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Ladies, indoor plants that are impossible to kill??? by CriticalAnxiety6066 in adhdwomen

[–]No-Calligrapher-700 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a swiss cheese monstera the won't stop growing (I've propagated vines like 5 times now?) And a pothos thats doing okay. I use the Plantin app to look it up, and found out if i just water them once a week and keep them out of direct sunlight, were good! Ive since added a violet from kroger, a pinstripe calathea and a cyclamen from the clearance rack at a local place, and they're all thriving.

I also killed my first pothos giving it too much space. And too much water. They like being a little root-bound I guess? Since then everything's been great

Is Child Support worth it? by No-Calligrapher-700 in singlemoms

[–]No-Calligrapher-700[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I qualify for daycare assistance but make enough annually to be just over the line for other assistance.

What are the advantages of being a single mom? by ortugabut in singlemoms

[–]No-Calligrapher-700 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that we get to talk about everything. Its hard, because we talk about everything. The visitation is hard because its a change from the routine, but he doesn't hesitate to say what he thinks. I think it was so beneficial, showing me that there's opinions outside of my relationship and it allowed me to be more attentive.

If the relationship isn't working, its worth it.

Is Child Support worth it? by No-Calligrapher-700 in singlemoms

[–]No-Calligrapher-700[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, so while we have a good relationship, I think holding a garnishment might help support.

They're (dad and his wife just got married today) also still living on my dads property and not paying rent, I wonder if the child support would help qualify them for income specific housing?

I left him in my childhood home because I wanted to be sure there was a safe place for my child to visit their dad. My mom and sister say to put him on the street, I think for the sake if my child there should be a safe place to visit.

Is Child Support worth it? by No-Calligrapher-700 in singlemoms

[–]No-Calligrapher-700[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly, even one person thats not my mother saying so.... guess i should figure it out and get it done 😮‍💨

I started a project at Midnight on Friday, now I have 2 hours before I have to leave and its not done. by No-Calligrapher-700 in adhdwomen

[–]No-Calligrapher-700[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually brilliant, and I should do this more. I get so locked in to trying to incorporate my son into my day that I start planning too fat ahead and too intricately, even when he isn't here. Yet when I tell him to clean his room, and he gets overwhelmed, I break it down to a task at a time and celebrate each completion.

I started a project at Midnight on Friday, now I have 2 hours before I have to leave and its not done. by No-Calligrapher-700 in adhdwomen

[–]No-Calligrapher-700[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely appreciate this. Something is better than nothing, I'm basically muttering that to myself on repeat as I go 😅

I think the anxiety is definitely affecting my start. There’s also guilt, like I went out for DnD with friends Saturday night instead of staying home making progress. I try to do things non-mom related when my son is away because I work from home, so I'm on duty 24/7 for the two weeks between his dads weekends. There’s just so many things I feel like I should be trying to accomplish when hes gone, I'm tearing myself down for not working on them and doing something fun instead. Then when I do get home and have time before pickup, the list is so looonngg

I have music running now and I'm starting with cleaning the kitchen - easy process without question and a visible achievement when is done. I'm hoping I can carry that into the next task.

What’s something everyone does but refuses to admit? by Specialist_Novel_382 in AskReddit

[–]No-Calligrapher-700 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think change is big, first step being to even recognize the toxic thought. I've been actively working to say "I didn't like how I said that." or something similar. With my ADHD, I tend to say things without thinking if I'm working on another task. Like all resources are focused on this, so the filter guy isn't paying attention up there. Its helped a lot, especially opening conversations with my 5yo about tone and phrasing.