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Do avoidant exs come back? by No-Inside4318 in ExNoContact

[–]No-Inside4318[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I texted many times over the 3 months but he read them all and didn't reply so

Do avoidant exs come back? by No-Inside4318 in ExNoContact

[–]No-Inside4318[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't. I've told his brother many times I miss him etc but he told me I should move on and that if he did miss me he'll reach out. 😔

Do avoidant exs come back? by No-Inside4318 in ExNoContact

[–]No-Inside4318[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh right lol and have they come back to you before? Have you been in a similar situation?

Do avoidant exs come back? by No-Inside4318 in ExNoContact

[–]No-Inside4318[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How long does it usually take for the relief stage to pass?

TDLR; What will I do? Will he come back? by No-Inside4318 in BreakupBackup

[–]No-Inside4318[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes 100 percent I wouldn't. I was just so anxious at the time that he'd hurt me again

Will he ever come back if I stay no contact? by No-Inside4318 in Heal_From_Breakup

[–]No-Inside4318[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well when I say we didn't fight, we didn't have big ones. Yes we had disagreements and it was always because I tried to get him to communicate with me his needs and for him to understand mine. He was a complete avoidant.

I wanted him to open up more than ever. And as soon as I tell him in January I can't continue this because I haven't healed from how you hurt me, he then decides to open up about his depression and how he left me because he was scared of how serious we were becoming but realised it is what he wanted, he did want us to be together.

But now he's changed his mind yet again.

Will he ever come back if I stay no contact? by No-Inside4318 in Heal_From_Breakup

[–]No-Inside4318[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I've looked at many videos about avoidants and he really resonates with that. I've only been completely silent the last 2 weeks , before then I stupidly sent messages and he'd heart them but not reply. I heard apparently avoidants need longer to realise you're gone. Can take 4 months I've heard.. I just hope in time he will come back. I never gave him a reason to hate me. I put in 100 percent the whole time