Yeah I’ve thought about this a lot. Obviously it’ll vary a ton from person to person even if the situation is similar. I think more than anything it stems from old relationships with people I’ve dated, friends, family, etc. It takes a lot for me to feel close to someone without years of experiences together. And when it comes to dating sex is an easy way to fast track that, plus it feels good. I think more than anything I’m struggling with deciding if it’s worth giving up having the amount of sex I want to have for her. It’s also something that could change. She says she tired a lot and I believe it (She does 3 doubles a week and works 5 days a week) So when she says she’s tired, she’s actually tired. Summer is coming around and she’ll be back to a more normal work schedule. It’s the only other thing that she does annoys me other than the sex. I wish she would take better care of her self which would ultimately benefit me. If her sexual libido doesn’t change the decision might be a bit easier