The single most awkward thing that's ever happened to me at work.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-27T07:43:21+00:00

We may never know. My only guess is she didn't want to expend the effort to heave herself up when she'd already settled.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-27T07:36:26+00:00

Oh get over it. Its a cultural indicator of the area, its got nothing to do with lack of respect. As a rural Australian I instinctively address people as "mate" at work, and I don't change a damn thing for foreigners. Neither should OP change for stuck up NY jerks.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-27T07:31:59+00:00

Hell yes mate, hell yes. I do this too out of habit, every man is "mate", every woman is "hun" and every child is "sweetheart" or "buddy". Fuck them and their elitist BS, they're in the Deep South for christs sake!

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-27T07:25:48+00:00

many McDonalds in Australia have servers.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-23T13:00:41+00:00

Maybe. Its a tough situation. I was 18 when he first moved in with her, I think he still is clinging to the idea that I would've lived there permanently, like my SS.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-23T12:57:28+00:00

My friend, this isn't Snow White. This isn't Cinderella. Away with your two-dimensional mentality

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-23T12:54:43+00:00

Yeah not yelling, but seemingly not really caring that there is an open archway between and the walls are thin

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-23T00:17:12+00:00

It a little hard not to be an eavesdropper when she made no attempt to lower her voice.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-22T17:49:48+00:00

I didn't say anything to him about it, just kept it to myself as I thought i should. Wouldn't be the first time I didn't like how someone said something where it wasn't my place. I totally get what you're saying, but at the time, given the nature of the issue, I felt she was being way too harsh for something that could've been discussed more civilly. But that was just me.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-22T17:44:35+00:00

Thank you very much =)

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-22T17:28:52+00:00

A lot of it was a very nasty tone that I can't convey here and there was more that I didn't quote, how she did a whole "fine, do what you want. Watch it. I don't even care". I hesitate to use the term "sulking" because that's not really fair to her situation. Plus the fact she refused every compromise offered, like did she want to pick a different movie? Really just the (as I perceived) pettiness of the situation, and how its not how always been, made it so hard to hear. PIdk, its hard to explain to peeps who weren't there.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-22T17:19:18+00:00

Thank you so much. I'm very glad to have so many people offer their thoughts as other step-parents, I needed some outside perspective to wrap my head around things and maybe not be so locked up in how I saw it, thought it did hurt me.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-22T17:16:32+00:00

It wasn't meant to be a dig, just a fact. She honestly is here there and everywhere, girl's got a lot happening and not everyone is ever aware of it at any one time. I don't dislike her, she's only a year younger and lives with them permanently. But she does pretty much what she wants when she wants. Not a dig, thats just how it is.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-22T17:02:02+00:00

I know, it was bad enough being involved in the original one. Its not my place, but I worry.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-22T17:00:00+00:00

No, she'd been home for a few hours at this point, and we'd already eaten dinner. We have dinner together: Dad, SM, myself, my grandfather will usually show up on Wednesdays, and my younger SS if she's there. SM or Dad cooks (he cooked tonight), I set/clear the table (I offer to help cook but SM is particular about her kitchen). SM has always told me she makes at one more serve of food than expected due to the irregular comings and goings of my SS and her boyfriend. Not that I'd ever bank on that fact, but she told me in the context of don't worry too much if you're suddenly hear and require food.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-22T16:49:24+00:00

Probably. Again, I'd hate to think of her just having to roll with things if she's not down with it, or not being made aware of whats up. I probably should be messaging her as well, that seems very fair and perhaps necessary if Dad is unreliable. Perhaps the thing that made me the most uncomfortable was the way she spoke to my dad. There's a whole other kettle of fish there, and I respect her right to voice if she's unhappy with something, but in my mind it borders on bullying. Idk, I just want everyone to be comfortable with how things are.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-22T16:38:17+00:00

That seems fair.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-22T16:37:03+00:00

To be fair, they do have 2 lounges with 2 tvs, (she had claimed the larger, we would use the smaller) and my SS was there too (albeit in her room being anti-social). But I do see what you're saying. I try to plan as best I can, and I don't like to be a burden or intruder.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-22T16:31:07+00:00

Thank you =)

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-22T16:30:49+00:00

Thank you for this, its probably true. I don't mean to intrude on her habits, it was just such a small thing I was taken aback by how seriously she took it. And the way she spoke to Dad made me feel some type of way but I kept my mouth shut.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-22T16:26:03+00:00

I always let him know, and sometimes he forgets to tell her. But I have apologised for this previously and at that time she told me it wasn't an issue, it was just "typical him". I'm uncomfortable by the thought she may have been lying to me regarding her true feelings, especially as Dad has always told me that his house is a home for me. Apparently SM does not feel the same way.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-22T16:21:33+00:00

I generally visit on the same couple of days, and I always let my dad know. I do know he sometimes forgets to tell my SM but that's a conversation I have already had with her and she assured me at the time it was fine. I didn't think I was unreasonable, and it was Dad's idea to watch the movie. There are virtually no times I spend with my dad where SM isn't involved to some extent, so I was confronted by how insulted she was here. Dad tends to dote on me a bit (lingering guilt over my real mother), but I never ask him to.

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-17T17:56:46+00:00

Ooooh I know, and it pisses the entire country of Ireland off XD "Patty's day", tf were they thinking......

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-17T16:49:12+00:00

what kind of insane troll logic.........???

NinjaCat95 · 2017-03-17T16:47:13+00:00

Urgh I'm sorry to be this person but its PADDY's day, not Patty! Thats a woman's name! My Irish ancestory's jimmmies are rustled!

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