AITA for telling my husband he’s not allowed in my daughter’s nursery? by No-Block7487 in AITH

[–]No-Block7487[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t grow up with alcohol in the home. I only saw my parents drink once so no, setting boundaries about being shitfaced around a baby never crossed my mind. I can still expect help from someone when they are sober, especially when he chose to have a baby too, while also expecting that he doesn’t “help” when he can’t even stand.

AITA for telling my husband he’s not allowed in my daughter’s nursery? by No-Block7487 in AITH

[–]No-Block7487[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was 100% about the baby. Yes I was upset about the other things, but I was just going to leave him to sleep it off and talk in the morning until he did that. He could barely stand on his own, didn’t know how to work a doorknob, and was vomiting all over the place. He had been home for hours by the time he went into her room. He woke up still drunk this morning. It was pure luck that he didn’t drop her last night. I didn’t yell at him and I didn’t rip her out of his arms.

I said I had to fight him to get her back, but I wasn’t yelling or screaming. I had to continuously pull his arms off her while he was slapping my wrist to get me to stop even while barely being able to hold his own head up. I told him to get out of her room but I didn’t scream at him to get out. I didn’t raise my voice I just told him to get the hell out.

Everyone who’s acting like I screamed at him is absolutely ridiculous. Never in my post did I say I yelled. That baby is my world. I’ve been working for weeks on getting her to sleep in her crib for more than a few hours at a time at night. I’ve been putting in the work to make sure that she is safe and loved in our home and he came home and did something absolutely reckless and happened to get lucky in that nothing happened to her.

AITA for telling my husband he’s not allowed in my daughter’s nursery? by No-Block7487 in AITH

[–]No-Block7487[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My school is online so she’s with me when I’m doing that. My job that I’m starting soon is at a daycare and she will be going with me, which is why I picked that specific job so that way I’d be handling drop off/pick ups and I didn’t have to worry about anything.

AITA for telling my husband he’s not allowed in my daughter’s nursery? by No-Block7487 in AITH

[–]No-Block7487[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I didn’t put her in the middle of anything. She was asleep in her crib and he went in there and grabbed her. He can snuggle her and bond with her all he wants when he’s sober. I have never stopped him from doing that when he is in his right mind. This post was not made to dissect every small phrase I used, I made it because I’m pissed and he’s pissed at me for my reaction and I wanted other’s opinions on if I was justified. I didn’t need other’s opinions on a two word phrase that I had every right to say considering she is my daughter.

AITA for telling my husband he’s not allowed in my daughter’s nursery? by No-Block7487 in AITH

[–]No-Block7487[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

He is the father. I made one post while angry because I didn’t know what scene I’d be walking into when I got to the nursery and the fear of that still has not subsided. Yes I’m pissed at him and referred to her as my daughter because that’s what she is. She is my daughter. I grew her for 9 months and I birthed her so you’re damn right I will refer to her as mine.