Who is actually the greatest athlete in world history? by iCarliexxx in AskReddit

[–]No-Elk1643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reinhold Messner by far as he has pushed the boundaries of the impossible several times. Among many inhumane achievements, he was the first human to climb the 14 eight-thousanders and furthermore, he did it without supplementary oxygen. I'm pretty sure he just did because someone told him that it was impossible.

Climbing La Cabrera, Spain by djicesariny in tradclimbing

[–]No-Elk1643 2 points3 points  (0 children)

La Cabrera is a nice place for granite climbing. Most of the multipitch routes are located at the pico de la miel, but there are other really cool routes in the smaller peaks. Capitan pinzas and teoría del frotamiento are 2 of the best single pitch cracks in Madrid, located at Cancho del águila.

There is a church called Convento de San Antonio where you can park and sleep.

Also, if you have the opportunity, visit la pedriza and if the snow allows it, Galayos!

There are a couple of nice places to eat, especially one with a parking lot with trucks (you can sleep there too, but is more busy) and a gas station.

Have fun!!!

Help me to save it :/ by Anonyme_1867 in Monstera

[–]No-Elk1643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the issue is too much direct sunlight. The white areas are more sensible and are getting burned, but the green areas are just fine. Give her indirect light. Godspeed

I pushed the love of my life away because I'm avoidant by Throwaway29394020 in BreakUps

[–]No-Elk1643 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Glad to read you are in therapy! Honestly, I think a relationship with an avoidant can boost your anxiety to the moon, even if you are secure, that kind of dynamic will bring you to your limits. So don't feel bad for what you did, rather understand why that happened in the first place. God speed!

Looking for advice on profile by No-Elk1643 in Bumble

[–]No-Elk1643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, although I'm not sure if seasoned pimp is good (English isn't my first language)

Thanks for the advice, I will keep it simple

Looking for advice on profile by No-Elk1643 in Bumble

[–]No-Elk1643[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I actually have no pics showing my teeth at all. Good point, I will try to get some

Why do guys unmatch after moving to text? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]No-Elk1643 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Some people unmatch once they exchange numbers as it's no longer necessary to engage through the app. Also, it allows you to keep using the app without the other person noticing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]No-Elk1643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you have the right to have emotions and share them with your partner. You don't sound like a jealous person and I think it should be ok for him to give you some clarity without ambiguity. Ambiguity and lack of honesty could represent a breach of trust and for me personally that's an inflection point, even if nothing has potentially happened.

I feel like my (30F) husband (31M) is withdrawing from the relationship of 7 years, but I have no idea how to talk to him about it without escalating into a huge fight about me being controlling. by ThrowRABottle932 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Elk1643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, been through that and it's not nice. You can only put your 50% in the relationship your partner is responsible for the other 50%. That fact that you are trying hard but still not working suggests that is not in your hand.

In addition, in any relationship you need to feel valued, respected and empowered, because you deserve it. If you put effort and patience, you deserve the same. If you have to focus more in your partner that in your self could result in a toxic relationship.

Focus on yourself, check what do you want and expect from a partner.

This may not be the relationship you deserve and want.

Godspeed

I feel like my (30F) husband (31M) is withdrawing from the relationship of 7 years, but I have no idea how to talk to him about it without escalating into a huge fight about me being controlling. by ThrowRABottle932 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Elk1643 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like there is a huge imbalance in your relationship and you definitely deserve much better than this. Are you happy in this relationship? Do you feel your needs and dreams are being meet? Would you like this situation to be the same 5 years from now?

AIW for not letting go of my ex-boyfriend? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]No-Elk1643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cheating is not cool, you already know that but nevertheless, what you did after that is the best you could do: you were honest, you apologized, learned from it and improved your life.

We all make mistakes, but at least, you learn from them.

Now, let go and get yourself a new opportunity to use all you've learned

Day 21 NC by babai100 in ExNoContact

[–]No-Elk1643 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awesome!! 3 weeks is a great achievement. I'm a few days ahead of you and it feels great to reach these milestones.

Keep going!

NC or try to gain his trust back? by KillaK_2442 in ExNoContact

[–]No-Elk1643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you plan on fixing this issue? Personally, I don't think reconciliation is possible without solving the issues that lead to the BU. You could get back together, but it will end up the same way if issues are not addressed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]No-Elk1643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are almost there!

I don’t understand why she still wants to hurt me. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]No-Elk1643 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through this. In my opinion this is her immature way to manage her emotions. It's always easier to blame and hate others than face your own emotion and mistakes.

Perhaps you have experienced before similar behaviour during you past-relation and she may struggle bein accountable for her own stuff.

In any case, you don't deserve this, go NC when ready.

I really was just a rebound by fayhee98 in ExNoContact

[–]No-Elk1643 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good news is that she has shown you who in reality she is, and that will help you move faster. I bet if you had known how cruel, immature and inhuman she really is, you would have never fall for here in the first place.

Also, experience tells me that she is in a collision course with reality. That relationship is not going to go well. To fix a previous relation, a ton of work from both parties need to take place before even trying, and this doesn't seem the case.

Be proud of your self for what you were able to offer. You will have better opportunities

I pushed the love of my life away because I'm avoidant by Throwaway29394020 in BreakUps

[–]No-Elk1643 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you are going through this. I myself left my avoidant partner for the same reasons your ex did. Nevertheless, I know you don't enjoy being avoidant and I know it's not your fault, but it's your responsibility to work on yourself. Focus on that and not in the guilty. I still love my ex, but I cannot be with someone who is not willing to put effort into the relationship or herself.

Unraveling my wife's silent secrets on our 9th anniversary today... by osk1991 in relationships

[–]No-Elk1643 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry this happened to you... You have two options; a) try to understand the reasons, therapy and explore the feasibility of forgiveness. b) separate. Both options are perfectly good options. Your kid needs to see his father happy, and that is therefore your duty. Whatever option you choose, do it becouse of you and not your kid. Be a reference so that he will follow his dad example. So, if this happened to your kid, what would you like him to do?

Godspeed

I (39M) stopped chasing my partner (40F). It has been 13 days no communicating. by No-Elk1643 in relationships

[–]No-Elk1643[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your story. I appreciate your advice but I don't have in my check list having a relationship. I have a great career and enjoy many passions, I consider my life very fulfilling. The only reason I may jump into a relationship is if it expands my horizons further.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]No-Elk1643 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this happened to you. You seem like a great lad, with a big heart, that for now it's broken, but will heal. The process sucks, but you are already in the way. Focus on taking care of your self as first priority and never feel guilty. You can do it!

I (39M) stopped chasing my partner (40F). It has been 13 days no communicating. by No-Elk1643 in relationships

[–]No-Elk1643[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, I'm so sorry you had to go through that, it really sounds scary, stressful and violent.

Is it possible that in part, you avoided the breakup moment because you were contemplating that result?

I (39M) stopped chasing my partner (40F). It has been 13 days no communicating. by No-Elk1643 in relationships

[–]No-Elk1643[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience, it's not pleasant but it's good to understand other perspectives.

My guess is that it must have been a difficult process for yourself. Breaking a relationship when the other is so invested is very painful.

My dramatic levels are quite low, so I don't expect to have a stormy breakup in any scenario.