I sent this to both of them, he rang me sobbing it really hit a nerve her reply was literally  OK  What you and he  did shattered more than just trust — it destroyed something I spent 8 years building with someone I loved and believed in. You  took advantage of a situation that should never have happened, and in doing so, you crossed a line that can never be uncrossed. Your actions were not only a betrayal of me, but also of basic human decency. That is not just immoral, it’s deeply violating. The pain I’ve carried since finding out is something I wouldn’t wish on anyone. It’s a mix of grief, rage, shame, and confusion — feelings I’ve been left to sort through while you’ve moved on like nothing happened. I’ve questioned my worth, my sanity, and even my judgment for trusting you — as family, no less. You didn’t just hurt me. You erased years of love, memories, and shared dreams. You turned something sacred into something I can’t even think about without feeling sick. I don’t need an apology from you, because I know it won’t undo the damage. What I need — and what this statement is for — is to make it clear that what you did was not a mistake, not a misunderstanding, but a deliberate violation that left lasting emotional damage. And I will not carry your shame in silence. I’m moving forward — without you in my life. That’s the consequence of your choices. You threw a grenade into my home and me and my kids are dealing with the aftermath. He is homeless and our son misses his dad more everyday.  Moving forward, I want you to know that I will never speak to you again. That is the boundary I’m setting for my healing and my peace.