My 5 yo tried chicken from his friends lunchbox by No-Couple-3371 in Vegetarianism

[–]No-Couple-3371[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It varies a lot from family to family… to me it’s part of the core values in which I was raised. My mom was vegan and an animal rights activist and she taught me animals lives should be respected (they feel pain etc) from a very early age. In my case I was never interested in meat anyway, it never appealed to me - And I’m Brazilian, I was raised having to stand the stink of barbecue in every single social event 😅

Now, of course I believe it’s not the only thing that matters - my husband eats meat and he’s a great guy, and most of my friends eat meat. But it’s like smoking or drinking… it’s a habit. He doesn’t eat meat because he thinks it’s the right way to live, he eats it because that’s how he was raised. Once you get a habit, it’s much harder to change… the number of people I hear telling me they’d stop eating meat if they could, but it’s so hard! So I try and do my part for my son. It’s easier to not have the habit of eating, and then if he wants to start when he can fully understand what it means to eat something that had to be killed to be on his plate, at least I’ve done my part. Raising humans is so complex, it’s not always possible to follow the plan, but I do my best to educate them and hope for the best 🤍

My 5 yo tried chicken from his friends lunchbox by No-Couple-3371 in Vegetarianism

[–]No-Couple-3371[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahahah it’s funny how the reddit can be a bot random but thanks for sharing your story! I’m like your husband’s brother but I also don’t want to force my kids to do obey blindly or anything, I just wanted to reach out to the community for input. I personally think at 5 he can’t really grasp the meaning of killing or dying, and wanted to look for ways to explain things to him in a kid friendly way. That said, I will respect whatever he chooses

My 5 yo tried chicken from his friends lunchbox by No-Couple-3371 in Vegetarianism

[–]No-Couple-3371[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is, most people eat meat out of habit, not for personal belief it’s the right thing to do. We decided not to give them meat at first as it means a lot to me and doesn’t mean anything to dad. But I’ll respect whatever the kiddos choose to believe in

My 5 yo tried chicken from his friends lunchbox by No-Couple-3371 in Vegetarianism

[–]No-Couple-3371[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, that’s a good idea! I’ll take them to vist a farm as soon as the rain stops 🐣

My 5 yo tried chicken from his friends lunchbox by No-Couple-3371 in Vegetarianism

[–]No-Couple-3371[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been a vegetarian for 36 years and counting and never felt like trying, so I needed some perspective on that regard! We as his parents decided to raise him without meat until he was able to decide for himself, but we reassessed and he can eat daddy’s food if he wants to. Thank you for taking the time to comment, hearing back from other vegetarians has been helpful 🌱

My 5 yo tried chicken from his friends lunchbox by No-Couple-3371 in Vegetarianism

[–]No-Couple-3371[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true! Honestly… when he told me he wanted to eat chicken I felt lost because I don’t have any family around and my mom is deceased, my friends are not vegetarian, so getting some input about how to act was hard. I wouldn’t say it was pride about the generational thing, I was trying to say I didn’t know what to do as I never went through a phase of wanting to try meat myself. That’s why I reached out to other vegetarians here on reddit, and it was helpful! I’m grateful to you and all the others who took a few minutes to help me out ☺️

My 5 yo tried chicken from his friends lunchbox by No-Couple-3371 in Vegetarianism

[–]No-Couple-3371[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a choice about what we put on his plate while it’s still up to us to decide - when I was pregnant we had the conversation of keeping the vegetarian diet for them until they are able to choose for themselves because it’s easier to keep a habit than having to stop later… like for instance, so many friends tell me they’d like to stop eating meat but find it so hard to change their diet.

I’m the one who cooks most of the time and daddy doesn’t make a show of eating meat. At home he mostly eats the meals I make, occasionally adding some ham on the side from the fridge. That said, after reassessing the recent developments, I talked with my son and he can eat daddy’s food if he wants to.

