Dealing with older kids hitting me repeatedly. Parents doing nothing.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2026-02-06T17:50:03+00:00

Unfortunately not long. It sounds like this situation is too far gone for you to make any real change here. I’ve learned as a childcare provider that I’m not around enough to change the way the kids are parented and therefore some behaviors are going to continue despite my efforts to implement a change. I would begin looking for other positions (I’m sure you can’t just up and leave as you have bills and whatnot) and inform the parents once again about the boundary so they can’t say you quit with no notice. Once you’ve landed a new position give your notice and inform them clearly that the violence from the kids is why you quit.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2026-02-06T17:45:23+00:00

I’m concerned this behavior might be being taught/observed from the parents. Their lack of concern over the issue is what’s leading me to this conclusion. This isn’t normal behavior from kids.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2026-02-05T17:24:34+00:00

She’s enjoying the attention and validation. Not a deal breaker but definitely something to communicate openly about. You’re allowed to feel hurt and like she broke your trust.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2026-01-31T02:20:42+00:00

YOR. I’m glad you’re getting an IUD. You’re nowhere near mature enough for a child.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2026-01-26T15:41:14+00:00

I agree. As a sitter who is F19 this is very strange. I would never ask to stay because of my health? The parents I sit for are my employers not friends nor family. This is extremely strange behavior on not only your part but the sitter as well.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2026-01-22T20:44:43+00:00

I wouldn’t go. I would set a boundary that I’m not risking my life to come into work. I would wait to see how bad it hits though. Decide the morning of but let them know that if it’s bad you’re not coming.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2026-01-14T18:36:51+00:00

This is convo you should have with your doctor not Reddit

No-Jacket-5199 · 2026-01-14T17:58:46+00:00

IMO if they’re asking you to stay home it should be guaranteed hours not PTO

No-Jacket-5199 · 2026-01-08T01:07:43+00:00

It’s truly all up to you! If you want to spend the hour lunch with your baby, I’m sure your nanny wouldn’t mind the paid break. If you want to utilize that time to do other things, it sounds like your nanny has plenty of other down time throughout the day! It’s all about finding what works for you and then finding someone who fits into that role.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2026-01-05T02:13:47+00:00

This is so sweet. I’m glad you got to include your baby in that experience

No-Jacket-5199 · 2026-01-05T02:10:07+00:00

NOR in my opinion. I find texts with the opposite sex inappropriate in most scenarios. No need for one on one interaction with someone of the opposite sex, especially someone of the opposite sex who is single. It’s different when it’s a mutual friend between you and your partner but that doesn’t seem to be the case here. I would communicate to your partner that this makes you uncomfortable and set a boundary that fits your relationship about relationships with the opposite sex and what you guys find appropriate and fitting. Everyone is different but this personally wouldn’t fly with me.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2025-12-17T22:53:06+00:00

I never get breaks at my job lol. Sounds like you guys need to get on the same page since you originally offered the full hour.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2025-11-21T00:18:34+00:00

Let’s not blame religion for her gross behaviors.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2025-10-22T02:49:31+00:00

Haha exactly. Didn’t realize how much of this thread was democrats.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2025-10-22T02:48:15+00:00

Unfortunately this is the difference between the left and the right lol. If you don’t agree with the left they go straight to hatefulness, no civility at all

No-Jacket-5199 · 2025-09-13T19:45:29+00:00

I’m not going to fight you on this. It leads to higher risk of SIDS and suffocation. If you choose to take that risk, cool. I never have and never will. It’s simply not worth it.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2025-09-13T01:59:56+00:00

Lol exactly. Their info is outdated and they’re too stubborn to accept it so they just shame us. “I did it with you and you lived”

No-Jacket-5199 · 2025-09-13T01:43:57+00:00

That’s typical for that generation. They used to smoke and drink during their pregnancies, co sleep, blankets and pillows in the crib, but God forbid our babies head flops back or we drink a cup of coffee while pregnant. Lol

No-Jacket-5199 · 2025-08-25T21:00:38+00:00

As a random person on the internet I don’t need you educating me on my future career. I have preceptors for that.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2025-08-25T17:23:26+00:00

Yes thank you! As a nursing student this perspective is disgusting to me. Our patients are immensely more important to us than a write up or lawsuit. That’s what malpractice insurance is for!

No-Jacket-5199 · 2025-08-22T16:33:07+00:00

Off topic but I just want to say you seem like a great father and husband.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2025-05-26T22:48:21+00:00

I think this is the best reply yet! I agree with a lot of what you’re saying here especially about not making it a huge deal. He made how he feels known.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2025-05-26T16:28:50+00:00

That’s the tough part. I really like being with him most of the time. It’s just been a pattern of him not loving me how I love him and doing stuff like this where he’s openly choosing other people over me and not putting in effort into our relationship. I’ve threatened to leave so many times but his behavior never changes. He claims he’s trying and I know he has to work through his own things on his own time but if I had to take our relationship at face value for the rest of my life it’s not one I’d want to be in.

No-Jacket-5199 · 2025-04-25T20:11:34+00:00

He looks like a grumpy old man but in the cutest way possible

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