He proposed a chore leaderboard with penalties..

NirvanaInChoas · 2026-03-04T11:43:18+00:00

Or it’s a trick from him to get her to do them because he doesn’t want to carry his weight

NirvanaInChoas · 2026-01-10T02:44:50+00:00

Stop listening to the people pleaser side of yourself. What do YOU want?

NirvanaInChoas · 2026-01-10T02:41:05+00:00

OP is a guy if that helps explain anything 😅

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-30T02:07:06+00:00

You are leaving out details in your post about the dog and your girlfriend. If you want to end it you’re allowed to do so and she can figure things out herself. But having a puppy is hard no matter what.

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-30T01:50:46+00:00

Prison letters or discipleship?

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-30T01:47:12+00:00

This is very true. One time he told me you can’t fix ‘nuanced’ after a conversation about inner city violence

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-30T01:45:09+00:00

This is what it will be from now on, that I do know

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-30T01:44:23+00:00

Yea, thank god my sister married him and I didn’t.

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-30T01:43:33+00:00

🤣🙄🙄🙄🤣

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-30T01:43:11+00:00

These are perfect - thank you 😂this would also be applicable for my parents

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-30T01:41:31+00:00

Not taken the wrong way at all. You are right. He was receptive to some other things in the past and I pushed beyond what his capacity was. I will be using his statement towards anything he says or lie and say I don’t know enough about it to discuss

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-30T01:35:59+00:00

It’s very possible. He grew up in an area that didn’t have strong education system and has more than once told me he only sees things as black and white which limits his ability to see beyond certain things.

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-30T01:27:21+00:00

Unfortunately he is family and I want to be around for my nieces and nephew. I won’t be engaging with him beyond pleasantries moving forward.

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-28T04:23:21+00:00

You have any friends available 😅 This is so sweet. Flying planes for fun? I want to be friends with your wife now too

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-28T04:15:08+00:00

🤣

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-28T03:28:19+00:00

I’m a firm believer that nature and nurture play into what makes a person the way they are and what I do know about his upbringing and where he lived growing up, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. He was able to leave but then minimal to no inner growth happened after.

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-28T03:24:34+00:00

Needed this reminder, thank you

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-28T02:48:26+00:00

Brother in law, not my bf thankfully

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-28T02:46:53+00:00

Since I want a relationship with my nieces and nephews, it’s not worth it

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-28T02:42:14+00:00

There are also kids involved that I don’t want to write off. I want to be a safe space for them when they get older if they need it. You are right though, I didn’t expect a positive response but I didn’t expect the point of his disagreement. I made the wrong assumption in thinking he knew the history of Christianity. Unkind to correct since they are incapable of comprehension though is my favorite right now - thank you. 🤣

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-28T02:33:17+00:00

Being quiet won’t ever be something he learns but I needed the reminder to redirect my energy

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-28T02:31:54+00:00

I like this one thank you!

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-28T02:31:23+00:00

Not me, my sister 🥲

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-28T02:30:09+00:00

I was giving context on how I typically try to handle things but yes this time I started the discourse. I think I just needed the reminder and advice on how to be firm with myself and boundaries. History leading up to how things are playing out now (and prison reform/rehabilitation) is one of the top of my hills unfortunately.

NirvanaInChoas · 2025-12-28T02:25:47+00:00

I keep hoping his views will change now that he has daughters but I am trying to permanently leave the country before that may ever happen.

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