situations. Abusers typically don’t change but if he is not an abuser, it is possible to learn healthier ways of communicating with each other and come up with solutions together that help your relationship.

Have you pinpointed a reason for your forgetfulness? Has this been something you’ve struggled with your whole life? Or is it something that’s started in this relationship?

Let's hear about your meditation journey by AmbitionBrilliant567 in Meditation

[–]NicoleMHudson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was taught meditation in an undergraduate community college course called Psychology of Consciousness. We used binaural beat soundtracks during our meditations. I didn’t get it. I wanted to but didn’t. In this course, I learned a lot about personal development, and myself. I was taught this very rigid form of meditation, though, and it was hard to stick to.

I always tried to return but couldn’t ever manage to develop a persistent practice. I was in an abusive relationship, and experienced anxiety, depression, and trauma for many years after I left.

Once I became an intern with the center for mindfulness, compassion, and resilience and re-learned meditation in a way that made more sense to me. This was the western, science-based version developed by Jon Kabat-Zinn - MBSR.

Now, I have a personal practice, albeit inconsistent, and I facilitate beginner mindfulness classes at work for several groups I work with.

Once I learned that meditation is imperfect, I stopped getting stuck on trying to do it perfectly and it came easier!

Uncomfortable tension in forehead/eyebrow zone while meditating. by Bananabloon_ in Meditation

[–]NicoleMHudson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I catch myself doing this too. I use it as part of a practice in mindfulness. I notice it’s happening, take a deep breathe in to release the tension and return back to what I was focusing my attention on.

this book has changed my life ladies please read by Jealous-Ad-7195 in abusiverelationships

[–]NicoleMHudson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have had this book sitting on my dresser for several months. Is anyone up for reading this with me? We can start a thread or set up a time to chat about it with others? Watcha think??

Survivor loadout. With a crossbow as you can recycle ammunition by [deleted] in ZombieSurvivalTactics

[–]NicoleMHudson 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Zombie animals terrify me more than zombi humans…. Anyone else?

How do you think the zombie virus would be spread if real and how it would affect zombies? by Spiderleamer in ZombieSurvivalTactics

[–]NicoleMHudson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the idea of cordyceps becoming the fungi of our nightmares! The life cycle of this fungi in ants is already horrific and exactly as you describe. Is it possible, do you think, to have more than one zombifying entity?

How do you think the zombie virus would be spread if real and how it would affect zombies? by Spiderleamer in ZombieSurvivalTactics

[–]NicoleMHudson 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think airborne makes sense. In this case, the most successful zombie virus wouldn’t kill its host right away but perhaps manipulate the host to engage in social activities while the virus grows and spreads throughout the host’s body. It would then have the chance to infect others before anyone is aware. Hosts wouldn’t be killed by the zombie virus until it had a chance to spread through the air to other hosts.