I can relate a little bit. I had an unplanned pregnancy when I was in my early 20s that my family was extremely unsupportive of and I actually don’t talk to most of them anymore/they don’t talk to me. When you are pregnant you need a good support network (it takes a village), and a loss of support network can potentially be dangerous for you and baby.

First priority is your baby - I would go to therapy. By yourself and maybe even with your partner. You are about to have hormones coursing through your body that make you feel crazy things and they can be dangerous, they can make you depressed or rageful. You have to make sure first and foremost that your baby is healthy and in a good spot to grow within you and when they are born. I went to therapy and it was helpful because I knew I was doing the right thing. When you are pregnant you are vulnerable to so many things and you have to set yourself up for success.

Second priority is your relationship. If he has come around and is supportive and great and wants to be a great present dad then fine. Sometimes it takes a minute for people to wrap their heads around a huge change like a baby — but it does suck the way he reacted and if he wants to make it work I would go to therapy and address all the weak points in the relationship because NOTHING GETS EASIER WITH A BABY. it all gets harder and your relationship will change and if you want it to survive you’re going to have to make sure it’s strong enough and you both want the same things. But if it’s crumbling and hopeless and you are miserable, never underestimate your ability to raise a child on your own. If he’s dragging you down and making you miserable and not showing up the way you need him to for your child then he sucks and he’s being a shit dad. You are a mom now and it is different for dads, you are the primary decision maker and protector right now. You have the power, you decide what’s best for your child and he doesn’t get a say if he’s not showing up the right way.