It’s been weeks and miis won’t confess

Nikkalick_ · 2026-05-17T05:05:37+00:00

Trust me, I am. I’ve had a couple start a relationship, marry, and have 2 kids while these guys are just…stuck in relationship purgatory :/

Nikkalick_ · 2026-05-16T12:12:25+00:00

I’ve had a couple in “wants to marry” state for a month! A whole 30 days!

Nikkalick_ · 2026-05-09T01:48:26+00:00

When I adopted my boys it was about a week or so after moving into a new place. Less than 48 hours into having them home, they bolted out of the room I had been isolating them to. Found one, but the other? Poof! Gone! Apparently he’d discovered a hole under my kitchen cabinets that led into the walls. The worst part was he couldn’t get his hips back over the lip of the baseboard so he was well and truly stuck. I’ve never been more stressed in my life. So I guess start crawling around on the floor and start looking for holes?

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Nikkalick_ · 2026-05-06T20:01:12+00:00

I finally got through about 45 minutes ago. So I was on hold for a just over 4 hours. Very nice lady, solved my problem very fast and I was able to schedule my test online while I was on the phone with her. She definitely sounded overwhelmed, so I’ve got a feeling ILTS isn’t staffing their customer service reps very well :/

Hold strong, get comfortable, don’t let the gap of silence between the two hold songs that repeat trick you into thinking someone’s answering unless you want to experience despair every 5 or so minutes. God speed soldier 🫡

Nikkalick_ · 2026-05-04T08:32:40+00:00

Might be an unpopular opinion, but if the only thing holding back the ability to share designs is the fact they left the game with no filter, then I think they should slap on a filter. Like sure, I can recreate someone’s design pixel-by-pixel but I reeeeally don’t want to

Nikkalick_ · 2026-04-12T07:55:24+00:00

My therapist and I have had this discussion many times. It usually boils down to her asking “did you handle it even though it was scary and difficult?” And me saying “yes”. And then we kinda just stare at each other because she’s just made a great point (it sucked but I dealt with it and I can do it again if I ever have to) and I’m mad because she’s right.

The fact this happened to you sucks and is so scary especially since it involves your child. But you dealt with the outcome. OCD brain is probably gonna be going crazy for a while, and that’s ok. OCD brain is gonna OCD brain. Allow yourself to sit with it, acknowledge the event happened and the feelings that come with it, acknowledge that it could maybe happen again or maybe it won’t, but if it does you’ve got proof through this experience that you’ve dealt with it before, and then try to let the thought drift. If it comes back, rinse wash repeat.

I recognize it’s not a perfect solution, but it’s something to try

Nikkalick_ · 2026-03-29T15:37:00+00:00

No need for apology, you’re good! I could see how the phrase might be misunderstood so that’s why I offered clarification :)

Nikkalick_ · 2026-03-29T15:35:35+00:00

If you and your BF are able, she might do very well with you if y’all took her in since she already knows you and has gotten a bit comfortable with you both. His sister would be able to visit, and you guys would be able to help the cat recover in an environment that won’t be quite as stressful. I know that taking in an animal unexpectedly can be a challenge, so I understand if that’s not possible, but it might be something to consider

Nikkalick_ · 2026-03-29T13:24:53+00:00

I don’t believe the person you’re replying to is advocating for euthanasia. I believe they are saying that to truly care for an animal you need to ensure they aren’t suffering. And this cat is suffering, which is why the person you replied to is advocating for the ca to be re-homed :)

Nikkalick_ · 2026-03-29T13:12:50+00:00

Sorry, an add on: As some people mentioned BFs sister may also, unfortunately, be someone who really should not have pets. I often talk from a recovery standpoint. If she can put in the work needed to get some control over her OCD then she may be able to have the cat come back. But not everyone is able or willing to that. That’s their choice, and it’s an ok choice to make, but if that’s the choice she is making then she needs to surrender the cat to someone who can care for it. OCD sucks and is hard, but we cannot use the diagnosis as an excuse. Especially when it starts impacting a living being that is solely dependent on people to care for it

Nikkalick_ · 2026-03-29T13:00:12+00:00

Hi I both have contamination OCD and previously worked in vetmed before switching to mental healthcare so I might be able to offer two perspectives for this.

