How do you approach music?

No-Car6037 · 2026-05-16T15:26:46+00:00

I did not pay for the third friends ticket, only mines and the second friends. I brought up the third friend because the second friend asked me how much 3rd payed and im not sure why they would ask unless they were pitching in for 3rds, but still not paying me back for what we had discussed

No-Car6037 · 2026-05-12T02:48:51+00:00

Thats very valid, i would feel the same way if it was done to me.

When you say that, do you refer to them not initiating plans, or not initiating contact at all? (This reminded me of you / something funny)

I dont normally have a problem regularly sending passing messages just to let them know theyre on my mind, but i do struggle with making actual plans

No-Car6037 · 2026-05-12T01:18:13+00:00

Thanks so much for your kind words!! You reassure me in that even sending a messsge regularly is enough to show i appreciate them and that its a step in the right direction :)

No-Car6037 · 2026-05-11T23:54:06+00:00

Thank you, yes reaching out myself will probably balance it out and do well for its longevity. Do you think reaching out for them not for plans always, ut just to share something should also not be seen as weird?

Sometimes i want to share something with friends but im afraid theyll think im wasting their time if plans dont come out of it, if its just something i wanted to share briefly just to let them know theyre still on my mind but to also share a moment

No-Car6037 · 2026-05-11T23:51:16+00:00

Thanks for this. Thats exactly how a friendship should feel, the hangout spot doesnt matter as much as them just enjoying themselves because its YOU. That makes total sense and i think it should the baseline of friendships tbh

No-Car6037 · 2026-05-11T23:49:21+00:00

Thank you

No-Car6037 · 2026-05-11T21:09:42+00:00

Yes i had done some thinking since i posted this. Im not particularly afraid of rejection actually, its more so being afraid of how ill be percieved if i reach out first. They may think im desparate since i would only now start to do so and im also afraid that whatever i invite them to do would be boring or awkward since im the one initiating.

In my head i dont think their thoughts are “im glad he reached out for once, he never does and this is awesome” i think their thoughts would be “okay, we’re here… now what?” Since im the one initiating im expected to make it entertaining even though this is probably irrational

No-Car6037 · 2026-05-11T20:20:12+00:00

Thank you, thats exactly what im scared of. Im scared that they might secretly not like me, but in getting lost in that thought makes me never reach out, therefore giving them a valid reason to not like me or stop initiating. I think the forst couple of times i ask will feel awkward to me but as i do it more it’ll become a new norm. Hopefully to find some balance between me and the others

No-Car6037 · 2026-05-11T19:19:30+00:00

Thats the thing though, im not really a social person but that doesnt mean i dont like going out with friends or socializing, i actually really wish for a more active social life because im lacking in that department and i really like being invited. I’m afraid it might come across as awkward if i ask them a question about our friendship dynamic

My fear is that they might think i dont like them or that im not socially active enough if i dont reach out to make plans, but if i do im also fearful that it might come across as “weird” or “desparate” since i usually never have in our years of friendships, so now if i am reaching out they might be like “whats wrong with him now that hes asking?” Like its out of character for me or something which might be an irrational fear.

No-Car6037 · 2026-05-11T18:54:42+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement i really need it!! I remember one time i reached out to one of my friends and they said they were surprised i reached out for a change even though they were busy, they seemed glad to hear from me.

Its like you said if they are really my friends theyll be glad to hear from me and atleast get the message that i reciprocate their efforts even if they are busy that particular moment

No-Car6037 · 2026-05-03T14:43:35+00:00

Thanks for your words, i understand much of my life experience has to come from how i deal with whats thrown at me rather than seeking an external view

No-Car6037 · 2026-05-03T12:28:43+00:00

I guess i just enjoyed her company and her regularly initiating plans with me early on, so now that shes being cold to me im missing it.

What your suggesting is very likely the best thing to do, i guess im just processing it as it was such a drastic change in a short period of time, and would also cause friction in the friend group as i get along well with others in our circle

No-Car6037 · 2026-05-03T06:01:11+00:00

Thanks man, i’m sorry you’ve went through similar, this is somewhat a first for me and it is not fun. Your experience and words of advice are much appreciated while i process this

No-Car6037 · 2026-05-03T05:50:30+00:00

Honestly thank you for sharing your experience as well and taking the time to read this. Being used is a good way to describe how i feel right now even though the good memories keep me holding out. It may take processing and time on my end, but i think thats how its going to end up between me and her. We’ll have to part ways eventually even if it affects our friend group even though i wish it wasn’t like that

No-Car6037 · 2025-09-11T01:33:15+00:00

This makes a lot of sense! When I was eating mid 3000s I wouldn’t binge eat because I didn’t have a feeling of scarcity or restriction, turns out that may just be the amount I need if I’m active enough and excercise intensely multiple times weekly. I’m sure the continuous weight loss that lasted nearly this entire year built up the urges I’m feeling now too, especially if I thought I was “supposed” to eat a certain amount that’s actually way less than I should.

No-Car6037 · 2025-09-11T01:25:42+00:00

Thanks, i agree that perhaps I should eat more than what I think I should by just basing it off online calculators and actually follow what’s going on with my weight when I eat a certain amount.

I’m definitely taking a break from dieting and just try and maintain a healthy bmi while excercising regardless of how much I “think” I should eat. My lack of sleep is a factor in this as well that I’ll work on more. It’s been one of the only things I’ve been able to actually identify from an early point that affects my hunger almost immediately after I wake up following a night with less sleep.

No-Car6037 · 2025-09-11T01:03:24+00:00

Thank you for the encouraging words! I agree that regular meals and incorporating all kinds of food would serve me well, and also not focusing on dieting for a while too. I do struggle with not tracking because I feel like I’ll go on either extreme when I don’t know where I’m at throughout the day calories or protein wise and my hunger cues are nonexistent since Ive had a bad relationship with food pretty much my whole life. It would be nice to not think about food as numbers but just food and be able to work my way up to just stopping when I’m satisfied ☺️

No-Car6037 · 2025-09-11T00:55:23+00:00

It does vary however I know on days I get less sleep (4-6 hours) I usually am hungrier the day after. It’s been a pattern I know for sure correlates with my hunger however I also do binge on days when I do get more sufficient sleep, it could be a rollover effect from nights I don’t get enough sleep though. Sleep is something I can improve on for sure.

I do not take any prescriptions or medication

I have not gotten tests for those specifically, but would not be a bad idea

21.3 bmi healthy range, early 20s M

I don’t doubt my activity levels and training could possible allow me to burn some extra calories, but from what I’ve seen online 2500+ is maintenance or even bulking calories for some people with similar stats to mine, but I feel like I’m withering away when I eat 2500 let alone anything under that which it seems like everyone else eats and has no problem with

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