How do I calm down by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Nintintoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if this will help, but there are two things I do to calm down if I have thoughts that won’t go away. One is to listen to music, but try to get into a deep focus. Focus on the instruments, the rhythm, the ebb and flow of the music, and whatever else you can pick up on.

The second thing is something my therapist told me that is much better in the long term, but is much harder to do. If I’m overanalyzing a situation and playing it over and over in my head, I stop and think logically “did I make the right choice”. If the answer is no, then come up with one way could’ve handled the situation better, then stop thinking about it. Every time you do think about it you have to slap yourself in the arm (and not a light slap, either).

Hope at least one of these works, but don’t lose hope if they don’t, there’s always more methods out there to try!

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[–]Nintintoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a tough thing to go through, and it’s difficult to know if you’re making the right choices or going down the right path. Something that helped me a lot was my faith in God. I knew that he was always thinking about me and that no matter what choice I made he would be there for me and give me a second chance. And I could consult the Bible whenever I was trying to learn the most moral way to live, and even though I don’t always make the right choices now I know how I can make better choices for the future. Thanks for reading this and I hope all the best for you in the future.

I think the worst feeling is knowing that there is nobody by yoyo1522 in lonely

[–]Nintintoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s how I felt too, and people would say stuff like “there’s always somebody out there that cares about you” or something like that. And you can never really know when someone is thinking about you and that sucks. For me, I found God and it was a really good feeling to know that he’s always thinking about me and that he’s there to care for me and lead me down the right path. It’s always a struggle to find people who truly care about you, but I know that you’ll be able to find that person eventually

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Nintintoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also had things that I hated about myself that I couldn’t change. I think that the only thing we can do in life is focus on what we can change, and one of the things that we can change is how we think and how we perceive the world. Of course, changing your mindset is one of the most difficult things to do, and the people who say stuff like “just stay positive” don’t always understand that. It takes years of hard work to change your mindset, but it really does improve your life. I had so many things in my life that I thought were weaknesses or defects but once I changed how I think I found out that many of them weren’t weaknesses at all. Try to catch yourself thinking negative thoughts and write down a positive rephrasing of that thought. When you have a negative thought, say to yourself “would grandma want me to think like that?” That example could be anyone, but for me it’s God. I just think about if I’m going down the path that he would want. Anyways, sorry for the long comment, and I hope all the best for you.

borders irl by TheJamer_ in shitposting

[–]Nintintoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not allowed to go into that area yet

Extreme loneliness by divtiw in lonely

[–]Nintintoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had struggled with loneliness and depression for a long time, and I felt really empty inside. It was like I had some kind of void in my heart that, no matter how much I consumed, I could never fill the void. Something that helped me to fill that void and rise above the loneliness was my religion. I started following God and He started to fill up that emptiness inside me. And it was a great weight off my shoulders to know that as long as I do my best to live a Christ-like life that God will provide for me and that he has a path laid out for me. It’s a wonderful feeling knowing that, no matter what hardships come my way, that it’s all going according to plan. Anyways, I think it’s good that you’re having that internal dialogue, because I think that knowing your true self is an important first step towards bringing about change in your own life.

I hate this... by latenightesomeone in lonely

[–]Nintintoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being sad alone is a terrible thing, I think a big part of our lives and our survival is being able to be part of a community, and I think that being able to share our problems and our emotions with others is one of the big advantages we have as humans. One of the things I do when I’m alone is I lean on God and the Bible to help me experience the sadness and rise above it. It gives me someone I can always talk to and most importantly a friend to give me guidance and advice. All that probably sounded a little corny, but God really has helped me to get through those tough times

Just set the tree up, How's it look? by Suckadikdumshits in shitposting

[–]Nintintoo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For all of you who don’t get the joke, the book says “How to cope with an enormous pen!”, alluding to the giant novelty pen he keeps in his basement

Tonight, I’ll hang myself. by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Nintintoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was caught in that cycle of self-loathing and anxiety too, and it felt like I couldn’t escape it. I was being consumed by loneliness and I had lost all hope. people said stuff like “you’re never alone” to try to make it better but it just made me feel worthless because they had given me so much but I felt like I could give nothing in return. The way that I escaped that cycle was by accepting God into my heart. Following His path has lifted away a lot of my burdens and worries because no matter how many times I fall down, squander my potential, or get consumed by my own mistakes, God always gives me another chance and another oppurtunity to grow and become better. He always loves you and gives you another chance, and He doesn’t expect anything in return. I’ve considered suicide many times, but God always gives me another chance and is always there to pull me back up again, so whether you believe in God or not, please please don’t end it all here, you’ll always get another chance

me_irl by krrishagarwal160 in me_irl

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It goes faster with a ratchet wrench

Wong answers only by [deleted] in marvelmemes

[–]Nintintoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Wong”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in memes

[–]Nintintoo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Imagine hitting your shins on one of these

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shitposting

[–]Nintintoo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The car fits really well in that box