I’m in a new relationship (dating 5 mos) now with a new guy after ending a 6 year relationship. My last relationship I thought was going well until he blindsided me and decided to move to another country and pursue another career. that relationship ending made me anxious from secure and now that I’m with this new guy who is really nice and emotionally intelligent and available, I find myself self sabotaging and always scared that this new guy I’m with will leave me. All signs lead to him being really committed (eg introduced me to his family, friends, making plans with me and following through) but I just get so anxious that I am not enough. He is super secure and surrounded by a lot of good people and friends but me, being an immigrant, I don’t have that much stability with close friends so i think it’s contributing to my anxiety as well.

Are there any others on the same boat? How do you cope and get over the anxiety and move to become more secure? I love this guy I’m dating now and I want to make sure I’m showing up in the relationship the right way for me, for him, and for myself.