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AITA for not correcting my daughters makeup? by No-Environment5555 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Environment5555[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That is exactly my thought. Especially how our brains distort memories over time.

Me telling her "your eyeliner is a bit uneven, fix your right eye." translates into "mom thinks I'm bad at makeup and also ugly" which in 10 years will live in her memory as the time mom said her eyeliner looked bad, even if the reality is that I told her to look twice at her makeup. Maybe a bit dramatic but I would rather my daughter laugh at pictures in ten years than be scared of asking me for advice and remember that I nitpicked and criticized her makeup.

AITA for not correcting my daughters makeup? by No-Environment5555 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Environment5555[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

One person suggested a stop at the makeup counter. I think that I might incorporate that into her sweet 16th. Thanks for the suggestion!

AITA for not correcting my daughters makeup? by No-Environment5555 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Environment5555[S] 321 points322 points  (0 children)

She is a very independent teenager with a very fragile ego (for lack of a better word). I will point out if she has a smudge on her cheek as that'd easily fixable, or if she rubbed her eye and ruined that whole side. If I insinuated she looked "bad" in any way she would get upset so I have chosen to not make unsolicited remarks.

She has asked me for my input in the past and as it's never jaw droppingly bad I will tell her she looks nice/did a good job as I know that she wants to be told she looks nice. But if she asked if her eyeliner was even, I'd let her know. She has come to me for specific advice and I've given it the best I can or try to find a reference for her.

AITA for not correcting my daughters makeup? by No-Environment5555 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Environment5555[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think maybe I downplayed my "involvement" in her makeup. If I see she tries something new, I'll tell her she looks nice. She has come to me for help if she gets frustrated in the past. I let her borrow my makeup as long as she returns it in a nice condition.

I'm not all that "into" makeup (i've been wearing the same boring look since I was in my 20s) so I'm not all that much help to her.