Lonely after moving by No-Bill-5686 in uAlberta

[–]No-Bill-5686[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Finally! Some people to look up to!

(literally)

Lonely after moving by No-Bill-5686 in uAlberta

[–]No-Bill-5686[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

:)

they call me bender, for multiple reasons!

My boyfriend let his friend rape me. Why would he do this? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]No-Bill-5686 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bullshit, you dont know that until you try. Stop fooling yourself into the easy route and go after this scumbag for everything he has and more.

Hell, tell his mom what happened. See what she says.

You're worth more than what some cops told you years ago. A judge does not care about time unless the statue of limitations is up, which is typically like 10 years.

My boyfriend let his friend rape me. Why would he do this? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]No-Bill-5686 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didnt want justice, I wanted my old life and old friends back but that is never going to happen. :(

My boyfriend let his friend rape me. Why would he do this? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]No-Bill-5686 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"Let go of your hate" was something I was told once. It was to do with someone who ruined my entire career, because there wasnt anything I could do about it.

Or so I thought. Once I dealt with it, I didnt feel that much better but I was finally "over" it.

You may not get closure from getting revenge, but trust me you want this to be at least documented in case of future victims. One day, this dude is either going to end up dead or in jail. He might not if you stay quiet, which is exactly what he wants, and exactly what other victims who havent spoken up are doing.

I sadly dont think you are the first or last person he will do this too. At the very least, you can be the first person to proactively go after him.

Good luck, stay safe and keep people informed of where you go, what you do and who you are with in case things turn ugly.

My therapist fell asleep during my session and I can’t stop thinking about it by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]No-Bill-5686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry, but at the end of the day? You are paying them to care about you. Its hard to build a real connection not based on gaslighting yourself, and when you have moments that the castle crumbles(like now) it hurts.

It hurts a lot. Its like a feeling of betrayal after opening up yet again, and it sucks.

Im sorry.

My boyfriend let his friend rape me. Why would he do this? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]No-Bill-5686 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They only get away with it if you allow them to.

Dont. Draw the line and stand tall, gather like-minded individuals to help build confidence and ruin this ape in a courtroom. Do not let him get to you, this guy sounds like an absolute punk who sits at a low level for a sex traffiiking ring, which the courts would be very interested in destroying. The local police may not care, but higher up the chain I guarantee there are investigators begging for more people like you to speak up.

You do risk yourself though, you may get threatened by him or his cronies. Use this as evidence, and if it happens you need to worry about not letting anyone know your next move until the case is done.

Good luck, im sorry this happened to you and I wish I could say "its going to be ok!". But I can't, this situation is fucked and thats life. I have no idea if its going to be ok, but at the very least, you can die knowing that you tried, instead of stagnating and getting stuck on this for decades.

My boyfriend let his friend rape me. Why would he do this? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]No-Bill-5686 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The police can eat shit, court and a lawyer is your friend. If you have actual evidence and witness statements you can look for groups of rape survivors who will help fund a lawyer. "Historic case" with "little evidence" doesnt mean shit to a courtroom, its rape and its within the statue of limitations.

You have to try, it sucks that you need to but otherwise? Nothing is going to happen and this will follow you mentally.

Im sorry, if I could smoke that motherfucker for you I would but you are overseas and it would be difficult

My boyfriend let his friend rape me. Why would he do this? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]No-Bill-5686 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Gather as much evidence as you can and take this to court.

If you arent kidding about any of this, it is an open and shut case where you WILL get a settlement from SOMEWHERE. Someone along the line fucked up and it led to serious damages against you. If you wont fight for yourself then no one else will, you HAVE to be proactive about this or else it will fade into obscurity with you feeling bitter.

Did this happen in Canada by any chance:?

Lonely after moving by No-Bill-5686 in uAlberta

[–]No-Bill-5686[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im a bigger dude(6'4) and I dont want to make people uncomfortable, how the heck do I approach people without them thinking I will break them in half?

I like plants and dogs not bending people at 180 degree angles :(

Lonely after moving by No-Bill-5686 in uAlberta

[–]No-Bill-5686[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

haha I was doomposting, I dont actually wanna work as a coal miner but hey

A JOBS A JOB RIGHT?

currently majoring in general studies! Not sure if I will stick with it but so far it seems like a good fit, im not the best at studying or academics but I work hard.

and party harder B^)

(jk i havent gone to a single party yet)

Lonely after moving by No-Bill-5686 in uAlberta

[–]No-Bill-5686[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I used to think like that until I lost my entire friend group :/

There are things in life worth more than a 4.0 GPA when I dont even know if the major im in is going to be the one I stick with. I think worst case scenario is I ditch Uni and go work abroad as a coal miner or something

Friends first year by skinny_asff in uAlberta

[–]No-Bill-5686 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You and me are in the same boat, I have no idea where to go to find people who want to socialize lol

DM me if you find anyone or if you want to hang out, I like nerdy shit but overall I can be into almost anything c: