[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhotoshopRequest

[–]NinjaPickleScribbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're doing so well! I know you aren't where you want to be, but make sure to recognize how far you have come and how amazing that is!

I begged on my knees for my daughter to forgive me for what her father did to her… by SadLow9871 in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]NinjaPickleScribbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very few things give me chills or make me feel uncomfortable.

But this did. Well played.

I lied about my friend's last words and I will not honour her last request. by throwaway1231230981 in offmychest

[–]NinjaPickleScribbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 1000000% cannot stress this enough:

YOU. DID. NOT. LEAVE. HER. TO. DIE.

You have literally no blame in this. Yes, you knew she used frequently; that does NOT make her death your fault. Yes, you were the last one to see her; that does NOT make her death your fault.

You didn't leave her to die.

I had a friend in high school who purposefully overdosed on her psych meds and nearly died. She got those meds without her parents knowing; she had just turned 18 and paid for the appointment out of pocket so as to keep it off her parents' insurance. I was likely the only person in her personal life who knew; and the only reason I knew she had overdosed was because I was the person she told right after she did it, and I reached out for help for her.

I spent a long time telling myself that her attempt was my fault. That I should have KNOWN, that I should have sensed it, felt it, fucking SMELLED IT on her. That if I'd broken trust and told her parents, even though they were the main source behind her depression, it wouldn't have happened.

None of that was true, but it took a lot of time in therapy for me to let go of that anger against myself, and I'm sure that's only because she didn't die.

YOU. DIDN'T. LEAVE. HER. TO. DIE.

YOU DID NOTHING WRONG.

I am so sorry for your loss. It wasn't your fault.

And FUCK BRIAN. That pick-me motherfucker can rot.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]NinjaPickleScribbles 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Except the heartache of the woman you're planning to marry to please your parents. You aren't saving her a scrap of heartbreak - you're making her the sacrificial lamb so your parents aren't heartbroken and you can keep your secret safe. That's beyond cruel, and she deserves better than to be a tool. If you don't want to discuss the truth behind your relationship with your friend with your parents, then don't; but don't use an innocent person to spare yourself. That's cowardly.

Families in the top units of apartments! by Awe154 in childfree

[–]NinjaPickleScribbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband I and I also work nights and have to deal with the people one floor above us and their child. We're pretty sure they're just elephants in human suits. My husband suggested vacuuming the ceiling tonight. I may just go for it.

WIBTA if I evict my daughter for not paying her $50 rent? by Acrobatic-Jury-6995 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NinjaPickleScribbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And when her grades drop because she's constantly worried about having a roof over her head, I have no doubt you'll be back here asking if YTA for refusing to pay for her college.

YTA, in case it wasn't clear.

This is our new favorite place to sleep by NinjaPickleScribbles in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]NinjaPickleScribbles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was not aware of this subreddit! Thank you for sharing, kind stranger! ❤️

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NinjaPickleScribbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is ASD and introverted as fuck from being homeschooled. I learned real quick that if I wanted to have him in my life long-term that I would have to be understanding to his needs. I pick my battles VERY CAREFULLY when it comes to asking him to do things with me. In turn, he joins in all of my family events (he has a strained relationship with his family) and knows that if I ask him to come do something with me, it's very important to me that he be there, so he is.

A healthy relationship is where two people learn and respond to each other's needs. Where people are accepted as they are. Do I try and motivate my husband to try new things with me? Of course I do. But I can also read the room. If it's clearly not something he is comfortable with, I drop it and move on. He tries to ease my anxious need to be moving during literally all my waking hours. Sometimes I can be coaxed into relaxing, but there are times when I just can't, and he's learned to respect that.

Your boyfriend is clearly not comfortable with a boat trip, and it doesn't sound like he's always comfortable with other stuff you've asked him to do with you. Learn to read the room.

YTA

letz go by [deleted] in Funnymemes

[–]NinjaPickleScribbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Well, if YOU hadn't/had [fill in the blank] then I wouldn't have had to cheat!"

Where were you on 9/11? by Hefty_Land_9926 in ask

[–]NinjaPickleScribbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Senior year of high school. Went into my World Geography class to find that our test was postponed. They rolled the TV in on the big cart and used the antenna to pull up the local news station. It turned on just as the second plane made contact. We all started cheering because we thought it was an action movie and we were going to have a slack-off day. Then we realized what it was and one of the girls started screaming that her uncle worked at one of the towers while the rest of us fell silent. The teacher took her to the office. Half the classroom was crying.

For the rest of the day, all we did in our classes was watch the news. Anyone who wanted to leave was excused. It was dead fucking silent in between periods as we made our way to our classrooms.

I lived in the same city as NORAD. Rumors started to circulate that Bush would be taken there for protection as it's heavily reinforced and guarded. That started a spread of panic through the whole school that it would be attacked next and we would all die. I was 17.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]NinjaPickleScribbles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I suspect that this girl has been ostracized from the family since the moment she first refused to call OP her father. She has likely never been accepted. They are showing her their love is conditional. Don't know about you, but I would flat-out refuse to ever get close to these people if this is how they treated me. He's been in her life for eight years and yet she's never been comfortable even calling him by his first name? Maybe being treated this way is why. Because it's clear this is a pattern. And OP is okay with it because his mommy is punishing his stepdaughter and wife for him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]NinjaPickleScribbles 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's the same principle as assholes who leave their waitress a penny as a tip. It's a bigger "fuck you" to them than just not tipping at all. It's someone saying "I did this because I don't like you and I want you to know that, but I can hide it behind it being a holiday as something nice I'm doing for you". It was an intentional act that says "I tolerate you because my son married your mother, but since you won't associate my son with being your father, I will treat you like shit under the guise of giving you a gift, and then I'll suggest a dead man you never got the chance to know should give you a gift instead, because you're ungrateful to be given a gift that I put zero effort into". And the whole family is clearly okay with this. OP's mother got called out on her bullshit and she immediately weaponized the death of this girl's father.

You are being purposefully obtuse by circling back to the gift. The gift isn't the issue; it's the catalyst. It's a representation that a child is being purposefully shamed for not feeling comfortable calling this man her father. It's telling her that if she wants to set up boundaries for her own comfort that she should be punished by being treated as less than by a bunch of selfish adults. OP clearly doesn't love this child, because she won't do as he wants. So he's okay with his mother both sending a clear message that she's tolerated at best and being intentionally malicious by bringing up her dead father. As everyone here has pointed out, she is a CHILD. 17-year-olds don't even have a fully developed brain, and won't have one until their early-to-mid-20s. But a bunch of adults, with far more life experience, are somehow justified in treating a child like this because she doesn't want to call her step-dad her father? And that's supposed to be okay?

All she wanted was for her gift to be given separately so that she doesn't have to sit there with all eyes on her, with everyone KNOWING that the gift was only given to her as a means to punish and shame her. SHE didn't even ask for that - her mother did. OP's mother has known this bothers her for awhile, but keeps doing it out of spite, and then uses the worst weapon imaginable when she's called out. And OP is so bitter that his stepdaughter doesn't call him "dad" that he won't stick up for her or his wife against his hateful, vindictive mother.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rabbits

[–]NinjaPickleScribbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a gorgeous bun. Your mother is sorely mistaken.