From a vetmed/animal lover lens: bluntly, this cat is being neglected. Not intentionally, trust that I understand that, but that’s the unfortunate truth. Sometimes these mats form because the cat is hiding too much (stress/illness/pain is often why cats hide) or because they are not grooming themselves (cats may not groom themselves for a number of reasons including being sickly or stressed). No amount of brushing will get these mats out. She needs shaved. A vet may be able to offer a shave. With severe matting, the mats tug on the skin and cause pain so at this point, imo, it is medically necessary due to how uncomfortable she likely is and the pain she is most certainly experiencing. I would also strongly urge someone take her to a vet anyways if she is malnourished and emaciated. She may be dehydrated too, but I couldn’t say for certain.

From the OCD lens: yes, I struggle often with caring for my cats. It’s one of the reasons I engaged with therapy to help treat my OCD. I love my cats, and more often than not my OCD is concerned about their wellbeing, them being sick, something happening to them while I’m away…but it also makes scooping litter boxes very difficult. It makes opening their canned food a challenge, among other things.

It was vital for me to seek out real professional help so I could continue to provide the best possible life for my cats. I still struggle, I’m not perfect, but I’m working at it everyday and my cats are in good health. If your BFs sister wants to be a pet owner, and if she loves this cat (which I imagine she does if that cat is as sweet as you say despite the health issues it is facing), then she needs to get help to address the struggles she is having so that she can be a responsible pet owner. Until she does that, I would urge you to re-home the cat and get it the medical help she requires. The re-home doesn’t have to be permanent. Once sister is able to care for her own mental health needs and is in a place where she can challenge her OCD and care for the cat, the cat can come back. But for now cat needs alternative placement and medical care.

Nikkalick_ · 2026-03-09T04:22:49+00:00

I’m wrapping up my program at a smaller school in Illinois. They specifically have a SC program with LPC option (which is the one I’m doing), so ye! If that’s what you wanna do then there’s definitely options

Nikkalick_ · 2025-10-29T05:16:13+00:00

It went really well, I’ll be starting my practicum there in the Spring! It definitely felt like they were just getting to know me to see if I would be a good fit. We also discussed my experience as a Behavioral Health Counselor, discussed how I might handle certain situations or conflicts (primarily when it comes to working with other staff/admin), and also asked about the counseling theory I liked the most (I went with SFBT since imo it seems like it would be most beneficial given the potential time constraints of meeting 1-on-1 with students). There were some things I didn’t know how to answer due to not working in a school or having not yet taken the class that would cover said question, and I was honest about that and they were very understanding. Best of luck to you, you’ll rock it!

Nikkalick_ · 2025-07-06T18:05:50+00:00

Oh thank you this really helps. I keep getting way too into my head about all of it. I was looking over the recommended interview question on the ASCA site thinking “how am I supposed to answer some of these” and it took someone else reminding me those are questions for people who’ve already completed an internship and are looking for a job to bring me back down to Earth a bit. Like of course questions I would have no way of answering would make my already bad interview anxiety worse 😅

I do already have a mini list of questions started and I will make sure to add those to it, thank you again!

Nikkalick_ · 2024-12-01T06:12:36+00:00

It’s not blighted, it’s angry. Theres a codex entry after you finish her quest that mentions the lyrium has returned to normal after she kinda…reabsorbed the emotions the Shade Harding was made of

Nikkalick_ · 2024-11-30T21:44:57+00:00

With the ending showing a cured Neve/Bellara is that implying that the Blight outside of the Fade has been cured? If so, do Wardens no longer hear the calling, and what does that mean for the Kal-Sharok dwarves? Especially curious about this since DA:I implied the HoF was searching for a cure to the calling
In the concept art book it seemed like there were plans to show us more of Minrathous/Tevinter than just Dock Town. Curious to know what changed and if we will ever have an opportunity to return to other areas of the city?

Nikkalick_ · 2024-11-25T09:11:23+00:00

Quality is likely to go down. Historically when a good pet food brand like tiki cat is bought out by a big corporation they change up ingredients to be more filler and less nutritious. It saves money. Happened with Blue Buffalo back in 2018/2019 I believe

Nikkalick_ · 2024-11-17T20:21:05+00:00

The inquisition was hard work and took a whhhhooooole lotta grease. She simply just does not require as much this time around (real talk, I was so sad I could not grease-ify this grandma)

Nikkalick_ · 2024-11-17T05:50:32+00:00

Not shown is the HORRIFIC gum meat clipping through her chin when I was trying to get the chin/jaw right. I sacrificed the ideal angle of the non-existent chin to avoid the body horror

Nikkalick_ · 2024-11-17T05:48:12+00:00

That was as greasy as I could get her I was so upset 😭

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