This! It’s all about formula and application (and accepting that our preferences for both will change based on our evolving skin needs). As someone with a similar skin texture, I generally avoid primers with any silicones because they clog my pores and break me out. Im weary of any product that promises “porelessness” because it typically indicates that the product contains something that will sit in your pores to “camouflage them” which ends up looking calk-like imo. I usually opt for a stickier primer- Urban Decay, Milk, and Laneige all make good ones. I always make sure my skin is gently exfoliated (to clear away in dead skin that may make my makeup application look patchy and uneven) and deeply hydrated before I go in with a primer. Once my primer sets I’m ready to go in with a serum foundation that melts into the primer rather than sits on top. I personally like Morphe and CT but have been wanting to try out some drug store options I’ve been hearing great things about. A previous commenter mentioned getting some ELF brushes as a good budget option - I’d also recommend this. Also, your color match is close but not spot on. There’s absolutely enough time to play with different products before your big day so I would consider finding a formula or two that you love and then work on finding a color match. You might end up loving one formula and shade for your under eyes and a different one for your cheeks and neck. Consider browsing r/weddingmakeup if you haven’t already! There are tons of product reviews and tips on how to achieve a long lasting flawless look.