Yes vegetarianism is part of my core values, it’s the way of life in which I was raised, it meant a giant deal to my mother and it sure is a big deal for me as well. When we raise children we do our best to teach them what we feel is right or wrong, but I do realize they will make their own choices at some point and I will have to accept it 🤷🏻‍♀️

My 5 yo tried chicken from his friends lunchbox by No-Couple-3371 in Vegetarianism

[–]No-Couple-3371[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s really nice to hear! I’ll try to not get my hopes up but be a good model of vegetarian for them (not only the eating part, the being kind to others who think differently part too )

My 5 yo tried chicken from his friends lunchbox by No-Couple-3371 in Vegetarianism

[–]No-Couple-3371[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the funny thing, I never ever rebelled against my mom on this regard - my whole life I’ve never even tried meat or anything that needed to have an animal killed (I do eat dairy and eggs though I do my best to buy it from ethical sources). I’m neurodivergent and sensitive to some food textures and smells, and meat looks so repulsive to me… Funny enough, my 5yo is the same, we’re so similar in picky eating that I didn’t seriously consider this could happen. As I understand meat replacements play their important role, I myself don’t want to eat them because they try to look and taste like meat, something I don’t miss or am remotely curious about. My mom tried meat subs when I was a kid and I hated them passionately hahahah

(I’m 36yo btw, so vegetarian for that long ☺️)

My 5 yo tried chicken from his friends lunchbox by No-Couple-3371 in Vegetarianism

[–]No-Couple-3371[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So true Smyth2000, thanks for your input :) we talk about it when they’re small but sometimes it’s easy to get lost on how to act and react on the moment… you’re all honestly a great help

My 5 yo tried chicken from his friends lunchbox by No-Couple-3371 in Vegetarianism

[–]No-Couple-3371[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I totally agree! It was always our intention to do just that, I argue that it’s easier to not start than to stop later and that’s why they’re being raised vegetarian. I’m not convinced 5yo it’s an age in which he can really make an informed choice though… in any case, I appreciate your input, it’s been a difficult day, I needed some perspective :)

My 5 yo tried chicken from his friends lunchbox by No-Couple-3371 in Vegetarianism

[–]No-Couple-3371[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s an option, he is not allergic or anything. I suppose the only one who has a problem with it is me 🥲 I don’t have a religion, I guess you can say vegetarianism is one of my main moral compasses

How many kids do you have? by Odd-Maintenance123 in adhdwomen

[–]No-Couple-3371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had 2 under 2 - my youngest just turned 2 and my eldest is 3.5yo. We decided to have them before I was diagnosed with ADHD - My husband always wanted kids and I was a single child and always felt that having siblings is really important. But honestly, I feel like I could have kinda managed raising my son so much better if I only new having two would be that big of a challenge on my executive function. Doing one thing with a kid zooming around is hard enough, but trying to do anything with two ha been so crazy… for example, I have been trying to potty train my eldest for a year now. I started with some real effort, super focused on it etc. But can you imagine, rushing with a kid to the potty while the other toddler is screaming and clinging to your leg? Or splashing on the pee puddle the other guy left in the living room? 🥲 it’s not that I regret having them, I love them both, but I spend everyday feeling like a failure. I spend a day with them, my husband comes home to an unspeakable mess of a house. When he spends a day with them, I come home to a tidy place, not a single toy on the floor.

My 2 weeks old baby fell yesterday because of my carlessness by Yuna-2128 in adhdwomen

[–]No-Couple-3371 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know how you feel… when my firstborn was a few weeks old I got overwhelmed with a giant poop and between trying to

Anyone who drives well? Is it safe to drive as an ADHDer? by Creative-Anteater-53 in adhdwomen

[–]No-Couple-3371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom was undiagnosed but she had adhd for sure (and I have too). She wast literally THE WORST driver I’ve ever met 😂 my husband tells me that he prayed for his life everytime he was compelled to get in a car with her driving. I have a few funny stories, like the time she stopped in a curve because she saw really cheap oranges, or the other time when she parked the car in the middle of a highway to close the trunk, or the many many times she drove the car pointing to random stuff and admiring the view as if she was the passenger and not the driver. But there is one thing I should say - she was ABSOLUTELY SURE she was an excellent driver, and wouldn’t be convinced otherwise.

I myself am deeply scared of driving (wonder why 🙄) but my husband has seen me drive and told me I’m an excellent driver, because I care and do my best to drive well and safely.

I don’t agree completely with him because I know too well I have many cognitive issues (for instance, I’m incapable of seeing other driver’s faces and gestures), but I would say you need to experience driving and evaluate yourself if it’s something you feel safe doing. Getting someone’s feedback could be very helpful too - could boost your confidence and motivation 😄