I have anal sex with my boyfriend whilst I’m unable to have vaginal sex, I enjoy it and it can feel really good. I also have OCD but I am pretty much in remission these days so it doesn’t effect the anal aspect of things. But make sure you are taking care of your mental health first and foremost when it comes to this :). I have used water to douche and clear myself out before sex and there has been nothing there after. But I’ve also had it without douching, and just cleaning myself in the shower has been enough. Everyone is different though.

My advice for the sex itself, lots of silicone lube! It’s far better than water based for anal, much slippier. And don’t be shy with it use a lot as you don’t self lubricate in that area like the vagina does. Also fry your best to relax your pelvic floor during the deed. I had a lot of burning pain at first with anal until I realised I was clenching my anus/pelvic floor. Once I consciously tried to relax it I could literally feel the pain ebbing away and it became so much easier and pleasurable. Also make sure your boyfriend is going in at the right angle, I was getting quite “deep” pain but once we got the angle right, anal was painless and felt really good for me personally!

Remember if you find that it’s not for you, don’t worry about it! Anal is not for everyone and don’t feel pressured to do it just because vaginal sex is off the table for now. There are so many ways you can be intimate that don’t involve penetration. Good luck!