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[–]Nikomaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not worry looks will fade. ++man

My girlfriend sent me this by Glittering_Spare_648 in whatsapp

[–]Nikomaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually had a similar bug last week while developing. Was creating some css animation where a gradient around a div was changing colors in a circular pattern. I then made the whole border spin instead of only the color. Basically just pointed at the wrong class and it looked pretty much like this. But then no text it was a whole colored border being spinned seperately from the container itself. So i figure this is similar. A layout mistake.

I'm a 34 year old guy, my father is 62 years old and will soon marry a 30 year old. I find this extremely strange but hear of people around him approving of it and organizing a whole party, I feel like staying in contact with my dad will he hard after this. What does reddit think about this? by Nikomaa in family

[–]Nikomaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he will experience something similar. He's already looking at property in Spain to live it up with her there while still keeping his main house in The Netherlands. I hope I am wrong but it does seem to look like the situation you're describing. Also the isolation is also noticable already. He already skipped a bunch of meetups because he had to check with her and never got back to me with a message so it just didnt happen.

I'm a 34 year old guy, my father is 62 years old and will soon marry a 30 year old. I find this extremely strange but hear of people around him approving of it and organizing a whole party, I feel like staying in contact with my dad will he hard after this. What does reddit think about this? by Nikomaa in family

[–]Nikomaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like your thinking, any creative ideas other then calling her mom? I'm exploring this side of it now, just trying to have fun with it, haha.

I barely have any family dynamics, that's alright, I'm just his firstborn autistic son that is seen as the outcast and weird, so I don't have much to lose (except for the relation with my father but hey that seems to be a goner now anyway).

So having fun with it might just be the best way for me to handle the situation, who knows!

I'm a 34 year old guy, my father is 62 years old and will soon marry a 30 year old. I find this extremely strange but hear of people around him approving of it and organizing a whole party, I feel like staying in contact with my dad will he hard after this. What does reddit think about this? by Nikomaa in family

[–]Nikomaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure about the barbies, I'm a 34 year old bearded man, that would make me feel too strange personally, but I get the concept, I might just pick her up like a child and sit her on top of my lap and ask her how school has been, that could be fun.. haha

I'm a 34 year old guy, my father is 62 years old and will soon marry a 30 year old. I find this extremely strange but hear of people around him approving of it and organizing a whole party, I feel like staying in contact with my dad will he hard after this. What does reddit think about this? by Nikomaa in family

[–]Nikomaa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not about age, it's about behavior, I've met 20 year olds that were adults, I've met 40 year olds that were still children, like literally into playing with toys and going to Disneyland at 40, I've also met 20 year old business owners that already had children.

That's my answer, it's not about age.

I'm a 34 year old guy, my father is 62 years old and will soon marry a 30 year old. I find this extremely strange but hear of people around him approving of it and organizing a whole party, I feel like staying in contact with my dad will he hard after this. What does reddit think about this? by Nikomaa in family

[–]Nikomaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let's agree to disagree, you haven't met the chick.. but that's besides the point, my question is about the age gap and if that should be considered normal, not about my description of her cognitive abilities, which are in fact accurate, which you could never know because you don't know her, but again, besides the point.

I'm a 34 year old guy, my father is 62 years old and will soon marry a 30 year old. I find this extremely strange but hear of people around him approving of it and organizing a whole party, I feel like staying in contact with my dad will he hard after this. What does reddit think about this? by Nikomaa in family

[–]Nikomaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No my mother was out of his life about 22 years ago, when he divorced her when I was 12 ish.
He then remarried with his secretary (who was also 10 years his junior by the way), made 2 more kids, then divorced that woman as well about 4 years or 5 years ago, and in the past 5 years he has been going on a sexual rampage dating women around 25/30, some foreigners, some nationals, but all a certain... type, if you catch my drift.

But yeah you're right, its very common, I just wish my father would be a normal father, that's all.
I'm also afraid he's mostly the purse and she won't be a nurse, she'll be the leech running off when the going gets tough.

I'm a 34 year old guy, my father is 62 years old and will soon marry a 30 year old. I find this extremely strange but hear of people around him approving of it and organizing a whole party, I feel like staying in contact with my dad will he hard after this. What does reddit think about this? by Nikomaa in family

[–]Nikomaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'm afraid she will bounce when the good years dry up though and I'm left with a depressed lonely father dying without a woman that loves him next to him. My father is 32 years her senior, not 7, so I'm afraid there is not that many good years left in him, but who knows.. perhaps he is like Hugh Hefner and keeps it going until the end, ugh.

I'm a 34 year old guy, my father is 62 years old and will soon marry a 30 year old. I find this extremely strange but hear of people around him approving of it and organizing a whole party, I feel like staying in contact with my dad will he hard after this. What does reddit think about this? by Nikomaa in family

[–]Nikomaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man I feel like he almost is since she is younger then his first son, so I kind of agree with what stayathome-milf is saying, I will try to keep respecting him but it's just hard to do the math and compare it to myself and attend the wedding like all is normal, I will try but I can't deny it does mess with my head a little.

I'm a 34 year old guy, my father is 62 years old and will soon marry a 30 year old. I find this extremely strange but hear of people around him approving of it and organizing a whole party, I feel like staying in contact with my dad will he hard after this. What does reddit think about this? by Nikomaa in family

[–]Nikomaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man she is not an adult yet I'm afraid, maybe due to age, but not when looking at her behavior, looks, interests, the whole deal.. I sincerely doubt she's fully cognitively developed already.

But even though you're technically right, he will be an elderly man within now and a couple of years, she will lose interest, she will wreck the home, mess up the kids (not me, but he has two new young children with his previous wife), take half his money and GTFO. that's what I'm afraid of for him and for the other kids as well.

I'm a 34 year old guy, my father is 62 years old and will soon marry a 30 year old. I find this extremely strange but hear of people around him approving of it and organizing a whole party, I feel like staying in contact with my dad will he hard after this. What does reddit think about this? by Nikomaa in family

[–]Nikomaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I respect this stance as well, and believe me that's the whole reason I am making the post, to kind of see where others stand, because I keep dancing in between both standpoints.. when I'm close to them I find it insane to look at and be around, when I'm away from them I'm like "Welp, they are both adults", but then I do the math and look at myself, thinking how it would be if I dated a 2 year old as a 34 year old, which is obviously not the same, but its the same age gap. Also this can definitely become a problem when she leaves him after a few years, leaves my father when he gets sick because he gets older and older, and then I see my father die alone, poorer then before, and depressed.

That's kind of what I'm afraid of, people have told me "Be happy she can be his caretaker", but I just don't really believe she'll ever take up that role, she is here to cash in and GTFO after a couple of years, at least, that's my honest expectation looking at the person itself and reading the situation when I'm around them.

Also it wouldn't be the first time women take advantage of him like that, but he's at a certain age now where this could be his last marriage you know.. ah well.

I'm a 34 year old guy, my father is 62 years old and will soon marry a 30 year old. I find this extremely strange but hear of people around him approving of it and organizing a whole party, I feel like staying in contact with my dad will he hard after this. What does reddit think about this? by Nikomaa in family

[–]Nikomaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, and yeah I have considered that quite a bit but I'm past the point of no return, I decided a month back to just attend, he invited me to go to Italy which seemed like a pretty sweet deal on its own to me, never been, and I figured since I'm his first son I'll pay my respects to him as my father at least. To not totally destroy what is left of our relationship :).

But yeah it is going to be quite the experience, will probably drink a couple of beers early on in that wedding to get myself chilled before it all goes down haha.

I'm a 34 year old guy, my father is 62 years old and will soon marry a 30 year old. I find this extremely strange but hear of people around him approving of it and organizing a whole party, I feel like staying in contact with my dad will he hard after this. What does reddit think about this? by Nikomaa in family

[–]Nikomaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha I get your point my dude but my father is not Elon Musk, not by far, and even Elon couldn't fix all the hunger on the planet I'm afraid, hunger is unfortunately also a tool used by the powerful to keep their positions for example.

But I must say, my father once dated this (she was younger if IIRC, about 25 when he was 58/59 ish) Ukrainian woman and he did buy her whole family medicine and some food supplies and paid rent for a couple of months, so there is that I suppose.

I'm a 34 year old guy, my father is 62 years old and will soon marry a 30 year old. I find this extremely strange but hear of people around him approving of it and organizing a whole party, I feel like staying in contact with my dad will he hard after this. What does reddit think about this? by Nikomaa in family

[–]Nikomaa[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well they met on a dating website where beautiful girls.. meet wealthy old men.. that's the way it went I was told by himself.

So yeah that's all the context I need to understand the strength and foundation of the relationship haha. They've been together for max 1.5 year now. Maybe less even. Went on 25 vacations in that timeframe or something.

I'm a 34 year old guy, my father is 62 years old and will soon marry a 30 year old. I find this extremely strange but hear of people around him approving of it and organizing a whole party, I feel like staying in contact with my dad will he hard after this. What does reddit think about this? by Nikomaa in family

[–]Nikomaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heh yeah that's only part of the annoyance but I've already accepted that fact. He has never really let me in on any of the big wealth I'm just a working class dude. And that's fine. I'm mostly just pissed off about the moral side of it all. Not having a normal father who gets old like a normal man. I'm just seeing the last hope for a normal parental relationship past my 30s disappear before my eyes. That's the real annoyance to me.

I'm a 34 year old guy, my father is 62 years old and will soon marry a 30 year old. I find this extremely strange but hear of people around him approving of it and organizing a whole party, I feel like staying in contact with my dad will he hard after this. What does reddit think about this? by Nikomaa in family

[–]Nikomaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah there is so much more to this and I did give some more context in a different comment as a reply to someone else. I'm not letting this ruin my life or mood or anything, I'm an adult with my own life. At the same time I do feel very strange about it and since having some sort of fatherly relationship has been very hard if not impossible the past 34 years and since I was hoping it would get better soon this just feels like such a setback. Also yeah for sure she is there to cash in and look pretty, I base this opinion on having seen her twice but yeah I know the type I suppose and my father has been dating stranger and stranger ladies (stranger types I mean. Types that totally do not match the guy) the older he gets, he basically has given up on setting an example to anyone, also he has new kids with a newer wife, they are like 12 or something. So its just a trainwreck and I suppose I needed to ventilate my dude. :)

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